dmmm Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 Hi I have a friend who I am crazy about. She’s the only friend I have and only person I really talk to. I know she doesn’t feel for me what I feel for her but like I say she’s my only friend. I’m pretty much a recluse. It’s great when I talk to her but then all the time I’m not I just get so jealous of the other people she is with. I never let it show with her and try not to ask what she’s doing. I can pretty much tell from how she talks when she is gonna go out on a date, it kills me thinking about it. I literally sit thinking about her and some other guy out there, having a great time. I know the advice here is to cut off all contact, but she is everything I have. Other than her I have no life. Also, I love spending time with her and know it won’t go any further. Just don’t know how to deal with the rest of my life when I’m not with her and she’s on my mind constantly. Any advice would be great.
Nohbody Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 It's very dangerous to make one person your whole world. For you, I mean. Your needs aren't being met, and you may not be able to meet her needs. Why are you a recluse? Can you find ways to meet more people?
Author dmmm Posted May 5, 2012 Author Posted May 5, 2012 It's very dangerous to make one person your whole world. For you, I mean. Your needs aren't being met, and you may not be able to meet her needs. Why are you a recluse? Can you find ways to meet more people? I know it's very dangerous, but it's so easy to do when there is nothing else going on. I've just been on my own for about 10 years and so have no social skills to draw upon. Work from home so no work colleagues. Plus every time I go to do anything atm I can't because I'm thinking of her. Even the smallest thing that would perhaps take my mind off her, I can't do. I just sit at home watching rubbish tv and surfing these type of forums. I know I need to get more of a life but I just can't bring myself to stop obessing over her.
BewitchedandBothered Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 You need friends==this is unhealthy. Volunteer; there are services you can help out with and make contacts/friends that way. Join a gym. What are you going to do if she moves away or something? You cannot make your life about this person. Maybe take a class or 2 in something you are interested in.
Nohbody Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 Consider using the internet to help make friends. If you live in a large-ish city, something like meetup.com might be helpful. There are probably other ways to do it.
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