sweet honey eyes Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 Last night I was in a Sushi restaurant with my boyfriend of 2 and 1/2 years. The GM of the company where he works arrived while we were at the bar. My bf introduced me by my first name. We were talking. Then another guy that GM knew was close to us, and the GM shook hands with him, introduce my bf but not me. My bf didn't say anything. Acted as if nothing happened. Then the son of that GM came close. Same story. I was MAD. I have never seen anybody acting so disrespectufl. But I was more mad at my bf for not having introduced me to any of those two others.. I felt humiliated... My bf thinks I am overreacting... Btw, he is 41 and keep saying he wants to marry me..How could I marry someone who doesn't stand up for me? Please, I need your comments....
cherries1 Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 I think you should value your relationship for other factors here. It's not like your boyfriend doesn't respect you, take in account that men many times don't consider things like that important unlike us women, or just didn't notice it. I wouldn't break up because of something like this. He did introduce you to the GM, maybe he got carried away by the situation (meeting someone new brings sometimes a little excitement) or just didn't realize that GM didn't introduce you. I don't think it's a big deal, that person is willing to commit to you in terms of marriage and that shouldn't be taken lightly. Just calmly discuss the matter with him, if he says you're overreacting maybe you're acting mad and angry. Sit down and relax, and tell him that you felt hurt about that. Maybe he'll be willing to listen and make his best it doesn't repeat a second time.
SilverLining Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 Oh gosh, of all the things to be mad about... You are definitely overreacting. He introduced you to the GM, and then the GM took the reigns and started introducing your bf to everyone else. Sounds like the GM screwed up and your bf just let it slide because honestly, it really wasn't THAT big of a deal. If you are considering dumping your bf over something so incredibly petty, this just makes me feel like there's more to this story than something that happened during one evening. And if there isn't, then you need to re-evaluate your commitment to this relationship.
Author sweet honey eyes Posted May 6, 2012 Author Posted May 6, 2012 Yes, you are right. There's much more than that. He controls what I do, who I talk to (according to him, everybody flirts with me/wants to have sex with me). If I go to one place without telling him-supermarket, hospital to visit a coworker-, he shows up in the parking lot beside my car. He checks my cell phone, my Facebook, etc. but I can't see his.... I was mad because he doesn't give what he asks for. If someone speaks to me in Spanish, he gets mad..but he speaks in his native language with his friends all the time No. I don't want to marry him. I tried to leave him million times, as he is incredibly selfish and immature. He suffocates me I talk to him, he says he's sorry...but he keeps making the same things over and over... I feel I'm wasting my time with him... Thanks for your reply..
SilverLining Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 Ok, you should have written about THIS rather than what you did write about. I really don't understand why you are with this guy. This controlling behavior completely negates any good qualities he might have. I am not sure how you can write that you *tried* to leave him a million times. You just dump someone like that. You already know what you should be doing. Just trust yourself.
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