Dragonsden Posted May 4, 2012 Posted May 4, 2012 and pretend I am on the right path to completely heal. Some days I wish I could just go off at her but I dont want to be weak or atleast seem weak. This all doesnt make sense. I dont want her back. I dont wanna think about her. I dont wanna see her as a good thing that happened to me because she wasnt. So why am I miserable at times??? Is it because I am lonely?? I dont wanna jump to another relationship without feeling 100% recovered but could part of the recovery could be dating again. What if it doesnt feel the same?? Would it backfire and end up making me feel worse??
jennisfora Posted May 4, 2012 Posted May 4, 2012 i went on a few dates, and figured out i wasnt ready. just wasnt feeling it. i also was angry for a bit, i am coming out of that now, but, now i feel like im done crying, and no longer bitter and angry, but kinda numb? just dont feel much of anything, very passive and apathetic. i miss the anger and the sadness now. i miss feeling. hope this passes. you can try dating. it will be apparent right away if you are ready or not. if not, can it for awhile. that's what i am doing. if you do date, do it casually. dont let yourself get into anything too deep.
Philosoraptor Posted May 4, 2012 Posted May 4, 2012 If you're holding onto anger then let it pass. Look at the stages of grief, depression is part of it. Here is the painful but effective "am I ready to start a new relationship" test. Imagine your ex sharing everything you two shared, and what you wanted to share, but with another person. If that doesn't turn the stomach and hurt then you are in good shape.
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