username10 Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 While interviewing for a college, I met this girl who was interviewing later and really liked her. As I left, she gave me a hug and texted me her number. We talked and became pretty close, as we still text almost everyday and facebook convo, call eachother, etc a lot. We both ended up getting in to the school, but she also met somebody else who is going to the same school next year. He asked her out already to do some stuff around campus in September when school begins, and I don't know what I should do. When she told me this she seemed kind of excited. We both talk about other girls and guys, I really like this girl and I think she likes me, but I'm not really sure. We still talk, we both text each other first, and we both joke around with each other. In the beginning of the week I called her and she kept jokingly hanging up on me and calling me back when I was joking around with her. She ahas called me love and sweet before, but I'm not sure if this means anything. She has told me her interests and said she wants to do those things next year, so maybe I should do them with her? Should I ask her out now so I still have a chance and she doesn't get really attached with this other guy? If so, how should I go about doing it, because it is like 3-4 months in advance right now. Thanks
persevere Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 Sure man. Why not? Does she live closeby? Ask her to dinner so you talk in person. See where it goes. Nothing ventured. Nothing gained.
Author username10 Posted May 5, 2012 Author Posted May 5, 2012 Thanks for the response. She doesn't live close by (probably 10 hours away) so I most likely won't see her until when school starts in Aug/Sept, so I'd be asking her out months away.
persevere Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 Sure. My advice would be to just keep talking to her. However, try not to get your hopes up too much. It's a long time away. Things can change. College, especially starting it, is a busy time. Just keep being her friend and see where it goes. If anything, you'll have someone to hang out with and meet her friends, etc. when you get to school.
Bob_Funk Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 Sounds like she's friendzoned you. The only way you'll know for sure though is to get her alone and make a move.
Author username10 Posted May 5, 2012 Author Posted May 5, 2012 I won't be able to get her alone until like September though so whats the best plan to go forward?
Pierre Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 Sounds like she's friendzoned you. The only way you'll know for sure though is to get her alone and make a move. I agree. A clear sign of FZ is when she talks about her potential BF with OP. I think OP allowed too much time to go by and did not make a move. Now he is in the FZ.
lovelydovey Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 Stop doubting yourself and just ask her out. She obviously has some interest in you. Just ask her out. If you're in the FZ, maybe showing her you have confidence will get you out of it. There's nothing more attractive than a man who knows what he wants and is confident. If she says she's not interested, then you'll know and guess what you can still be friends. good luck!
Author username10 Posted May 5, 2012 Author Posted May 5, 2012 I agree. A clear sign of FZ is when she talks about her potential BF with OP. I think OP allowed too much time to go by and did not make a move. Now he is in the FZ. Thanks for your responses. I have only met this girl in person once and we live far away (like 10 hours probably). I usually joke around about other girls with her and she talks briefly about her dates and that some kid just asked her out a few months away. She also tells me how girls life confident people and not egotistical people when I'm messing with her with my cockiness. Is there anything I can do to make sure I'm not too FZed/have a chance to get out or is she just going to look at me as a friend for the next few years no matter what. I think I'll try to ask her out soon, so what will be the best way to do this because its so far away? Be like hey during one of the first couple weeks wanna do ____? Will that imply a date and is that a solid enough plan? Thanks so much everyone
Author username10 Posted May 5, 2012 Author Posted May 5, 2012 Also, would it be a good idea to not text her for awhile so she doesn't take me for granted?
Author username10 Posted May 5, 2012 Author Posted May 5, 2012 One last question- any advice for how to ask her out because its so far away? I don't think picking a specific date would be the best option, so do I say like during the first week wanna do ____? Is a date implied in that? Thanks again
Feelin Frisky Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 I agree. A clear sign of FZ is when she talks about her potential BF with OP. I think OP allowed too much time to go by and did not make a move. Now he is in the FZ. This^. You had a window and didn't act and someone else did. And it's all about action--not thinking or talking. Now you're her "friend"--her safe boy toy who won't do anything--and she'll cry on your shoulder while giving it up to that other schmuck. You can still try but this is usually how it goes when the female starts talking excitingly about someone else who's actually made a move to see her.
Author username10 Posted May 5, 2012 Author Posted May 5, 2012 This^. You had a window and didn't act and someone else did. And it's all about action--not thinking or talking. Now you're her "friend"--her safe boy toy who won't do anything--and she'll cry on your shoulder while giving it up to that other schmuck. You can still try but this is usually how it goes when the female starts talking excitingly about someone else who's actually made a move to see her. Alright thanks. We weren't gonna be near each other for awhile so I thought it would be best to wait but should I make my move soon for a date that won't happen for a couple months (college starts in Sept)?
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