NYC-BigKat Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 It looks like girls are really rejecting this hard & I dont why . Yea I'm not getting much from it even tho I'm trying to like I did yesterday yea I did it like 8x & got ignored on all shots. I tried to be nice about it but none of it mattered. Why? I was at the park & saw other guys doing it in different ways & they all got ignored like the girl wont even look. They act like the guys aren't there & its not fair. Some guys got mad some didn't. I tried to not let it bother me but it secretly does 'cause girls are putting too much pressure on men to do all the legwork by ignoring us.
dasein Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 I hope you aren't going from blanket to blanket in Strawberry Fields trying to chat up women who feel selfconscious about laying there in bathing suits without any tan. That is a nonstarter unfortunately. It is a game of BIG numbers. Get used to chatting to many people, not just approaching women. Before you know it, you will be talking to lots of people and the numbers required won't seem too high.
ThaWholigan Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 Numbers mate, numbers...... Had a cold approach go stale at an event last night. Didn't even sweat it. But then again, I approach these things from a different mentality, not sure how easy it is to do.....I just try not to think of it as "I'm cold approaching this girl, what will she think of me, what if....", and more like "Let me talk to this girl and see if she's cool". Trying to gain confidence is useless without self-acceptance. I accept all that is in my life, and I accept that I have the power to change should I wish. Therefore the learned habit of seeing things in absolutes is slowly diminishing. As it would in most people who think in the way that we have done in the past. I don't think girls put as much pressure as we put on ourselves when it comes to dating. Relieve the pressure of yourself and take control of your own thoughts.
Imported Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 I use to think I "cold approached" because I do approach women I don't know. However in every case, they seemed interested (they check me out, smile, eye contact, I smile back and so on) before I ever approached and there is no surprise that I am approaching and it almost always goes well. I use to think that was a cold approach. I can't believe you guys actually go up point blank and put someone on the spot like that. No warm up, nothing, just in their face. This is why you fail or one of the reasons, because nobody likes **** like that.
RedRobin Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 I reject cold approaches in situations where there is no frame of reference or price of admission. For instance, it is very unlikely for me to give personal information to someone I met in a park or even my favorite local coffee shop unless they knew someone I was there with. I'm much more receptive in situations where there is some sort of social filter and price of admission. A fundraiser where people are pre-screened (only certain people get invited). A friend's small party... even at work, where the employer screens for criminal/drug history. Since I screen on character, not looks, there is no way even a super 'hot' random guy is going to get my information without something like the above. What this means to you is that you focus your 'cold' approach efforts where the woman has some quick way to screen you.
firehawk_1 Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 girls reject all the time regardless how hot or cold it is. period. they just love playing games and rejecting. nuff said really! plain, simple, brutal and to the point. no mess. you think you know rejection? lol - you have no idea
Romeofud Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 It looks like girls are really rejecting this hard & I dont why . Yea I'm not getting much from it even tho I'm trying to like I did yesterday yea I did it like 8x & got ignored on all shots. I tried to be nice about it but none of it mattered. Why? I was at the park & saw other guys doing it in different ways & they all got ignored like the girl wont even look. They act like the guys aren't there & its not fair. Some guys got mad some didn't. I tried to not let it bother me but it secretly does 'cause girls are putting too much pressure on men to do all the legwork by ignoring us. Your problem bro is that u taking **** too seriously so dont lol. The thing is that with cold approaches its hit or miss. I cold approach chicks in every setting no matter what. I dont give a **** LMAO! I hit 20 girls in the last 2 days. 7 of the broads bit. The other 13 ignored me or said something smart back. I just laughed & kept on going. Man, u gotta be light about it. Dont take it seriously nor personally. Look at it as having fun and if u keep on doing it in ALL SETTINGS u will get some bites.
somedude81 Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 Honestly, I'm more confused on why some women even accept a cold approach. 1
Sith Apprentice Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 Cold approaching is usually worthless unless she gives you some type of Indicator Of Interest signaling she wishes to be approached. 1
Heart Of A Lion Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 (edited) Some women might feel startled or lost for words in such situations. What you then can do is say: "Here's my business card in case you might want to get to know me". Or you can write your contact details down on a post-it note and give it to her. That being said, women get cold approached far less than you think. Edited May 5, 2012 by Heart Of A Lion
Heart Of A Lion Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 Honestly, I'm more confused on why some women even accept a cold approach. Cold approaching is usually worthless unless she gives you some type of Indicator Of Interest signaling she wishes to be approached. Such optimism. Fact of the matter is that a lot of single women would love to be approached by a man with the intention of courting/chasing her. A lot of women are and feel lonely too. And men only have a limited number of options to get to know a woman outside of online dating. 3
threebyfate Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 Girls reject because they're not interested, regardless of type of approach. Occam's razor kicks arse...
RedRobin Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 Such optimism. Fact of the matter is that a lot of single women would love to be approached by a man with the intention of courting/chasing her. A lot of women are and feel lonely too. And men only have a limited number of options to get to know a woman outside of online dating. Key words here... with the intention of courting/chasing her. Too many men give off the impression they are looking for a quick f*ck. In that case, it is no different than the 'you are hawt' line in OLD. Not very successful.
Romeofud Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 Cold approaching is usually worthless unless she gives you some type of Indicator Of Interest signaling she wishes to be approached. Nah man u got it wrong. Out of the 20 chicks I hit up recently none of the broads gave me any signs but 7 of them chatted me up & I got some #s so it dont really matter. Chicks are expecting men at any time so u gotta just go at them & not be chicken **** by looking for green lights cuz with girls u can never really tell.
yongyong Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 We don't know how you look (do you look dorky, does your eyes look creepy) We don't know how you approach (do you hit on them like a thug? 'hey sexy') We don't know what kind of woman you approach (is she in a bad mood? is she unsociable person? is she way hotter than you?) You are basically asking a doctor how you can live healthy without revealing all of your info.
metalambience Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 Agreed...I never get looked at or smiled at-- just doesn't happen unless youre a very attractive man Without looks it's personality , and she won't know until you open your mouth since you are strangers Besides I think even if the girl bitches out the guy, deep down she loves the ego boost of being hit on anyway- too bad many times the egos grow bigger than the national debt....we need a national don't hit on anyone month hah
Romeofud Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 We don't know how you look (do you look dorky, does your eyes look creepy) We don't know how you approach (do you hit on them like a thug? 'hey sexy') We don't know what kind of woman you approach (is she in a bad mood? is she unsociable person? is she way hotter than you?) You are basically asking a doctor how you can live healthy without revealing all of your info. Listen bro aint nothing wrong with the thug approach cuz I gots lots of it to share my man lol. Girls dont mind it as long as u do it with style not the ****ty lame type some *******s put out there, got me? I've been doing the thug loving for years & I get love in return and some times I get cursed out. I just laugh and row on. No loss cuz I never knew her anyways. This is the mindset the OP & most of u wimps here need to grasp & stop being scared of chicks that are really scared of u!!
Necromancer Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 It´s funny if you where really good looking they would be thrilled to talk to you.
Shaun-Dro Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 It´s funny if you where really good looking they would be thrilled to talk to you. Looks mean little in the game of cold approach. I've done it and it's true... it's hit or miss, but mostly the latter because women generally have their guards up when out and about. It's their natural instincts. Men can only get success with the cold approach when in a bar or lounge. Timing also is a factor. The woman being drunk or having had some drinks also factor in to letting their guards down. I speak from experience only. But I agree with Romeofud when he says a guy just needs to go out on a limb and make a move on a woman if he's interested. A man without doing so will only have his own ass to kick in the end.
udolipixie Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 Most likely gals are rejecting you because they don't find you attractive, interesting, fun to be around, or appealing. In general from my experiences/observations not too many gals have an overall positive experience with being approached by guys. Most deal with catcalls, assault, harassment, crude cursing, crude yelling, and guys who respond violenty verbally or physically to rejection. So many gals devise tactics to avoid being approached (headphones, wedding ring, book) or ignore guys who approach. To me it's fair as you're able to approach whoever you want that and she's able to ignore whoever she wants. To me it'd be unfair if you demanded attention from a complete stranger solely because you wanted to talk them them because you're attracted to them. I'm quite unsure of how ignoring guys is putting too much pressure on guys to do all the legwork. Most likely the gals don't want the guys who are ignored to do any legwork in regards to her.
Shaun-Dro Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 Most likely gals are rejecting you because they don't find you attractive, interesting, fun to be around, or appealing. In general from my experiences/observations not too many gals have an overall positive experience with being approached by guys. Most deal with catcalls, assault, harassment, crude cursing, crude yelling, and guys who respond violenty verbally or physically to rejection. So many gals devise tactics to avoid being approached (headphones, wedding ring, book) or ignore guys who approach. To me it's fair as you're able to approach whoever you want that and she's able to ignore whoever she wants. To me it'd be unfair if you demanded attention from a complete stranger solely because you wanted to talk them them because you're attracted to them. I'm quite unsure of how ignoring guys is putting too much pressure on guys to do all the legwork. Most likely the gals don't want the guys who are ignored to do any legwork in regards to her. Some of your points are arguable in that many good-looking men will get rejected simply for doing a cold approach because the woman will believe that same guy might turn out to be a psycho killer since she doesn't know him from a hole in the wall. And don't you think it's silly for a girl to totally ignore a guy who may ask her a question just because of bad experience? Doing so can only bring about more bad experiences in case that very guy hates being ignored to the point of cussing her out. Women stopping to chat a moment is really the only best alternative because she should be happy that man even had the nerve to approach her, which in turn reminds her that she's still pretty good-looking; a feature that will only decrease with age especially for her. For women to get annoyed by men's approach is mean-spirited because I never see her fretful ass make a pass at any man she fancies. When men stop approaching women is when they should really worry.
Mr Coach Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 Like learning a language, or kung fu... you learn moves and more moves and more moves (words), until at one point you can just combine them spontaneously!
udolipixie Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 (edited) Some of your points are arguable in that many good-looking men will get rejected simply for doing a cold approach because the woman will believe that same guy might turn out to be a psycho killer since she doesn't know him from a hole in the wall. What are these some points of mine that are in anyway arguable to that? #1 gals reject the OP because they don't like him #2 gals dislike and devise ways to avoid being approached #3 it's fair that he approaches who he wants & she ignores who she wants #4 most likely the gals don't want the ignored guys to do any legwork And don't you think it's silly for a girl to totally ignore a guy who may ask her a question just because of bad experience? It's not silly to me as I doubt many would continue an activity where they get burned 9/10 or 7/10 times doing something especially if that activity tends to be fruitless and bothersome. So tack on the bad experiences with the possibility that she may not be interested in dating or having a relationship and/or prefers to go about her day without unwanted intrusions on her space and interruptions on her time. Doing so can only bring about more bad experiences in case that very guy hates being ignored to the point of cussing her out. To me that suggests gals give guys their attention otherwise you're provoking them. So you're saying that all or most guys when they don't get what they want retailate like children throwing a tantrum..?.. If it was only a few or some guys who behaved this way then it's misleading to state 'doing so can only bring'. Women stopping to chat a moment is really the only best alternative because she should be happy that man even had the nerve to approach her, which in turn reminds her that she's still pretty good-looking; a feature that will only decrease with age especially for her. To me that suggest doing what guys want is what's best for everyone and you should be happy that he did what he wanted because soon you'll be an old hag who has lost her looks. It's not a best alternative to her if she didn't want to chat or if she did want to go about her day without having to placate someone's ego for an action he chose to do. Some gals don't need others to remind them that they look good and some may prefer other ways to remind themselves. For women to get annoyed by men's approach is mean-spirited because I never see her fretful ass make a pass at any man she fancies. When men stop approaching women is when they should really worry. To me that suggests gals should shut it and be grateful that guys are approaching that means you're not ugly be happy and shut it otherwise they're bad. It's quite a logical leap to label a gal mean spirited for being annoyed at approaches because she doesn't approach. How does her not doing something play into her getting the mean spirited label for her annoyance?Are you overlooking that perhaps she makes a pass at guys she fancies when you're not around. Most likely gals who dislike and devise tactics to avoid being approached won't be worrying about why guys have stopped pestering them. They'll likely be celebrating. If this is some implication of her being alone there's plenty of alternatives to getting guys- school, work, social circle, and online dating- and the alternatives seem to be what many gals prefer. Edited May 6, 2012 by udolipixie
metalambience Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 The nice girls are the ones that ignore you. If you so much as compliment they're shoes out ask how their night was most say to f##k off, go F##k yourself, threaten to sic their guy friends after you, laugh in your face wildly, etc Its actually quite hilarious and entertaining
FrustratedStandards Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 The only reason I can think off is that she doesn't find you attractive.
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