Chrisal23 Posted May 4, 2012 Posted May 4, 2012 Ok it's easier said than done. Yes I understand time helps and it has somewhat. I've been going out with my ex for 2 years. We had an on and off relationship. I always came back to her and never really minded that I did it. Now this time is different cause after she broke up with me I beat myself up reminding myself that I can't always go back, and that it takes 2 not just me every time. So it's been about a month with NC and I feel somewhat better but I still miss her and wish things were a lot different. In the end I keep feeling that If we never go back out that it was me who let that opportunity go :/ is this true? And is a girl coming back to a guy not right? Does it always have to be the guy? This is how me ex believes and how her mom taught her. Someone let me know what you think please.
Exit Posted May 4, 2012 Posted May 4, 2012 Totally unfair to tell yourself that either you fix it, or noone does. It's not just you letting the opportunity go. That implies that she has all the worth and value and you have none. You should want someone who would value and miss you as well, and who would want to fix things even if they have to be the one to initiate it. Don't always blame yourself or some day you'll wake up and realize you're in a relationship where it's all give and no take. If you've always been the one to take the first step to getting back together, I'd say it's due time to be the idle one and let her be the one to show that she cares, or the relationship is over for good. Is time enough? Not necessarily, but sometimes it's your only option. I'm about to hit the 6 month mark since getting dumped. Has time healed all my wounds? No. But it has helped.
Author Chrisal23 Posted May 4, 2012 Author Posted May 4, 2012 Thanks Exit. You're complete right and I always felt somewhat pressured to live up to her expectations being afraid she would leave me. This time I'm going to see what this relationship really was. Wow 6 moths is a long time but I have a strong feeling I will reach that mark as well and probably never be back with her. I think time helps a lot, the only time it backfires is when you remember old memories and take a couple steps backwards. I want to make new friends as well since being a lone feels worse when you know the other person has many people to cushion on. I wonder though how can someone just walk away and make it look so easy? Maybe there wasn't true love present or maybe I gave too much love for this girl.
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