sweet honey eyes Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 Last night I was in a Sushi restaurant with my boyfriend of 2 and 1/2 years. The GM of the company where he works arrived while we were at the bar. My bf introduced me by my first name. We were talking. Then another guy that GM knew was close to us, and the GM shook hands with him, introduce my bf but not me. My bf didn't say anything. Acted as if nothing happened. Then the son of that GM came close. Same story. I was MAD. I have never seen anybody acting so disrespectufl. But I was more mad at my bf for not having introduced me to any of those two others.. My bf thinks I am overreacting... Btw, he is 41 and keep saying he wants to marry me.. Please give me your opinions so I can show him who's right and who's wrong. Thanks!
Feelin Frisky Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 It's kind of unclear--the GM introduced your boyfriend to somebody he knew who was inconsequential to your relationship? That GM probably didn't know the nature of your relationship and on the spur of the second didn't think to say this is your boy friend's girl friend or wife or fiance or w/e. But guys in his position are notorious for not giving much of a crap except to get through what is minimal--and that is that he introduced your bf who works for him. Should he have said meet Bob or w/e his name is and his date Laura or w/e yourt name it? You b/f was in the same position to state who you were and being 41 it's a little gummy to not be able to put you forth as his wife. Maybe he flinched in the moment and didn't want this third party in his business at all. Yes, he could have been gregarious and put you forward but this was not planned and considered and just happened. Then the son of the GM came close? OK, you were slighted in an unplanned social happenstance, be big about it and keep your head on you shoulders and ask your b/f why he didn't introduce you further. Don't make up your mind and let your fight or flight dictate everything or this will be a loss all the way around. IF you want to hear a slight, I worked for a building trades company for 6 months and the COO never spoke to me and often passed me in the hall even through I said good morning. Then we had a Christmas party and I was standing there talking to a new part-timer hired two weeks before who was an older man in his 60's. This prick COO comes over to us, turns his back to me and says to the nobody who just got a part-time spot, "Hello, I'm Bob ___, I don't believe we've met". And they walk away together chatting while I stood there like I was two cents worth of god help us. That's being dissed. I had no further use for that company and bailed as soon as I could. GM's, COO, even CEO's don't go to etiquette school and are social illiterates like most everyone else in the US of A. I've even had executives stick their hand out to shake my hand while never taking their eye off the person they are speaking to. They can stick it. But you were the unknown accompanier of someone and that doesn't excuse crassness, it just explains it a little more because people usually introduce their accompaniment by descriptive names like wife or g/f and in the moment, maybe someone just didn't want that business known. Lighten up and ask without having a meltdown.
FitChick Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 The GM probably forgot your name. You should have introduced yourself.
Imajerk17 Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 What FitChick said. And your bf might have no relationship w the GMs friend so why bother. No big deal.
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