Boyfriend and family and my child drama

[hellokittyCA]

Hello evryone!!!

 

Im new to this so please bear with me.

 

Ok ive been dating my boyfriend for almost a year. We have had our ups and downs of couse but the situation I am in leaves me w no other decision. I have a daughter and she is very close to my grandparent's who i will say love and adore my daughter. I will say this their relationship is way better than one we ever tried having. Ok- so here is my dilema my grandparents do not like my boyfriend so they would tell my daughters thibgs and she would get confussed etc. I have talked to them told them its unacceptable inappropriate and they needed to stop. My boyfriend tried talking to them alone but thay didn't end well. His feelings were hurt my daughters put in the middle she confused completely (shes only sixo i cant have that at all. I put my daughter in day care to.take her out of the drama. Thank God she loves it and seema happy. She misses my grandparents like crazy she cries and it tears me to pieces. I want them apart of my childsnse life. since we lost my mother (r.i.p.) her daughter couple yrs back feels like my daughter keeps her sane. Please forgive me if im all over the place. Ok my daughter has not seen them in over a month and my granmother drove to my daughters school to try and see her i called ger w my new num. She didnt answer i was upset. I picked up my daughter later ob that day and my daughter said my grandma told her she promised not to talk about my boyfriend and she was sorry i i let a couple of days pass i could not get her out of my mind so i called her. She answered i explained to her that we needed to talk clear the air come to an understanding (was i wrong) i asked her y she went to the school said she missed her and was crying. I felt bad!! I later told my boyfriend i called her and told him its time to talk to them he was furious i mean furious cussed me out broke up w me told me how could i go behind his back. Which i didnt i just hate all this fighting and my daughter not seeing them. I just want to make things right. My boyfriend says im wrong for choosing my fam. Who have hurt me but i told them we have to forgive not onlu that my daufhter needs them how do i explaine to a six yr old im so confussed. My boyfriend made me choose him or fam. I told him i have to choose. My daughtees needs. He keeps telling me how could i let them come back i told him i wanted to take it slow w boundaries of course and having us both talk to them. My grandparents are who they are they are old fashion they dont kniw him they want to control me thats who they are they try but cant i have my own place i make it on my own Thank God! I feel if he loved me he would understand and see that families have their ups and downs y not try to make it right. I told him y not go to my grandparents house and reaasure them they can tet but hes not going n e where. I dont know maybe im dreaming but please can some obe give me some advice!!! Im so confussed he doesnt want to b w me and well i have to let him go. I cant disown my fam. Forever thats irrational. Thank you for taking the time to read my drama and thanks for your advice. Have a good day!!!

[BewitchedandBothered]

Seems you grandparents are wise and see something in him that they don't feel is right for you. They've been around and can spot someone who is wrong for you in every sense of the word. Any person who would try to make you choose between them and your family is BAD NEWS. Especially since he knows that your daughter is very close with them. Kick this loser to the curb and keep communicating with your family. They are your love, strength and support.

[hellokittyCA]

Thank you so much for taking time out to write to me. You are so right!!! And that is exactly how i feel.. i didnt grow uo w my grandparents but they too like trying to control me but at the end of the day they are still my family and they are all my daughter knows. II ended up telling him that i love him but this was something i had to do. I will definitely take baby steps with my grandparents due to the way they are but thats ok because as long as my daughter is happy thats all that matters. He chose to tell me i still was wrong and that he wants to make it work. He also revealed he started talking to 2 females one he worked with and one he had hooked up w in the past. His excuse to get over me! I was crushed, i still am but that opened my eyes to what a dogg he really is.. he told me he was wrong but thats how he deals with things. My response was how stupid and low and the love i thought we had was basically a joke!!! I cannot get over that i really cant the thought of him trying to get to "know" these females makes me cry everytime. With that being said I am better and deserve better and will not settle for less. Sorry to leave such a long reply but it makes me feel so much better to get it out!!! Thank you and have a good day!!