coloradobrian Posted May 4, 2012 Posted May 4, 2012 I spent the last 4 and half months trying to get back with my ex who i didn't treat as good as i should have. Anyway I finally put the ball in her court, after she led me on. I was emotionally taxed. I feel depressed and all of my relationships are suffering, I cant even converse with anyone right, its like there is a window between me and everybody. My energy is so negative... it sucks. what can I do to get my game face back right?
FitChick Posted May 4, 2012 Posted May 4, 2012 Sometimes a bad relationship is merely a lesson we have to learn before we can move on to someone better. What is your lesson? 2
Exit Posted May 4, 2012 Posted May 4, 2012 Things will start to come back to normal if you are able to leave her alone for good this time. If you were continuing to pursue her then you still haven't really started to heal yet, so you'll need some time for that, you'll still feel like crap for a while, but bit by bit IF you are able to leave it alone, time will do its thing and eventually you'll get better. 2
Mr Scorpio Posted May 4, 2012 Posted May 4, 2012 You have to let your 'clock' start running. Different people take different amounts of time to heal from different traumas. With breakups, your emotions and mind might begin to return to normal once enough time has elapsed. That is assuming that you dont expose yourself to more of the trauma by contacting your ex. 2
tman666 Posted May 4, 2012 Posted May 4, 2012 I'm assuming from your username that you also live in CO. My suggestion is to get outside and enjoy everything our great state has to offer! Go fishing, hiking, mountain biking, etc. Above all, forgive her and forgive yourself. Human beings stumble and fall, but we get back up, dust ourselves off, and move on with bigger and better things. 2
Mack05 Posted May 10, 2012 Posted May 10, 2012 From a guy who is not a depressive person but went through a bout of depression last year the best advice I can give you is to go for a daily run (not in the gym). It is the best cure I promise you. Preferably somewhere that's a little scenic and not many cars around. After awhile it makes you so mentally tough. Running has completely changed my life... Time on the open road helps you refocus and the rest takes care of itself.. 2
emilywtf Posted May 12, 2012 Posted May 12, 2012 Hey, I'm in Colorado, too I'd suggest starting small, doing something you normally enjoy but haven't done in a while- Hike, bike, go to a bar or club, have game night with friends, etc. I am in the middle of big depression from my divorce so I sympathize. It can be hard to get your "game face" on until your heart and mind have healed some. Don't force things, that doesn't always help matters, and on occasion can make things worse. I hope things work out for you. 2
pureinheart Posted May 13, 2012 Posted May 13, 2012 I spent the last 4 and half months trying to get back with my ex who i didn't treat as good as i should have. Anyway I finally put the ball in her court, after she led me on. I was emotionally taxed. I feel depressed and all of my relationships are suffering, I cant even converse with anyone right, its like there is a window between me and everybody. My energy is so negative... it sucks. what can I do to get my game face back right? Change your mind. Speak good and possitive stuff over your heart and mind. I have been where you are sooooo many times. It's about putting one foot in front of the other...I'm doing this right now too. I remember one relationship that went bad...I laid on my couch for days. My ex had left me with a big mess, half finished projects in the house...sooooo I got upo and fixed one thing, then finished another and so on. Before I knew it I was back to work, after that got called back to my normal career, met an awesome guy, and came into a nice sum of money. One step, one day at a time....good luck love:) 1
pureinheart Posted May 13, 2012 Posted May 13, 2012 Wow, these are some of the most awesome responses I've seen for a long time!
Feelin Frisky Posted May 13, 2012 Posted May 13, 2012 Time really does heal all emotional wounds (or helps heal). But that's a simple generalization that does not take into account that each personal has a unique brain chemistry, some have healthier rates of capacity growth which give them an edge and last but not least each person has a unique load on their plate which may make it harder for some to overcome stuff that is mat be less difficult for others. I know how this stuff works and I'm sure you don't deliberate before you bring your angst into relationship if a different nature. I sought help because I had to think that the complaining and drag I was being to other people who would politely put up my replaying the tape of last night's insanity with my BPD g/f. It a bit much to ask any human to have to just use logic to reason their way out by themselves. That where AD meds come in. Work with a psychiatrist is essential to get a correct handle on what under-operating and what could best benefit from enhancement. Going it alone because of some sense of bravado, or old fashion purism can foolishly overload your capacity.
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