Vintage79 Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 I went out on a first date about a week ago with a girl I met online. During dinner/drinks, the girl seemed physically into me, slathered on comments relating to my apparent "hotness", while constantly twirling her hair, leaning into nearly everything I said, etc. That lasted for about 2 hours, and then we split ways. In doing so, things seemed a bit awkward, and there wasn't even a handshake or hug, let alone a kiss. Basically, every, easy to pick-up hallmark of a girl digging a guy was present, but things ended on a strange note. I figured, what the heck, I'll see if she wants to go out again...no skin off my back, and it was relatively fun, sans the end. She instantly says yes to the invite, proposes a potential day, and includes a comment in reference to the awkwardness (which I mentioned when I asked her out again), about "next time maybe we just need to drink more". So now it's time for a second date. She initially suggested I pick out a place (she proposed the first date location), so I said great, told when we'd meet (time/day), and that I'd figure out a location and let her know where we were going a few hours, or more, in advance. Her response involved, "could we include some time hanging out at my apartment", and she then mentioned a few places we could go that are near proximty to her apartment. To be fair, she just moved, and the reasoning behind her comments involved wanting to spend some time in her new place and with her cat, which apparently was in a pet hotel for the past week or so. While I openly admit I'm not great at reading signals - it seems pretty obvious that she's trying to foster an environment where there's at least a bit more intimacy than last time...no idea about what exactly she's hoping for...but that doesn't really matter, as long as the evening is fun. The challenge that I have is that I've been dating someone else I met for a little while now, and while I don't know if it's an exclusive-type scenario, I may feel a bit guilty jumping into things on a physical level with this girl later tonight (whatever that may involve). Given the story in context of the last paragraph, I'm wondering what others would do or what their thoughts are relating to this scenario.
veggirl Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 She pretty clearly would like to have sex with you. She wants to get drunk and then have sex at her place.
SmileFace Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 She wants to have sex. Point blank. Or.... Is a crazy cat lady.
Author Vintage79 Posted May 5, 2012 Author Posted May 5, 2012 I figured she wants sex. I suppose my question is how do I slow things down without burning bridges. Finding sex partners is easy - getting to know them is hard and sex only complicates the get to know them part for a little while. Sex is great - but it's not my principle goal in dating...if that's all I wanted, I wouldn't be here.
louise_23 Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 I figured she wants sex. I suppose my question is how do I slow things down without burning bridges. Finding sex partners is easy - getting to know them is hard and sex only complicates the get to know them part for a little while. Sex is great - but it's not my principle goal in dating...if that's all I wanted, I wouldn't be here. just throwing it out there...maybe she just wants to be in a more comfortable place. dates are awkward sometimes because theyre so public. or you know, she just moved, maybe she cant afford a date right now, having just moved and all. maybe im wrong but its not the general female viewpoint to sleep with someone on the second date?? i dont know. just thought a different opinion might help as you all agree shes hungry for your gonads.
Author Vintage79 Posted May 5, 2012 Author Posted May 5, 2012 Thanks for the different view. I'm not sure she wants sex - but I do know that cash isn't an issue...she's a practicing physician and I make a comfy wage. Moreover she said she likes to be in a dominant position...at least not submissive, and she's certainly taken enough initiative already to confirm that notion. I'm hoping she just wants more pruvacy - although we essentially had the wine bar for ourselves on the first date...
louise_23 Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 Thanks for the different view. I'm not sure she wants sex - but I do know that cash isn't an issue...she's a practicing physician and I make a comfy wage. Moreover she said she likes to be in a dominant position...at least not submissive, and she's certainly taken enough initiative already to confirm that notion. I'm hoping she just wants more pruvacy - although we essentially had the wine bar for ourselves on the first date... well just make sure you use protection if it comes to it. maybe she is on heat, or something.
firehawk_1 Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 she just wants to use you for the night as she has nothing better else going on. and she is playing you. you have been told
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