What does a broken heart feel like?

[Sing]

What does a broken heart feel like?

 

He contacted me yesterday, three days after the break up and he was begging me to be his friend, i told him no and then he asked if id just add him on facebook and i said no.. i think what hes asking for is selfish after leaving me for someone else.

Later that night i convinced myself i felt nothing and it was only friends i wanted, that lasted about 15 minutes then i told him i couldnt do it.. he then tried to put all the blame on me and i told him i owe him nothing, he left me for someone else.

 

He told me he had been uphappy for a long time and that he feels nothing for me, if thats true when i tried to leave him because he wasnt treating the relationship with respect.. why did he beg me back. Why was it that even just 2 weeks ago we were together and we were so in love.

 

Why does it hurt so much? Theres pains in my chest.

I feel depressed and empty inside but im not going to sink so slow to agree to friends just keep him in my life.

I keep crying because i keep thinking about him and how good we were, i dont understand how it went from good to bad so quick.

[Chrisal23]

Woah! honestly it's so shocking how low people can go. I'm referring to him ofcourse. Honestly you need him out of your life, he is being selfish, uncarring , and rude. First of all he shoudln't get mad if you don't want to be friends with him. He left you for someone else, and he wants you on the side as well? No. You're worth so much more than second place. Ignore this guy and don't answer his texts or calls. It's normal for you to feel sad, I mean you felt something for this guy and put honest feelings while he didn't. It's hard I know , I'm actually on the same side as you, my ex gf left me. As hard as it may seem go NC and move one because he will only keep hurting you. Some days you will be so-so and other days you will feel really down , but when you do just post on here and let other's opninion cheer you up until you can finally move on and meet someone who will treat you so much better, and wouldn't want to leave your side.

[Feelin Frisky]

I can only answer for myself and Face Book drama would not figure in my definition. A broken heart is a crushing realization that what you either believed or hoped of held in highest regard about someone you planned a life with has gone (death) or left (for someone else) or worst, has betrayed and turned on you and become a threat. Whatever it is that involves the sense of intense love that is taken away or lost because of the fate of others or your own shortfalls or both can be so crushing it can land one in a psyche ward depending on how much it reverberates through one's head. Thankfully there is medicine these days that helps some but the trauma is too great for others. Some people take their lives--history has shown. It's a tough, tough blow and requires a resolve to rethink one's own value systems and not just perceptions of other people. Loss of a child or children can do this and my grandmother lost two sons five days apart in WWII (uncles I never would know, and older brothers of my young dad). My own loss of my planned marriage and the nature of how it played out sent me over a cliff for a long time. Medicine helped me back, but my recklessness has me living a smaller life-style today so one could say I was destroyed and I take responsibility that I made it a worst case scenario by becoming an addict. I'm sorry for anyone who suffers such blows.

[Mr Scorpio]

To me, a broken heart feels like the flu; I have no energy and no appetite. Everything is in a fog. My body, especially my chest, aches.

[spiderowl]

I remember it well and it was so painful. I couldn't sleep, my heart was racing, I got pains in my neck and chest and I couldn't look at a bird. Yes, I did say that. My ex was a birdwatcher. It took about 3 months before I could look at a bird again and not feel like hell. Let me tell you, there are birds everywhere!

 

I cried at home alone, I cried with my sister when she was trying to make me feel better, I cried until I couldn't cry any more and then still kept bursting into tears unexpectedly. I sunk into depression. The doc gave me beta-blockers to control my heartbeat because it was racing and scaring me and keeping me awake. I needed anti-depressants too. I also had a week's course of sleeping pills just to get a rest from it all.

 

The reason for the above drastic symptoms was that it came out of the blue. One week he was saying he loved me (for the first time), the next he'd ended it. He ended it in retaliation really because I'd been non-committal as I wasn't sure about him and also I'd rejected a 'gift' he'd decided I needed but which he hadn't asked me about. As it was computer software which would change my whole operating system and programmes, I wasn't too keen on this. He'd come into my life - and that was great - but I didn't want him taking over. Also my computer was private to me and he wanted to get in there and make changes. But, this is what triggered him walking out and me having a shock reaction (because that's what it was). I'd never want anyone to go through something like that again and yet people do.

 

I forgave myself for being a wimp and needing medication to get over it. I haven't fully recovered in some respects as I find it hard to trust now. But certainly, a broken heart can be very damaging indeed and when one gets the physical symptoms so strongly, it is easy to understand how people can die of a broken heart.

[ToyWithMe812]

horrible unbearble pain, and it's not like a death, because they are still there, they just cut you out of their life as if you never existed, it hurts, it hurts, it hurts, and they no longer care if they hurt you. they almost want you to hurt, the only thing that works is time and acceptance, period.

[windmask]

awwww dont worry to much.easier said then done i know...you know me lady its odd why ex gf/bf the dumpers always want to be friends mine did too asked me a billion times....i freaken loved her the way she is with her faults and what she due drive a sword threw my heart.

 

i know it hearts for me even after a year it hurts and oddly my gf when i see her tells me her life is amazing since she left me this happend 3 times and then i said what ur saying is insulting dont talk to me again you love life.

 

so remember no oones going to come and take all that hurt away from you it has to be you. dumpers are selfish people and OMG YOU SHOULD NOT BE FRIENDS WITH THEM AFTER THEY BREAK UP....its odd they cheat on us yet we still love them somehow i wonder if they ever suffer even 1 percent of what we had or have to go through.

 

theres no point in looking for an answer to how they think...if your anything like me your going to be hurt a lot because of this love and memories...and sooner later you will be angry because while your suffering they are having the time of there life and yet they want ot be your friends....your going to feel more hurt until you realize you got to cut this person out of your life. what you feel for this person they dont feel about you they are a lowly type why waste time on those who have no class.

 

its really weird you said little but w.e you said sounds just like my story..i wish you the best...hope u dont suffer as much as i did.

 

if you want my advice do this agree with break up...and its time to dress and act and most importantly feel like a model lol...do what u always wanted and take a billion photos and post them....DONT HATE ADD TRUST ME HE WILL FIND THOSE PICTURES U POST....and also if by chance this clown ever comes back dont be his friend and NEVER TAKE HIM BACK....if you do i think your a lowly person then him...he made you suffer and didnt care why should you ever forgive that. move on and find someone better...even if hes he last guy on earth be like id rather be alone...no one derserves so much pain me lady...if it didnt work the first time it wont work if he comes back hes not for you the way hes acting....so now it falls in your hand you can either suffer further or take back your life slowly...