kaelbear Posted May 3, 2012 Posted May 3, 2012 I've been with my boyfriend for a year however I'm really not sure if I can stay with him much longer. I found out some things about his past I never expected like he's slept with 14 girls, 2 of them who I see on a regular basis because they are now dating 2 of his friends (which is extremely awkward and weird to me). I constantly picture him having sex with them and what feelings he must have had for them. I feel like they look at me and see me as having their leftovers or they look at me saying "I've seen your boyfriend naked and he's been inside me." It makes me sick. I also can't help but feel like he pictures having sex with them whenever they're in each others company or that when he and I are being intimate that he's really picturing them instead of me. I don't know how to get these images out of my head. I've told him my feelings and he said he dated the one and supposedly she liked him but he didn't have feelings for her (then why have sex!) and the other was a drunken one night stand "because she was there." I want to believe him but I can't because why would he have sex with someone he wasnt attracted to or interested in. He swears he loves me and only thinks of me and only wants to be with me, but I will never be able to fully love him now with these things on my mind. Please help
NeverDated Posted May 3, 2012 Posted May 3, 2012 I think you need to see a therapist to deal with your insecurities. Unless he's shoving these women in your face and/or acting inappropriately with them, you need to accept them as part of his past and move on. There's really no clear cut answer for how to do that.
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