Krissy11 Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 Hi! I met someone on an online datin site. Me emailed back and forth for some time, then chatted on Skype and wanted to have our first call on Thursday evening, at 10 pm. I waited, he never called. Now (2 days later) he sent an email, just saying "sorry, something came up" -- ok... can happen, but why didn't he drop an email then, that night or the next morning?? I would have done that and apologized for haviong someone waiting and looking stupid. I've never met this person and this leaves a abd impression as it comes across as thoughtless/careless and not what I expected. I should drop him, right?
The Humbler Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 The early stages of any relationship are comparable to starting a new job as we're usually on our best behavior. Would you keep an employee who blew off his first day at work and didn't bother to give you a decent explanation? Obviously not...so why would consider dating someone who would behave that way? Why people dismiss or choose to ignore these early warning signs of poor character is something I'll never understand. Good luck.
Author Krissy11 Posted May 5, 2012 Author Posted May 5, 2012 Thank you! Thought the same, just needed some reassurance!
PhillyDude Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 Hi! I met someone on an online datin site. Me emailed back and forth for some time, then chatted on Skype and wanted to have our first call on Thursday evening, at 10 pm. I waited, he never called. Now (2 days later) he sent an email, just saying "sorry, something came up" -- ok... can happen, but why didn't he drop an email then, that night or the next morning?? I would have done that and apologized for haviong someone waiting and looking stupid. I've never met this person and this leaves a abd impression as it comes across as thoughtless/careless and not what I expected. I should drop him, right? You getting bent out of shape because someone you never met never called?? LOL 1
Author Krissy11 Posted May 5, 2012 Author Posted May 5, 2012 It's not that bad... but yes, even if I haven't met the person - when I'm sitting around and waiting for a call it makes me feel weird, just as it would in real life.
PhillyDude Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 It's not that bad... but yes, even if I haven't met the person - when I'm sitting around and waiting for a call it makes me feel weird, just as it would in real life. why are you waiting around for the phone to ring..."No Hobbies?"
Anela Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 why are you waiting around for the phone to ring..."No Hobbies?" They made a date to talk at 10pm. It was arranged, and she shouldn't have to defend the fact that she was upset about being stood up, because it is real life. I don't think that you're a smurf, or something. I don't think that you don't exist, just because I'm only reading posts from you right now. You have feelings, so do I, and so does she.
PhillyDude Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 They made a date to talk at 10pm. It was arranged, and she shouldn't have to defend the fact that she was upset about being stood up, because it is real life. I don't think that you're a smurf, or something. I don't think that you don't exist, just because I'm only reading posts from you right now. You have feelings, so do I, and so does she. Well what's going to happen if she meets a guy and he stands her up in public or never call her after the date? Is she going to jump off a bridge? I don't think she is emotionally ready to date
Anela Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 Well what's going to happen if she meets a guy and he stands her up in public or never call her after the date? Is she going to jump off a bridge? I don't think she is emotionally ready to date You're complaining in your own thread, about what women write in their profiles. You sound like you're going to pop a vein, so you might consider the same thing about yourself?
PhillyDude Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 You're complaining in your own thread, about what women write in their profiles. You sound like you're going to pop a vein, so you might consider the same thing about yourself? It's called a dating rant. You have heard of RANTING have you?
Anela Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 (edited) It's called a dating rant. You have heard of RANTING have you? I'm not picking on you, but that's what she's doing, too! Why can't you see that? She was upset, so she came here to vent and ask for advice. She wants to know whether or not she's over-reacting. I don't know whether or not she is, because I don't know what came up for the guy. If he was with someone else = bad. If it was something personal, that he wouldn't want to dump on someone he's just getting to know, that's understandable. Dropping him wouldn't be a good idea, if it's the latter. I'd want someone to understand if something really did come up. Edited May 6, 2012 by Anela
PhillyDude Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 I'm not picking on you, but that's what she's doing, too! Why can't you see that? She was upset, so she came here to vent and ask for advice. She wants to know whether or not she's over-reacting. I don't know whether or not she is, because I don't know what came up for the guy. If he was with someone else = bad. If it was something personal, that he wouldn't want to dump on someone he's just getting to know, that's understandable. Dropping him wouldn't be a good idea, if it's the latter. I'd want someone to understand if something really did come up. But that's silly to complain about because they never talked before. It's just things that happens in the world of online dating. I talked to girls for the first time in the past two weeks and this was the end result 1st convo with one girl...."made up a lie to end the convo" 1st convo with another girl...."made up a lie to end the convo" So I didn't come on here complaining about it because it's not even worth it. And guess what? The longer I continue to meet women online those things will probably happen again-lol It's called......"LIFE in the world of OLD"
Author Krissy11 Posted May 7, 2012 Author Posted May 7, 2012 to Anela: thank you, you really got my point. and to philly: I'm not upset-upset, but I was unsure about what to do and yes, I'm a person who asks for advice. Inb order to do this, I usually explain the case (which I did) and see what other people think. That's what i did. No, I did not think about jumping off a bridge. It just didn't feel good, that thing, and if it happened in "real life", guess what? I'd feel not better or worse than I do now. I had break ups with boyfriends before (who I met at parties, like one normally does) and I'm still alive. But thanks for your concern. Since I'm not an experienced online dater, I thought it's wise to ask others about this guy and maybe they have a better/ more neutral view. I thought this forum was for asking for advice? Am I wrong? And Philly, even if I thought something about you... like you did about me.. I wouldn't write it. It's called courtesy.
PhillyDude Posted May 7, 2012 Posted May 7, 2012 to Anela: thank you, you really got my point. and to philly: I'm not upset-upset, but I was unsure about what to do and yes, I'm a person who asks for advice. Inb order to do this, I usually explain the case (which I did) and see what other people think. That's what i did. No, I did not think about jumping off a bridge. It just didn't feel good, that thing, and if it happened in "real life", guess what? I'd feel not better or worse than I do now. I had break ups with boyfriends before (who I met at parties, like one normally does) and I'm still alive. But thanks for your concern. Since I'm not an experienced online dater, I thought it's wise to ask others about this guy and maybe they have a better/ more neutral view. I thought this forum was for asking for advice? Am I wrong? And Philly, even if I thought something about you... like you did about me.. I wouldn't write it. It's called courtesy. Just try to keep in mind that you are not the only girl online so it maybe a case where the guy feels he found a better match. And sometimes it;s not intentional because once you start talking to different people online, the personality of one person will cancel out the personality of another. So basically it's just life in the world of online dating
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