finalxbox Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 I wanna why my ex girlfriend is hot and cold.Yesterday morning we were fine talking and laughing like every morning.She was saying how much she misses our play fights and how much she loves talking to me.She was also relaying how it was crazy that we can be arguing one minute then make up the next.So later that day she didn't call as much like she used to at work..so okay it didn't bother me that much.So later that night she calls when she finished getting for bed ..and was barley talking ...she had her headphones listening to music. I asked her if she did because im not gonna sit on the phone while you listen music wtf.. she said no.I know she did because her phone acts up real bad you know goes ins and outs. i ask her whats wrong numerous times.she replied nothing im fine.She barley said ten words after 2 minutes of the **** i said bye tierra and hung up the phone.wtf is going on..so today she calls me twice around 12 and once at 5. I'm planning on freezing her out for a while.then she calls around 7 again i answered this time ...she goes on to say that she highly upset with me because shes been calling all day...and she was worried ...she doesn't text me anymore she always calls through the day.... why is she so hot and cold like that ..by the way we been broken up for about 6 months.
Follower Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 Who broke up with who? And if im perfectly honest it doesnt sound like your broken up it sounds like your married...
Author finalxbox Posted May 6, 2012 Author Posted May 6, 2012 I broke up with her ....but you know how it goes I realized I made a mistake .I tried to get back with her ..but she wasn't having it..
TaraMaiden Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 You're not broken up. 'Broken up' means going your separate ways, not seeing each other, not sharing time together, not laughing, not joking, not kidding around, not hanging out.... you're still very much together.... Are you guys making out...? Having sex? You're still a couple, though, because you spend so much time together. she's not your ex-..... She's blowing hot and cold because you still want a relationship, and she wants a boy on the backburner, whose chain she can yank. Looks like you're 'it'! you'd better read the No contact guide in my sig. Now THAT'S being broken up....
Author finalxbox Posted May 6, 2012 Author Posted May 6, 2012 Actually two week ago she admitted to me that she was thinking about getting about getting back together ...its me that doesn't feel I'm ready to be in one..no we're not having sex ..she asked if I would do it if I had the chance I said no..just recently she started bring up the love word again and that shocked the hello out of me ..she said wendell I love u...in the middle of the convo I said whatever... she said no whatever.. I do I can't help it ..now since then she says it once week ..
TaraMaiden Posted May 7, 2012 Posted May 7, 2012 There you go. Not broken up, never have been. Have 'the talk'. (So - are we exclusive/an item, or not? If yes, what can we both do to make sure this stays on track? If no, I'll seeyabye!!)
Author finalxbox Posted May 9, 2012 Author Posted May 9, 2012 Now shes being cold again ...we were laughing and she mention the massage i was supposed to give her ..and she asked when was she gonna to get it ..i said i dont know ...u know whats gonna happen if i give you one i said... then her grandmother needed her help and she say she was gonna call me back that was at 9 this morning ..she didn't call back once ..and just know i seen her post (love vs.Hate) on Facebook i dont know what the **** that means ...i told her i needed a lil time before we jumped back into to a relationship and she agreed..so what the **** is going on now
pteromom Posted May 9, 2012 Posted May 9, 2012 I don't really blame her for being hot and cold. You broke up with her because you weren't ready. You say you STILL don't think you are ready. She told you she loves you, and you blew it off. You said you wouldn't sleep with her if you had the chance, yet you are talking about getting back together. Look at it from HER point of view. She loves you; you break it off. You want her back, but you don't REALLY want to commit. You send mixed signals - calling her and getting annoyed that she doesn't call back, but then saying "Whatever" when she gets the guts to say she loves you. This girl is all-in. She has a lot of feelings for you. So either commit to her and move forward, or break it off and stay gone. Don't just play games with her... 1
Author finalxbox Posted May 10, 2012 Author Posted May 10, 2012 Yeah I Understand where you're coming from i been started looking at the situation though her eyes a while back and i can see why she does things she do ...she is responding to how i act towards her ... she has a lil girl who i love to death she is five...and she stills thinks im her mother boyfriend...and she even slips up and calls me daddy numerous of times...one of the main reason i broke up with her because i didn't feel financially ready to do for her and her child ..i couldn't support her the way i really wanted to...and the second reason was because of her baby father ...i couldn't deal with him always trying to get her back everyday was something and she tells me everything sometimes i wished she didn't ...but now im so much at ease with the baby father situation i don't even pay attention anymore. i do tell her i love her .i don't tell everyday just when she needs to hear it the most ...like when her lil girl was in hospital...before i got off the phone ..i told adriyanna i loved her..and i said i love you tierra..she said aww how sweet i love u too ..so its not one sided at all
Author finalxbox Posted May 10, 2012 Author Posted May 10, 2012 now get this she calls once at 9:40 i wasn't by the phone then she calls when she at work she doesn't do **** at work but sit behind a desk so she read and be on the phone a lot but again i answered we talked and laugh she kept asking about the interview i got tomorrow. i said why do u want to know she says i just do so i told her.....then she gets on a subject about the type of girls im a attracted to ...she say why you wont date those type of girls i said i just wont ..then a few mins later she hang up in my face ...i stay calm waited for about 10 tens mins to see if she'll call back she doesn't so i send a text saying thank you for being disrespectful and hanging up in my face...she didnt respond wtf is going on ???????
Eddie Edirol Posted May 10, 2012 Posted May 10, 2012 now get this she calls once at 9:40 i wasn't by the phone then she calls when she at work she doesn't do **** at work but sit behind a desk so she read and be on the phone a lot but again i answered we talked and laugh she kept asking about the interview i got tomorrow. i said why do u want to know she says i just do so i told her.....then she gets on a subject about the type of girls im a attracted to ...she say why you wont date those type of girls i said i just wont ..then a few mins later she hang up in my face ...i stay calm waited for about 10 tens mins to see if she'll call back she doesn't so i send a text saying thank you for being disrespectful and hanging up in my face...she didnt respond wtf is going on ??????? DUDE. STOP answering the phone, stop answering her texts. Freeze her out for a couple days. When she shows up mad at you, THATS the time to have a serious talk with her, but only in person. You tell her she either stops playing games and gets serious about your relationship and tell you her problem with you, or you stop talking to her forever. You HAVE to do this because she obviously doesnt know how to communicate what she wants. She will probably call your bluff, but she wont stay away for long, have patience and stand firm.
Author finalxbox Posted May 10, 2012 Author Posted May 10, 2012 Yeah i been sort of freezing her out for the past week i stop answering the phone as much as i used to.she didn't even make it have half the day ...she said im highly upset with you .i missed you ..i thought something happened to you.i got the feeling she try to return the favor by not calling back for 12 hours today..she usually cant go 2 hours without saying something to me.i forgot to mention the part where she put on face book .. LOVE VS HATE earlier today. that was jab at me because that's how she defined us as a love hate relationship.but im gonna try total freezing her out for a couple of days
tornangel Posted May 10, 2012 Posted May 10, 2012 I am hot and cold towards my ex because i feel he makes me nuts. He treated me really bad but we have a son together. He plays mind games still....Has his gf commenting pics on our son on fb. I hate him but he wants to be friends , he is in a relationship. I am not. But I try to be nice and I only can for like 5 min. But truth is I hate him and I love him. This is why anyone is hot and cold. But I hate more. I dont want him back and I cant forgive him. EVER . So there ya have it. So I decided I have to do NC or very lil contact about our son only for my own sanity . UGH
Author finalxbox Posted May 10, 2012 Author Posted May 10, 2012 yeah hearing your side of the story ..i can why she is hot and cold sometimes..for instance she took me out the day before my birthday in feb with saw three movies and had dinner.. then on my birthday i had the nerve to not answer my phone on my birthday she called 14 times i didnt even answer once.that hurt her so bad ..her and her lil girl wanted to wish me happy birthday..that day makes me sick to my stomach
Author finalxbox Posted May 12, 2012 Author Posted May 12, 2012 Now i hear from our mutual friend that she has been calling her child father my name for the past three days straight and that she put this on facebook "I need SINCERITY!!!!!" .Sounds like she is about to explode because of the less attention i've been giving her.Which she expressed much anger over.
Author finalxbox Posted May 13, 2012 Author Posted May 13, 2012 I had to put the freeze on hold today because her daughter is graduating next week and i was invited (forgotten about that) and she wanted to talk about what she planning for that day...but when she called at 6 i was playing basketball so i called her back at 8:10 but she didnt pick up but not even one minute later she posted something on face book with phone.i know she get mad when i don't answer my phone but damn!!!! i tried calling about 2 hours later still no answer..whats going on with this girl
Tiera D Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 (edited) did u call her tierra? -.-" Sorry,but it seem to me ur the one playing games in this situation,what she did is merely to protect herselve,ur the bad guy shes the victim.. TD Edited May 16, 2012 by Tiera D
trist Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 her behavior is one of a girl who was hurt by a douche, and now as much as she still has feelings for him, she's moving cautiously because of oh i dunno, call it a gut hunch but because you haven't changed and your attitude projects that... she wants to know you're not going to bail again at the first sign of trouble, which you have failed to do so... no offense, YOU don't deserve HER... and i'm speaking from experience... as in, i've been the douche before... your focus is all on YOURSELF, you want to feel better by having her back in your life how it used to be, but you're not ready to see or hear her needs... when you're ready to man up, and be selfLESS, then pursue her... until then, considering all you seem to care about is "winning", let her find someone who actually respects her...
Author finalxbox Posted May 16, 2012 Author Posted May 16, 2012 Me a douche..no!!!! her and her family repeatedly told me im the best boyfriend she ever had...i think i misrepresented myself in this situation...i took care of her child ..took her to the park... go to school events and when something is wrong at school im one of the emergency contacts ..thats how close me and her daughter are.me and tierra are very close...to close to be call friends ..she tells me just about everyday i love you..and sometimes i say it back..my family loves her and her family loves me ..im the only boyfriend her family really expected..one of the reasons i broke up with her ..was because of my financial situation...i couldn't do the things i used to do with her and her child and it was killing me inside...and one thing about tierra that always gets me she would lie about her feelings and i reacted to those lies..and most of the time i catch her in a her lies...she is the most beautiful women i had the pleasure of dating..she get so much attention from guys its sicken...just yesterday some guy asked her if she was taking and she lie and said i am..she's the type of girl that can get any guy without trying...so finding somebody isn't a problem for her.
Author finalxbox Posted May 16, 2012 Author Posted May 16, 2012 And just this morning she said she wanted me to take her camping for her birthday in july..
Author finalxbox Posted May 22, 2012 Author Posted May 22, 2012 OK update.so this morning i was woken up do to her phone call ..we talk for a min was telling she would like to take me out for the weekend i said cool..talk for a few more mins then said talk to u later do to the convo got boring..so not even 6 mins later ..she dedicated a song...Brian McKnight -Back At One ...to the one who she had love and still love and miss always...gb ...now i dont know what to think ...she has to be talking about her friend who claim she hasn't talk to since January...if its true then she lied and been talking to him off and on .....i always told her if shes trying to pursue something else im out of here don't want to be in her way ...so later on today she deletes that comment now im really confuse why even bother to put it up..then she calls about five times sinc e 4 i'm freezing her out until i figure out what to do
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