Stanton Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 Hi, I'm Stanton. I have never used one of these sites before but I just really need to talk to people who aren't my friends and family, although they have been very supportive. My boyfriend recently broke up with me and it was such a massive shock. He kissed another girl whilst he was out drinking and told me that if he loved me like he used to he wouldn't have acted that way. He told me that he couldn't see a future with me, that the 'spark' had gone for him and that he saw me as just a friend. He said that he had been having doubts for two months but didn't finish earlier because he knew how much it would upset me. But the thing is it would have upset me at any point, but the way things were left has left me both hurt and confused. He told me only a day before we broke up that he loved me very much, and that he loved me texting him all that I was up too. He broke up with me on the saturday, yet came over to mine on the wednesday and I made him a special meal. After him being extremely flirty with me, and touching my breasts and bum we ended up having very passionate, fun sex. And this is how it always was. Not only was he sexually interested in me in the weeks up coming to the breakup, he was also very emotionally affecionate. He would tell me how much he had missed me whilst embracing me. He would often just look at me and tell me how I even prettier to him than I was before. He told me when we were breaking up that he didn't see the relationship progressing and that I wasn't in his romantic future, yet he was the one who had always mentioned about living with one another. He even in January asked if I would move to Canada with him (I live in the UK). I always found these things very flattering but I never thought about them too seriously because i was enjoying myself in the present. The weekend before the one he broke up with on, he mentioned about getting his own key cut for my home!!!! It appears to me that he wasn't having doubts, but after kissing someone thought that perhaps thats what he wanted from now on. It is extremely hurtful anyway I look at it. He is meant to think 'the world of me', but he had just left me feeling used and very hurt. If he had doubts he should have made that clear. I hoped that if we ever did break up it would have been done in a respectful mature manner. I am currently writing him a letter with everything in I didn't mention whilst we were breaking up. It's to the point but not rude. I'm not writing it with the intention of him wanting me back, just so he can know how badly he has handled things. I would appreciate any feedback or advice. Thanks.
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