Meg717 Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 So long story short.. I met a guy online in mid March...we talked for about 3 weeks via email/facebook before we started texting. We've hung out twice.. 1st time we met in a park and 2nd we went out for drinks. The second time after getting a few drinks, we went back to his apartment, watched movies and eventually we hooked up (yes sex - and I only had 2 beers so I made this decision soberly). So last night I went out with some friend, got a little drunk, and went over to this guys apartment - you can assume what happened. Soo after it happens, he goes into the bathroom, I get dressed he comes back into the room and I say "Not to be a dude.." and he says "Your bouncing?" I say "Yes, I have Zumba early in the morning." So I leave. (I should note that one of the reasons I decided to leave is bc I live with my parents and I don't want them to judge me - I know I'm an adult but they're my parents lol). Anywayyyy, I am regretting my actions right now. Mainly bc I don't know where this relationship could go with this guy and now I feel like I might have put it in the "F" buddy category. So here's where I need advice. What do I do today? Do I text him? Let it go? If I text him, what do I say? So far I've gotten two different pieces of advice from men.. my best guy friend said, I should only text him if I'm looking for sex.. and my friends boyfriend said I should text him since I left abruptly. I am not cut out for this...lol
westrock Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 Where do you want this to go? Are you looking for a relationship with him or just a hook up? You explained to him why you had to leave. It seems you two were emailing and texting before so continue on as before. If you would typically initiate a text then continue to do that. I say text him today.
SmileFace Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 "I'm not cut out for this" Are you referring to f-Buddy situations? What do you want from him?
Author Meg717 Posted May 5, 2012 Author Posted May 5, 2012 I'd like to see it progress into a relationship.
Author Meg717 Posted May 5, 2012 Author Posted May 5, 2012 "I'm not cut out for this" Are you referring to f-Buddy situations? Yep! I don't know how people do it.
SmileFace Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 I'd like to see it progress into a relationship. I am not saying that that ship has sailed but it may be at the dock. However call him up try and set up a date -- that is not between the hours of booty and call. If he is responsive you may have a chance-- if he is too forward -- just move on, since you both aren't looking for the same thing.
firehawk_1 Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 oh boy...... you then ..... urgh. im not even going to waste my time on these things. *sigh*
Author Meg717 Posted May 5, 2012 Author Posted May 5, 2012 I am not saying that that ship has sailed but it may be at the dock. However call him up try and set up a date -- that is not between the hours of booty and call. If he is responsive you may have a chance-- if he is too forward -- just move on, since you both aren't looking for the same thing. LOL - yea..I guess we'll see... Thanks!
Author Meg717 Posted May 5, 2012 Author Posted May 5, 2012 oh boy...... you then ..... urgh. im not even going to waste my time on these things. *sigh* Could be worse...I could be drunk dialing my ex and regretting doing things with him... at least if it doesn't work out with this guy, I can move on with easily and with no false hope..
veggirl Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 Well, I prob wouldn't contact him today. I would wait til maybe Monday, see if he contacts you. If not I guess a "how was your weekend?" text would be okay. If you want a relationship with him, your next dates should probably be real dates, not just hang outs at his place with sex.
Author Meg717 Posted May 5, 2012 Author Posted May 5, 2012 Well, I prob wouldn't contact him today. I would wait til maybe Monday, see if he contacts you. If not I guess a "how was your weekend?" text would be okay. If you want a relationship with him, your next dates should probably be real dates, not just hang outs at his place with sex. Agreed and preferably alcohol free... Thanks for the advice. I should have went straight home lol... oh well... live and learn.
dasein Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 I'd like to see it progress into a relationship. In your shoes I'd lay off contact, leave the ball in his court. If he is on the same page re: relationship, he will call you and ask you out on a date. If he calls with little notice and asks you to his place, that would be your opportunity to state that you are seeking a relationship that includes more than just the sex. His response will tell you what you need to know. Good luck.
Author Meg717 Posted May 5, 2012 Author Posted May 5, 2012 Thanks!!! I guess time will tell at this point..
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