ohmygoshistalk Posted May 4, 2012 Posted May 4, 2012 Suppose there was a person who's sweet and nice to you..but you just want to bang them. The person clearly likes you more than sex but you just don't want to get into that (maybe too busy in life or shes not the type u can bring to meet your parents), would you string her along to keep her interested? What are the signs that you are being strung along? Thanks.
veggirl Posted May 4, 2012 Posted May 4, 2012 signs you're being strung along include, but are not limited to: -The other person never wants to make it "official", you are not their BF/GF. -"dates" revolve around sex...either the "date" is just a hang out and sex or something to kill time til sex. -you don't meet significant people in their lives (ex: family, friends) -they don't share important events with you-like an event where they need a date, you aren't it. those don't individually always mean being strung along, of course, but...bottomline: if you think you may be being strung along, you probably are. 1
Ninjainpajamas Posted May 4, 2012 Posted May 4, 2012 Suppose there was a person who's sweet and nice to you..but you just want to bang them. The person clearly likes you more than sex but you just don't want to get into that (maybe too busy in life or shes not the type u can bring to meet your parents), would you string her along to keep her interested? Sweet and nice, I'll never understand why women believe that simple things like this mean that a man is interested in more than just sex...Is he supposed to beat you and curse you then have sex with you? What do you think a man is supposed to do? treat you like a piece of dirt? I really don't get it. The way a man treats a woman is generally how a man treats a woman, personality and charms, sweet things, nice words/gestures these are not things exclusive to just women he wants to date...so if a man treats a prostitute like a human being does that mean he wants to sweep her off her feet like in pretty woman? no It's just being a human being and who that man is. To answer your question however, most definitely. If there is no time table or hurry for him, especially If he has another agenda then what's the point in doing anything about it? you're going with the flow, sitting on your hands, there's no issues on his part...in his mind it's just a light and fun thing where you can enjoy each others company. What are the signs that you are being strung along? - No mention of the future - Limited time availability - Limited investment - No invitation into the personal life unless that personal life excludes other women he is interested in or he doesn't really have close family..Friends just get a chuckle out of it - You meet around his schedule, no grand effort/gesture that shows great interest - He doesn't do the little things which are the most difficult for men - Emotional distance/barrier...excuses of why he's off limits emotionally, some grand personal thing in his life preventing this
Cypress25 Posted May 4, 2012 Posted May 4, 2012 Sweet and nice, I'll never understand why women believe that simple things like this mean that a man is interested in more than just sex...Is he supposed to beat you and curse you then have sex with you? What do you think a man is supposed to do? treat you like a piece of dirt? I really don't get it. I think you misunderstood. It sounded like the OP was saying the woman is sweet and nice, but the man is only interested in sex. When a woman finds out that she was being used for sex, she often thinks "But I have such a great personality and I was so sweet to him, how come he only wanted me for sex?!"
pteromom Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 - No mention of the future Nah, some stringers are VERY good about talking about the future - even marriage and children. It's all about keeping the woman hanging on ("He must love me! He talked about having children with me!") But the key is whether it is always just talk. It's VERY EASY to say anything. It's easy to say "I love you." It's easy to say "I have never met anyone as special as you." It's easy to smile into someone's eyes and say something profound and touching. But do the ACTIONS back that up? If someone LOVES you, they will value you. They will accept you as you are. They will prioritize you. They will be proud to be with you. If they don't, you are likely being strung along.
joystickd Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 I just thought about this song when I saw this thread
yongyong Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 When she asks about relationship question, this is the line you have to use. 'I like you, I like spending time with you' that's it. no more explanation. If she keeps bugging you about making an 'verbal contract', then you can tell her the truth and move on.
Quiet Storm Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 What are the signs that you are being strung along? He's busy or MIA when you really need him.
Cypress25 Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 When she asks about relationship question, this is the line you have to use. 'I like you, I like spending time with you' that's it. no more explanation. If she keeps bugging you about making an 'verbal contract', then you can tell her the truth and move on. Hehe, I think the OP is a woman asking how she can tell if her man is stringing her along, not a man asking how to successfully string a woman along. But your advice is terribly dishonest. If a man just wants sex, he should have the guts to be honest about it instead of evading the question and breaking some poor girl's heart. I don't know how some people can live without guilt when they selfishly use others for their own benefit. 1
MrNate 2.0 Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 if you think you may be being strung along, you probably are. It's that easy.
yongyong Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 It sounded like a guy. Anyways, your advice is more terrible. when you meet someone, it's not like buying a freakin car. they don't have list all the things on the paper. (eg: what their intentions are) You are one of those women who thinks women are the only victim if they break up after having sex. Plenty of women use guys for sex. Personally, I want to have a relationship with a girl I have sex with. If I bring it up after few times of having sex, she will get scared and run a away. should I chase this bitch and beat her because she used me? A girl can hold off sex till they agree they are in a relationship. but she is also running a risk for losing a guy. Hehe, I think the OP is a woman asking how she can tell if her man is stringing her along, not a man asking how to successfully string a woman along. But your advice is terribly dishonest. If a man just wants sex, he should have the guts to be honest about it instead of evading the question and breaking some poor girl's heart. I don't know how some people can live without guilt when they selfishly use others for their own benefit.
Cypress25 Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 Plenty of women use guys for sex. They shouldn't do that either. I'm not condoning anyone using people.
fflolhaha Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 dammit, I was doing that to someone. I felt like crap. honestly. But.. uggh. It's tough. Too much is out there on the internet. Porn. You go on facebook and will always find someone cuter than yours. Yeah.. internet has just ruined life. We're chronically jealous as a society now it sucks.
musemaj11 Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 For every man using a man for sex, there is a woman using a man for money. So meh, just common occurrence in life.
Feelin Frisky Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 Never. It's just against my core to show someone a false face that says I love you and care about you when inside, I don't and just want them to relieve my sexual buildup. That's just wrong in ways I wouldn't accept of myself--criminal in certain senses and wouldn't occur to me.
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