foolishlover Posted May 4, 2012 Posted May 4, 2012 Hi all, I have been on this forum way too many times. Everytime I write here is when i have been struck by heartbreak. Yet again, my ex has been so horrible to me that I had to leave. I dont understand why we keep going back together, but i know it isnt right. This will be the third time we broke up. on the most recent break up, it lasted for a month and I had found a new normal. He wouldnt stop messaging me and he came over saying everything i wanted to hear. That he made many mistakes and in hindsight, feels really guilty and horrible for his actions. He said he wants to spend his life with me and no one else and would promise never to raise his voice and yell at me again. I said ive lost all the emotion but happy to see him as a friend. Surely enough, in time, we got back together. Same problems arose about a month after (exactly how i expected). On one night, he did and said something that made me so upset, that I left the room and cried in the bathroom. Looking back, I did that cause I was afraid to let him see me cry cause all he does is roll his eyes. So after i cried it all out, i came out and he yells at me for being upset. He goes i dont know why you are crying in there. What is wrong with you? Cant you take a joke now? Who the f**k cries in the bathroom. Are you a rape victim? I didnt speak to him for 2 days after that and thought, ill just let it blow over and start talking to him like normal. He then gives me the silent treatment and says because i didnt speak to him for 2 days, he is going to play 'my game' and not let this blow over. I was stunned how he not at one point ever looked back at his own actions and only blamed me for everything. He would even bring up issues from the past which we both agreed we would let go. He also has many issues and mistakes from the past but i didnt at all bring them up cause we agreed it was over and we wanted to start on a clean slate, so bringing it up in my opinion is poor form. I dont know, but i know for sure this is the right thing. Im upset, sad, but dont know why. he turned into a horrible man. It just feels like these on off relationships are such a vicious cycle that I cant get myself out of. How can some people be SO NICE to you when they want you back, and once they have you, turn into a complete *******. He does this every time! When do you stop giving second chances?????
Philosoraptor Posted May 4, 2012 Posted May 4, 2012 It's normal to act really nice when you want something. Did you not try to be on your best behavior as a child when you wanted something? His words may have changed but his actions sure haven't. You know what you are dealing with so try and use this as your final wakeup call to not take this man back. 1
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