Sarantt Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 Hi, I wrote a few weeks ago as my boyfriend had broken up with me due to my own stupid behaviour. Since then, he has decided to give things another go and try to trust me again because he said he loves me so much he wants things to work out. We decided to start a 'new relationship' instead of just going back to the old one, because we both knew it wouldn't work out if we went back to how it was. Anyway, we are trying to take things slowly but I'm really unsure how to behave now. We have only seen each other once this week and it felt awkward because we had only been communicating by text the rest of the time. He was worried the whole time that things wouldn't feel the same so I told him to relax, because the more worried he got the more awkward and pressured it got. How do you guys think I should act from now? I'm trying to be loving but not clingy. I think we need to have fun together but don't want to keep suggesting we do things in case he thinks I'm trying to rush it. Also he has decided not to tell his friends or family that we're giving it another shot. He said he would feel stupid and I think he wants to see if it's working before he does. I understand that but I'm wary of being a doormat. Do you think this is ok for now? We've only been back together a week or so. I suppose I didn't really how strange it would feel trying to do everything differently, so any advice would be appreciated! Thanks!
Vizier Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 Hi Sarantt, Since things are just beginning anew for you two, I feel it is alright if you keep a low profile for the moment. The last thing you want is to have people knowing and then making you feel pressured in any way with their comments. Given how things ended, this might not be what you need right now. I agree that you should just relax and have fun. Do things together that create bonds. Show appreciation, let him know you value him and hopefully he will reciprocate in kind. It is the little things that matter. In your situation, I would usually do a forecast to see how things will turn out for the month and another forecast for 6 months down the road. From the readings I will be able to foresee the opportunities and pitfalls you face and advise you how best to manage them well. When you are aware of what is going to happen and what you should do to manage, you are likelier to make better choices. This in turn will increase the likelihood that your relationship with thrive this time round. Irving the Vizier
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