Author Sugarkane Posted May 12, 2012 Author Posted May 12, 2012 He said he would contact me next week. Still hasn't actually asked me one a legit date though.
ScienceGal Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 When a man is truly interested in you, he will make it crystal clear. He isn't doing that. I'd move on if I were you. (hugs)
Author Sugarkane Posted May 13, 2012 Author Posted May 13, 2012 My new found optimism has disappeared. Having to go through all this BS again. When in hell will I get something I deserve?
ScienceGal Posted May 13, 2012 Posted May 13, 2012 My new found optimism has disappeared. Having to go through all this BS again. When in hell will I get something I deserve? I completely understand. It is beyond frustrating. Just know that there is someone out there that will treat you well. The less time you waste on someone who is making you feel less than wonderful, the better. Don't let him drag you down, he's just one guy.
Author Sugarkane Posted May 14, 2012 Author Posted May 14, 2012 I completely understand. It is beyond frustrating. Just know that there is someone out there that will treat you well. The less time you waste on someone who is making you feel less than wonderful, the better. Don't let him drag you down, he's just one guy. Sometimes I wonder if there really is though. Especially according to some survey that there's more women than men. And that I've heard A LOT of guys do this via online makes me pretty pessimistic.
Author Sugarkane Posted May 14, 2012 Author Posted May 14, 2012 Ironically maybe cOZ I'm scared of being screwed over again in a relationship.
Author Sugarkane Posted May 15, 2012 Author Posted May 15, 2012 Sometimes I just want to give up on love and think maybe I should 50 cats instead?!
Author Sugarkane Posted May 15, 2012 Author Posted May 15, 2012 He asked me if I'd been going on dates with other men. I said no (I'm broke!). I said I was seeing if he still had his profile up or not. He said he was getting a lot of emails/interest.
ScienceGal Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 He asked me if I'd been going on dates with other men. I said no (I'm broke!). I said I was seeing if he still had his profile up or not. He said he was getting a lot of emails/interest. So... is he going on dates or does he want to? I this why he asked you, or did he ask because he doesn't want you dating othe people?
IfiKnewThen Posted May 16, 2012 Posted May 16, 2012 (edited) heres what you should say if this is true: no i am not dating other ppl. and i am not a sleep around. i am a one man women. i took a chance on you. i dont see things getting better between us. i understand this is a very bad economy. but there are many things we can do, that can work with our budgets. i have ask you point blank to do things outside of your home with me. you dont seem interested to go beyond that point. it makes me feel like you think i am not worth it. that makes me lose attraction and interest in you. i am sorry , i have to keep moving forward in my life. take care. bye. then let it be!!! say this like a sweet lady that you are. no yelling. no demands. these are just facts that dont have to be shouted or said rudely. if you do this you can accomplish a few things. A. you make it known you are a self respecting 1 man gal. B. you remind him he was special to you, and you gave him a chance C. u let him know youre not spoiled and understand a bad economy and finances but that D. you are worth showing an honest effort. E. he gets to understand that he has to do something appropriate or a female (you) will lose interest in HIM. if he doesnt get on board after he thinks this over and it sinks into his brain....he is a true waste of time. see if he calls you in a week after that. BUT meantime...think of him as gone and NOT good for you and work on loving yourself, by not settling. and if he comes back he will have a more together gal himself. and you will not find it so hard to be respected. trust what a man does for you. not what he tells you. also run and buy yourself john greys book mars and venus on a date!!! good luck. take care Edited May 16, 2012 by IfiKnewThen 1
ToyWithMe812 Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 When a man is truly interested in you, he will make it crystal clear. He isn't doing that. I'd move on if I were you. (hugs) If they have already been with you, yea. Otherwise, shyness can kick in, amongst other obstacles.
ToyWithMe812 Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 Sometimes I wonder if there really is though. Especially according to some survey that there's more women than men. And that I've heard A LOT of guys do this via online makes me pretty pessimistic. First of all, this "survey" cannot be taken in a literal sense. Geographical anomalies abound, period. For instance, you do not move to Alaska if you want to meet more chicks, you move there for the beauty and outstanding salmonid fishing and hunting. First of all, you do not have to meet someone online, there are plenty of traditional avenues. If you want a genuine dude I don't think you'll have many worries there.
ToyWithMe812 Posted May 17, 2012 Posted May 17, 2012 Does anyone get that???? Of course, plenty of us, without a doubt. I'm not ready to rush anything, never have. The thing for me is finding someone who is genuine, not a carbon copy of some reality show ditz/or in your case douche. Best of luck to all in the next phase.
Author Sugarkane Posted May 21, 2012 Author Posted May 21, 2012 IfIKnewThen- I tried sending you a PM but it said yours was full?
Author Sugarkane Posted June 2, 2012 Author Posted June 2, 2012 Things got even weirder. I've hardly seen him at all, he always has something on. I visited my nan in hospital and hospitals are depressing enough. I said it would've Been better if I had seen him. Then he says maybe not. I was like Why would you even say that? I don't understand. Then he said no one understands him. Didn't actually explain anything though. Then he send messages like weird poetry that didn't actually mean anything. All I did was make a joke about people copying poetry. Then he said that's the most insulting thing anyones ever said to him. WTF? And said goodbye. Most bizarre ending or what?
IfiKnewThen Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 (edited) i am sorry about the full messages. i will get around to deleting them soon . i was away from LS for so long. sorry about that. did you ever send him the message i wrote. i write poetry myself. sounds like.....he thought you were eluding to the fact that he copied this poem and didnt write it. or he thought that you thought he wasnt capable of writing a poem. guys want to be "trusted". some doesnt earn trust though lol. he may be deep. who knows ( ) BUT he says he feels misunderstood. so tell him to make himself clear. i wish you could send the poem for us to try to interpret it. poetry is subjective though. he sounds a little manic to me. maybe .....and i hate tossing this word around....bi-polar or just a real misunderstood guy...in his experience in his world and wants someone to "get him". actually people ..couples...need to "get each other". he sounds like he doesnt get you and you dont get him. i am sorry to say but he didnt sound that interested in you to begin with . but liked the idea of someone comforting him in his home .,...and maybe bed. i dont know. but if he left your life and you guys have been no contact all this time...then youre actually better off. it didnt sound like a real match. all we can all do is hope to come to accept this...and find happiness in other things and hopefully another person to share things with. Good luck sugar. be well. Edited July 31, 2012 by IfiKnewThen
Author Sugarkane Posted July 31, 2012 Author Posted July 31, 2012 Thanks for your reply. No I didn't get to send it to him long story short. I remember my nan was sick in hospital and I was trying to be strong for my mum. The guy went really cold on me. I think i sent something about being tired (from the traveling) and spending time there. He didn't care at all. I can't remember what he texted me but I just deleted everything. I wanted to tell him where he can shove it. My sister said what's the point? I haven't heard from him in 2 months.
Author Sugarkane Posted July 31, 2012 Author Posted July 31, 2012 I really wanted to send- I'm going to find someone that gives me nothing but mixed messages and then accuses me of the same thing. And someone that says they want a relationship just to get laid.
IfiKnewThen Posted July 31, 2012 Posted July 31, 2012 sorry for your troubles . this guy was wasting your time though. you sound like youre handling it well though. kudos to you. keep moving forward now. take care
Author Sugarkane Posted July 31, 2012 Author Posted July 31, 2012 Not really I wish I could tell to get ******.
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