Author Gulf-Delta Posted May 5, 2012 Author Posted May 5, 2012 Because it just happened. You won't heal magically over night; time has to pass. In the meantime you have to do things for yourself; stay active, volunteer, etc. Just don't lay around and obsess over it. Cry it out, but don't allow yourself to stay in that negative area for too long. it will be awhile before you reach the acceptance stage. The NC just started. The breakup was months ago.
BewitchedandBothered Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 The NC just started. The breakup was months ago. It's still the beginning; you should have gone NC when you broke up. Going NC may as well have been the beginning because you just recently stopped contact. Essentially it just happened.
sweetheart5381 Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 I cried today about him. Been awhile. We see each other everyday at work, its tough but I have been very strong. Today was a challenge. He seeks my attention, he likes it. He goes out of his way to pay attention to me, even though he ended it. I avoid it, though I miss him too. After awhile you just have to cry and let it out. All good.
Author Gulf-Delta Posted May 5, 2012 Author Posted May 5, 2012 It's still the beginning; you should have gone NC when you broke up. Going NC may as well have been the beginning because you just recently stopped contact. Essentially it just happened. Yeah, but we needed each other when the breakup happened. We talked to each other about the breakup and were there for each other...I feel like it was necessary at the time.
BewitchedandBothered Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 Yeah, but we needed each other when the breakup happened. We talked to each other about the breakup and were there for each other...I feel like it was necessary at the time. NC made the breakup official, so it's still very new. 1
Feelin Frisky Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 I cry. But rarely out of sadness. I am moved to tears by a lot of things but a lot of it depends on my state of mind at the time. I comes more quickly if I'm sleep deprived for instance. As a former drug abuser I found my tears coming very easily at times--mostly all ones of joy or the emotion of awe. I have busted out in a few really negative bouts in my adult life but usually alcohol was involved. My use of Prozac inhibits the ease with which I use to feel tears. I have no frequency of tears. They just come mostly at times of inspiration and awe. I cried sad tears when I watched the aftermath of the earthquake in Haiti but what made it so personally compelling at that moment was the absolute excellence of the photo/video journalism. Being a lover, student and artist myself, I appreciate excellent work and the night of the quake some producer at CNN put together one of the most awe inspiring works that needed no narration. Just one short moving picture after another many of which captured children emerging from the "liquifaction"--sort of an instant mud that happenes when the ground violantly shakes and the water in it tends to find other hidden droplets and turn into a muddy consistency--bewildered children not understanding what happened to them and if their parents were alive or what the future holds. Whoever put that together was able to say in just ten minutes more visceral imagery that a million words rported that day. Each picture was a masterful slice of life that communicated the disaster in a way that all of the reporting couldn't. I found myself weeping at the sadness. Stuff like that can touch me greatly. Happy tears come when excellence and achievement just overwhelm. It may seem dumb to some people but I watched the NT Devils hockey playoff game last night and a very talented player with a long career name Patric Elias had the puck about 35 feet out from the opposing team's goal. he could see a spot of weakness the width of the puck. He looked down at the puck, looked up again, and shot that tiny spot just enough for a puck to fit and scored. As I recalled his career and his talent, just 20 seconds later his team steamed in three men on two defenders and scored a beauty of another goal to come from behind and go ahead. The power of the momentum and the crowd reminded me of all the years I've watched the Stanly Cup playoffs and why I love hockey--even though I forget some time during the rest of the year. It's those moments of extreme talent firing up heroics and making such a momentous statement that fans like me who really understand the drama of the sport get goose pimples and occasional tears about. The "walk-off home run" in baseball is the most exciting play in that sport--someone hits a home run to put the team ahead and end the game. Well in hockey and in the playoffs, every time there's OT the game is gong to end in the equivalent of a "walk off home run" and frantic sequences of men giving their all and coming close over and over only to cap it all off with a victory score for your team and all the guys mobbing each other and the fans leaving their feet, is often moving. When my team, the Islanders one their first Stanley Cup, they showed one o the player's wives beside herself with tears in the moment. It was contagious. These dramas can really seem bigger than life when all the sequences threatened sudden loss or sudden glory. If you love the sport and appreciate the tribulations of certain players to achieve milestones, the drama is more compelling than any movie. You can't take away the achievement--it's real and we keep it alive forever. I felt that same chill of tears last night watching the sequence of events that led to justice for Osama Bin Laden. The way the interviews of Hillary Clinton and others party to the room where the operation could be observed added drama and consequence I never felt without the goo journalistic work of Brian Williams and NBC to commemorate the event. At the end as people heard about it on Twitter and congregated outside the White House in a wild display of patriotism, I got that chill and a tear that yeah, this is something everyone involved should get a huge hug for and I really let it go when Hillary Clinton just framed it best that "It's over". That was what victory feels like--imperfect as it may be. It was just what VP Joe Biden said, "you do something like that to America and we'll chase you to the gates of hell to show our capacity and our will". God damn right.
biscwa Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 I cried every night in my bed like a little baby. I cried throughout the day, while walking on the street, sitting at my desk at work, in gym while during crunches, I cried when I smell ex's perfume on the street. It's uncontrollable, I don't know when it will come, one minute I'm functioning fine, the next minutes it just all pours out. I'm avoiding all romance songs and movies. I won't look at any happy couples in the streets.
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