Sophia12345 Posted May 4, 2012 Posted May 4, 2012 I accidently posted this in the dating section..... woops! Anyway I was doing so well one week successful NC ( I know it's not long but I felt I had acheived something) My phone called, his name poped up and i answered without even thinking. Someone told him i was pregnant LOL what a joke, then i found out it was his bro playing a prank. Anyway I wasnt even bothered about that, the bit of the convo that got me was the fact i was named the EX He and his brother had called me his EX HIS EX Its like its all just become real This is seriously it. i dont know what to do like litterally panicing like anything right now, im offically the EX I text him saying I cant be freinds with you, im not ready for that its just hit me that this is all it and so on. he text me back saying he doesnt want any other girls he wouldnt do that and isnt doing that. I said is this really it, and he said 'whatever happens happens darling'. WHY IS HE SAYING DARLING FFS WERE NOT TOGETHER, HE DOESNT WANT ME WHY IS HE DOING THIS. he allways calls me darling but why the hell is he doing it now, doesnt talk to me for a week then DARLING ergh i wish he knew what he wanted. just needed to vent instead of texting him again, that just gets me into trouble.
sweetheart5381 Posted May 4, 2012 Posted May 4, 2012 I accidently posted this in the dating section..... woops! Anyway I was doing so well one week successful NC ( I know it's not long but I felt I had acheived something) My phone called, his name poped up and i answered without even thinking. Someone told him i was pregnant LOL what a joke, then i found out it was his bro playing a prank. Anyway I wasnt even bothered about that, the bit of the convo that got me was the fact i was named the EX He and his brother had called me his EX HIS EX Its like its all just become real This is seriously it. i dont know what to do like litterally panicing like anything right now, im offically the EX I text him saying I cant be freinds with you, im not ready for that its just hit me that this is all it and so on. he text me back saying he doesnt want any other girls he wouldnt do that and isnt doing that. I said is this really it, and he said 'whatever happens happens darling'. WHY IS HE SAYING DARLING FFS WERE NOT TOGETHER, HE DOESNT WANT ME WHY IS HE DOING THIS. he allways calls me darling but why the hell is he doing it now, doesnt talk to me for a week then DARLING ergh i wish he knew what he wanted. just needed to vent instead of texting him again, that just gets me into trouble. He wants you to be his puppet. That's his only desire. And he doesn't mind if his bro joins in the fun. Big, HUGE red flag. Disgusting. His lack of respect is seriously despicable... take out the trash. Forget the "darling", "honey" etc. Those are pet names designed to give you a label/purpose... aka to service him when he wants. You have a name, an identity, he should use it. Especially if you are now the "ex". 2
Author Sophia12345 Posted May 4, 2012 Author Posted May 4, 2012 He wants you to be his puppet. That's his only desire. And he doesn't mind if his bro joins in the fun. Big, HUGE red flag. Disgusting. His lack of respect is seriously despicable... take out the trash. Forget the "darling", "honey" etc. Those are pet names designed to give you a label/purpose... aka to service him when he wants. You have a name, an identity, he should use it. Especially if you are now the "ex". I need to accept that this is now who he is. Even through reading your post i was thinking NO! Hes not that kind of person, he wouldnt do that, he means it. Yet at the same time i KNOW you are right. Wow I wish i could just listening to one part of my mind not flitter with my feelings...
sweetheart5381 Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 I need to accept that this is now who he is. Even through reading your post i was thinking NO! Hes not that kind of person, he wouldnt do that, he means it. Yet at the same time i KNOW you are right. Wow I wish i could just listening to one part of my mind not flitter with my feelings... When the feelings are fresh, still lingering, it's very hard to see the true person you are dealing with. Give it a month or 2 without contact, chances are good that you will see him very, very differently than right now, as the man you fell in love with. That new voice will be your gut talking. Listen to it! Trust me... been around the block, lol. Imo, "Falling in love" with another often means that you see them through "rose coloured glasses". There is a crazy high associated with this feeling (chemical), along with alot of pride which says that you MUST be right, they MUST be your match or you wouldn't have fallen in love. It's incredibly hard to accept the fact that you were wrong in your judgment. Between chemical reactions and pride... well it's just easier to be "in love" than see reality. Just wait awhile my friend, your feelings will change once you stand back and become a spectator (NC) rather than a participant.
Author Sophia12345 Posted May 6, 2012 Author Posted May 6, 2012 When the feelings are fresh, still lingering, it's very hard to see the true person you are dealing with. Give it a month or 2 without contact, chances are good that you will see him very, very differently than right now, as the man you fell in love with. That new voice will be your gut talking. Listen to it! Trust me... been around the block, lol. Imo, "Falling in love" with another often means that you see them through "rose coloured glasses". There is a crazy high associated with this feeling (chemical), along with alot of pride which says that you MUST be right, they MUST be your match or you wouldn't have fallen in love. It's incredibly hard to accept the fact that you were wrong in your judgment. Between chemical reactions and pride... well it's just easier to be "in love" than see reality. Just wait awhile my friend, your feelings will change once you stand back and become a spectator (NC) rather than a participant. Thanks for this, Im getting there in accepting everything. I don't get how he can do it now, im going out of my mind as I broke my ankle about 2 months ago and basically became house bound as a result! All my freinds are at uni ( i normally visit them all ALOT) so all i've had time to do is think about whats happened its driving me CRAZY! I feel like im sinking into the role of a "spectator" its like I can sense what he is going to do right before he does and im ALLWAYS right. I have this gut feeling he is going to come back to me once im over this whole thing, then again i bet it allways works that way.
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