Sing Posted May 4, 2012 Posted May 4, 2012 I was right.. I knew I was right. He left me for someone else, he just wasn't man enough to say it, instead he used that we argue as his reason to end us. It's been two days and he's with her, with all his friends HAPPY.. What am I doing? Spending most of my day crying over him. I don't know if this is what you call gigs? We were having our arguments and he would never talk, we could have fixed them.. Then he met someone else and got rid of me.. All that time together gone like it ment nothing. I know I don't want him back and I know once I pull myself together I'll be okay. But he made me feel so bad when he ended it, he told me it was my fault, I make him unhappy and argue with him all the time. Two days before he met this girl he told me we were going to talk about us and make it work because he wants it to work. Met her, dumped me and now they are acting like we used to act together how can he do that? Forgot all about me, that hurts. I feel like shouting at him, calling him up and letting him have it for been such an ass but what would be the point? He would deny it, lie his way out of it. Well goodluck to them both.. Tell me contacting him would be a bad idea, it's been too days no contact, I don't want him to win.
darkmoon Posted May 4, 2012 Posted May 4, 2012 you need to get out more, this brooding will only be ok for a time, leave him and contact friends to go out with, go out more, i hate to say it but if you contact him you will look like you can't quite let go, no more brooding then please
Mindfr3ak Posted May 4, 2012 Posted May 4, 2012 (edited) Why even bothering with him?Forget what happened,if you werent enough for him,you will be to someone else. And yeah,you stated that you dont want him to "win",right?Well he already lost-you! If it is gigs,he will be back eventually,but when that time comes,you will already be over him.So look at it that way,you havent lost,you actually won,won some experience in life and a good lesson for next time. Edited May 4, 2012 by Mindfr3ak 1
Dragonsden Posted May 4, 2012 Posted May 4, 2012 On the bright side at least he didnt use "you pay for dinners" as an excuse to leave you for someone else.
Author Sing Posted May 4, 2012 Author Posted May 4, 2012 I won't contact him, what would be the point. I do have plans for tomorow to get me out, I'm just gonna sleep on this. It's hard to understand how someone can change.
Fitz Posted May 4, 2012 Posted May 4, 2012 It's hard to understand how someone can change. He didn't change. You were just never exposed to this side of him before. The only thing that's changed is that he put someone new in the girlfriend job position. Now that you don't hold the position anymore, he has no motive to shield you from the darker side of his personality anymore.
sarahkm Posted May 4, 2012 Posted May 4, 2012 speaking from experience, the best thing you can do is to disconnect from him and sever all ties completely. It took me a loooong time to realize this, but once you do (block the number, cut ALL online connections - facebook, myspace, twitter, dropbox, email, gchat, if you can think of it, do it). And finally you get a sense of control. You won't be wondering if he's contacting you or thinking of you, b/c you cut ties. You can't know and not knowing in times like these is better than knowing. If you're still getting texts, it will throw you off your healing process. And they don't usually text to get back together. They text to feed their ego. I know it's counterintuitive, but it's odd how much you better you will feel if he's not ABLE to contact you and distract you from healing and focusing on yourself.
wilsonx Posted May 4, 2012 Posted May 4, 2012 He didn't change. You were just never exposed to this side of him before. The only thing that's changed is that he put someone new in the girlfriend job position. Now that you don't hold the position anymore, he has no motive to shield you from the darker side of his personality anymore. She went looking, he did shield her by pushing her away.
Leigh 87 Posted May 4, 2012 Posted May 4, 2012 If you find a guy who falls in love with you and is crazy about you, this will never happen. Promise. If a guy is really into a girl ( i.e, crazy about her, has strong feelings for her) he will not leave her for another girl so easily. Obviously, this guy did not care or feel towards you that strongly. A guy who feels strongly about a girl cannot just get with another girl 2 days later; he did. It sucks that u really had feelings for him, but he obviously did not have strong feelimgs for u; his feelimgs were not strong, so he was able to move on quick. Sorry to heat your hurting - why not use this time to go for a run, and improve yourself, so you can attract and meet a guy/guys who really LIKE you. You will never have to worry about a guy just leaving u in that way, if you have a guy who likes you a lot:)
ToyWithMe812 Posted May 4, 2012 Posted May 4, 2012 If you find a guy who falls in love with you and is crazy about you, this will never happen. Promise. If a guy is really into a girl ( i.e, crazy about her, has strong feelings for her) he will not leave her for another girl so easily. Obviously, this guy did not care or feel towards you that strongly. A guy who feels strongly about a girl cannot just get with another girl 2 days later; he did. It sucks that u really had feelings for him, but he obviously did not have strong feelimgs for u; his feelimgs were not strong, so he was able to move on quick. Sorry to heat your hurting - why not use this time to go for a run, and improve yourself, so you can attract and meet a guy/guys who really LIKE you. You will never have to worry about a guy just leaving u in that way, if you have a guy who likes you a lot:) Sheep in wolve's clothing can fool either sex, for however long they choose, just a fact. And honestly, she might not need to run to "improve herself," that is thrown around a lot on here, she might already be hot, or she might even need to throw on a few pounds, who knows. Technically, you will always have to worry, but the more knowledge you gain in relationships, the more ammo you have goin in to the next one, which simply means you can't worry all the time, but you have to rebuild your ability to trust, which is not easy. There is no manual to love, follow it or not, it is always a risk, even if you get burned again...
Leigh 87 Posted May 4, 2012 Posted May 4, 2012 Sheep in wolve's clothing can fool either sex, for however long they choose, just a fact. And honestly, she might not need to run to "improve herself," that is thrown around a lot on here, she might already be hot, or she might even need to throw on a few pounds, who knows. Technically, you will always have to worry, but the more knowledge you gain in relationships, the more ammo you have goin in to the next one, which simply means you can't worry all the time, but you have to rebuild your ability to trust, which is not easy. There is no manual to love, follow it or not, it is always a risk, even if you get burned again... I am not saying she is hot good enough in terms of hotness or pesonality: I am saying THIS guy was not into her - if he did really like her, he would not be able to get a new girlfriend in 2 days. Ask ANY guy; if they are really into a girl, would they folrget about her and get a new girl within days? NO. Even if the girl cheated, the guy would need to get over her, and at best, try rebound sex with no comittment or feelimgs involved; after all, if you have strong feelings for someone else, it is very hard to forget about them and fall hard for others. This girl just needs to realize what it is to find a guy who likes her enough, andd shows it, so she knows he is not the type to dump her and get a new girl a day or two later....... Yes, some guys are narcisistic or have personal issues, where they TRICK girls, pretending they like them a lot, then ditching them when bored....However, MOST men, when they like a girl, it becomes apparant thruogh their actions. I guess there is no way of knowing for sure if a guy is genuine, until it becomes serious. Even then, people can fool you, true. A good bet, would be to pay attention to the in love couples you know perosnally, and see how people who are really in love with each other act... Talk to male friends about how they shwo they are really into a girl. You know? Try to observe and get inside the guys head space a bit more.
ToyWithMe812 Posted May 4, 2012 Posted May 4, 2012 Ask ANY guy; if they are really into a girl, would they folrget about her and get a new girl within days? NO If she was the one that had screwed him over and she was hot, no prob...but in this case, yes, I agree. But that goes whether a dude or a chick, if it is someone you love, you don't f them over like that. Flat out, his feelings were not genuine.
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