Ducklover Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 This is the first time I've joined one of these forums and I'm pretty desperate for some help and advice. Me and my ex of four years split up 3 months ago. It was totally out of the blue, but my ex was a cheat and a lier and made no time for me. I had had the hits for him since we were about 15 and was head over heels when I finally started dating him. After the break up I was a complete mess and begged for him back. Then soon managed to get on with my life. We didn't have any contact for a small while but then ended up giving things another go, in which time he ended up sleeping with another girl. We then didn't speak for a little while, and after a night out that I had he decided he wanted me back, however this didn't last long and it all went a bit crazy from there. I know he has been texting and meeting another girl, to which I was upset. However I really want to get on with my life, but im not strong enough to cut him out and I seem to have too much time on my hands. I really need some advice on how I can cut him out completely and stop myself from contacting him. At the moments we have agreed to be friends and see what happens from there but I know he just can't bare the thought of me with anyone else but he doesn't want me. I've told him to go away a million times but I can't keep to what I say!! It's so hard!! Please help me with any advice to stop myself from contacting him, or getting rid of him for good. Please be honest as I need to be told the truth!! I will be so great ful for any replies!!
MissNina Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 Hey, ducklover... i had a relationship for two years and at the early of last month he cheated on me. He's a pilot student and he cheated with a stewardess student at first i tried to apologize him, but he just try to fix our relationship in a week, the rest he abandoned me and became emotional, so i broke up with him. and just two weeks after our breakup he already has a new girlfriend i was so shocked, how could he do that to me. after the breakup he even still kissed me once, and we still talk sweet. and suddenly he told me he has a new girlfriend last wednesday i was devastated i tried to talk to some people for advices. but i just realize that we're in a denial phase, when somehow our heart wont accept the reality. I read it somewhere, people in this phase still can't accept any advice, they just need friends to talk and friends who would listen. since he's far away from my place it is easier for me to let him go by just not text him or call him, but accepting the reality that he has a girlfriend already... man that sucks. i hope we get to land on our feet as soon as possible, just find some friends to talk to and would listen to us. Because our heart, anyhow, wont accept any advices, not yet
seaside_shells Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 hello, if you keep contacting him and laying your heart and soul out to him, he's just going to trample all over your feelings. as much as you miss his company, do you miss feeling hurt and being cheated on? you deserve better. try and meet new people and socialize more. look after yourself and when you feel overwhelmed by your emotions, occupy yourself with something else for a while.
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