TYOTG23 Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 (male, 17) At the beginning of the year this girl joined my school. We started talking and became good friends and I started liking her. At some point, I had a huge crush on her, so I asked her out (October). She hesitated a bit, but accepted. After that, I noticed she ignored me and avoided me a bit. In the end, we didn't go out and we stopped talking to each other. It continued like this for over a month until one day she suddenly (and I mean suddenly) started talking to me again and acting like we're good friends (and I'm pretty sure she knew I still had a crush on her). I still had feelings for her, so I told her how I feel (January/February). She said she wanted to give this a chance, but was afraid that what happened the last time would happen again (it wasn't very fun for her either). We had some problems afterwards, but everything is ok now and we're very good friends. The problem is - she is really confusing me. On the one hand, in addition to all that has happened, sometimes she is waving me off a little (I come and talk to her, she answers in one word and goes away, several times per day), although this rarely happens anymore. On the other hand, there were times she initiated most of our talks, she sometimes calls me "my love" and says she is better now that we're together, she is always asking ME if we're doing something today (I mean hanging out) and tries to organize parties with ME and she even invited me over to her place at 12AM. I know she seriously thinks I look good, although she is always joking when she says it (it is a private joke in my class (not 100% joke), everyone says I'm hot). I really don't know what to do/think. Is she manipulating me or something? What should I do now?
january2011 Posted May 7, 2012 Posted May 7, 2012 It's not clear if you're boyfriend/girlfriend. I suggest asking her out on a date and making it clear that it's a date. If she pulls away then either she's playing games or she really doesn't like you in that way.
Author TYOTG23 Posted May 7, 2012 Author Posted May 7, 2012 We are not boyfriend/girlfriend, and that is clear to me and to her. I asked her on a date and made it clear it was a date.. she hesitated a bit (pressure in school, she was new in school and didn't want to argue with other girls (at least one girl had a crush on me), bad experience she had although she was never in a relationship), but she accepted so I don't really know what she thinks of me. I know she didn't accept because she didn't want to hurt me, I heard of at least 3 guys who asked her out and she refused, so she at least considered it. I really don't know what she thinks of me but I know it's new to her all this relationship and feelings thing, so maybe she doesn't know herself, but I'm not sure on that either...
january2011 Posted May 7, 2012 Posted May 7, 2012 She may not know and therefore she may not be able to tell you. Take it slowly. Keep asking her out on dates and see where it takes you. Be honest about your feelings to yourselves and with each other. Try to steer clear of playing games.
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