Glove_slap Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 this sounds like a horrible question but her bf is absolutely crazy. he threatens to hurt her, her family and even her friends whenever they fight, he's over emotional, possessive and insecure. She likes him for his looks (he's good looking at 6'1 which is pretty tall) and I guess she is now attached because they have had sex. I can be a way better bf to her than he can ever be, she actually admits that he's stupid/not right for her and crazy YET she ALWAYS goes back to him. How can I take her away from him? I'm kind of in the friend zone but I've been breaking the touch barrier, she knows I like her and we still hang out every now and then. What can I do? We've been friends for 5-6 years and she only met him a few months ago.
Sid6.7 Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 Just one question. Why do you want to play captain save a ho? P.S. After 5-6 years she is never going to have sex with you. 3
TLY22 Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 There's not really much you can do except let her learn (not get physically hurt or anything!). She will have to break away herself, and eventually she will be able to. Right now, you are just the 'nice guy', and unfortunately, if she ends up with you, it will be because she has a broken heart and needs comforting; your relationship probably won't last once she stops and realises that. On the other hand, you could end up happy and together for a long time. You pretty much just be her friend, don't over-comfort, don't run to her aid every time she's upset or hurt. Show her you're genuine, but not there to baby her. She's a big girl, she'll figure it out soon enough.
TLY22 Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 P.S. After 5-6 years she is never going to have sex with you. Friend-zone. You can almost guarantee that you're in it for the long haul. 1
Author Glove_slap Posted May 5, 2012 Author Posted May 5, 2012 Just one question. Why do you want to play captain save a ho? P.S. After 5-6 years she is never going to have sex with you. I'm not trying to save her. We already had sex one time last year (we were both drunk).
Sid6.7 Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 I'm not trying to save her. We already had sex one time last year (we were both drunk). Get her drunk again.
Quiet Storm Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 If she is putting up with all of this crap just because he's good looking, then you don't want this girl. She is emotionally damaged. Knight in shining armor syndrome. Google it. 1
BewitchedandBothered Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 If she had to get drunk to have sex with you; that should tell you something. Get someone worthy of your time. 2
whichwayisup Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 this sounds like a horrible question but her bf is absolutely crazy. he threatens to hurt her, her family and even her friends whenever they fight, he's over emotional, possessive and insecure. She likes him for his looks (he's good looking at 6'1 which is pretty tall) and I guess she is now attached because they have had sex. I can be a way better bf to her than he can ever be, she actually admits that he's stupid/not right for her and crazy YET she ALWAYS goes back to him. How can I take her away from him? I'm kind of in the friend zone but I've been breaking the touch barrier, she knows I like her and we still hang out every now and then. What can I do? We've been friends for 5-6 years and she only met him a few months ago. She is in an uhealthy relationship, and obviously is addicted to the drama. If she wanted out, she would end it.. They have a dynamic that happens and (sorry you may not want to hear this) but those kinds of relationships are usually quite passionate and the sex is very good. That is probably a huge reason why she's still with him because of that intensity and drama, make up sex. Tons of people get into these types of relationships and they are hard to end. That and she is weak, insecure too.. There's nothing you can do.
yongyong Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 Don't invest your time and emotion in a bitch like that. 'oh baby I love you. I can treat you better. we will be a happy couple' She will laugh at you and go back to him to suck his cock that night while telling him 'so this guy I've know for a while, told he how much he loved me. what a loser. some guys never get it LOL, babe you can cum in mouth, please??' I hope this wakes you up. Watch 'last american virgin' movie. hopefully you learn some lesson.
BewitchedandBothered Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 Email the Dr. Phil show. I would definitely go with Jerry Springer for this one, LOL
Sid6.7 Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 I would definitely go with Jerry Springer for this one, LOL Or the other one. The results are in: You are NOT the father!
FrustratedStandards Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 Eeeek! Why do you want to be with a girl like that? She has no backbone, no self-control and clearly the threats don't outweigh his good looks....so why do you even want to be with her? 1
samsungxoxo Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 Eeeek! Why do you want to be with a girl like that? She has no backbone, no self-control and clearly the threats don't outweigh his good looks....so why do you even want to be with her?I agreed. Who would would want to settle for someone like that? I sure wouldn't want to be anyone's rescuer.
Gulf-Delta Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 (edited) this sounds like a horrible question but her bf is absolutely crazy. he threatens to hurt her, her family and even her friends whenever they fight, he's over emotional, possessive and insecure. She likes him for his looks (he's good looking at 6'1 which is pretty tall) and I guess she is now attached because they have had sex. I can be a way better bf to her than he can ever be, she actually admits that he's stupid/not right for her and crazy YET she ALWAYS goes back to him. How can I take her away from him? I'm kind of in the friend zone but I've been breaking the touch barrier, she knows I like her and we still hang out every now and then. What can I do? We've been friends for 5-6 years and she only met him a few months ago. Don't do it dude. Prior to meeting me, my girlfriend was living with (though not dating anymore) a drug addict. At the time, he was only on sleeping pills/animal tranquilizers. He smokes crack now. She hated him, but couldn't leave because she had nowhere to go. She met me, moved in, and things were great. Then she left me for someone else (I suspect) a few months ago.. It's a lose-lose. If sh'es willing to leave one guy for another, she's bound to do it again. I "rescued" her because we were in love, and either way, she had to get out of there. But she could leave you just as easily, even if she sees you as a "hero" now. You could risk it. I did, and it was the best 2 years of my life...but just remember, you ARE RISKING getting hurt. Tread with caution. Edited May 5, 2012 by Gulf-Delta
Author Glove_slap Posted May 5, 2012 Author Posted May 5, 2012 thanks everyone. It seems like almost all girls are in this kind of relationship without ever realizing it. Why I wonder? do they like the drama? Do they like the "special attention"? I'm not sure. I don't think I will ever understand it.
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