fucpcg Posted May 4, 2012 Posted May 4, 2012 If you want to meet alpha females, start playing co-ed soccer leagues. 1
Author Ross MwcFan Posted May 4, 2012 Author Posted May 4, 2012 You want to know what I think it is? Eyes. You have to open them. I bet you a pound to a penny there have been and are women who look at you and feel turned on. You just don't see it. You're a handsome, intelligent, kind, thoughtful, sensitive, decent guy. Remember that. Women can see it a mile off. Stand up tall, shoulders back, and open your eyes. I've had women take me back to their place and strip down to their underwear in front of me and I've not got the hint, so I know where you're at. And say to yourself how you feel from moment to moment. Verbalise what you're feeling. It helps. But first of all, open your eyes. Thanks man, that's a really nice thing to say.
dsw31 Posted May 4, 2012 Posted May 4, 2012 You want to know what I think it is? Eyes. You have to open them. I bet you a pound to a penny there have been and are women who look at you and feel turned on. You just don't see it. You're a handsome, intelligent, kind, thoughtful, sensitive, decent guy. Remember that. Women can see it a mile off. Stand up tall, shoulders back, and open your eyes. I've had women take me back to their place and strip down to their underwear in front of me and I've not got the hint, so I know where you're at. And say to yourself how you feel from moment to moment. Verbalise what you're feeling. It helps. But first of all, open your eyes. Betterdeal, That is a nice thing to say. I'm in my underwear right now. Is that really you in the picture? Lol!
betterdeal Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 Betterdeal, That is a nice thing to say. I'm in my underwear right now. Is that really you in the picture? Lol! You're a bit overdressed, don't you think?
jaymz Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 That I'll feel like an idiot and be sweating it about doing it again the next day. I felt the same, but really it just doesn't happen. Loads of girls would be genuinely pleased that you spoke to them, it may not lead to anything but the fact they look at you neutrally, then you spark a conversation and they usually smile will give you that confidence. I have a few lines that I use to get an initial conversation going, then the rest is down to you asking them questions. Keep it short and ask for a number or email address, if they are interested they will write it down for you. If not, it doesn't matter, it may have made her day. On the occasion that they are short with you, it means nothing: they might be in a hurry, having a bad day, got a bf etc. Ignore it and move on.
jaymz Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 I've had women take me back to their place and strip down to their underwear in front of me and I've not got the hint, so I know where you're at. LOL, I am exactly the same, maybe not the their place bit yet but fingers crossed . I have no "radar" to see if someone is genuinely interested in me and wants to date and take it further. I guess that takes time to see and click with? Practice makes perfect!
RedRobin Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 Ross, alot of strong, outgoing women with good hearts start volunteer organizations or take leadership roles in them. If you want the opportunity to meet the better ones.... the ones who would be more likely to be able to strike the appropriate balance between taking initiative and taking care... that might be one place to start. Find a cause you are passionate about and volunteer. Plus it will make you a more interesting person and do something good for others I like alot of the suggestions others have given you as well.
SarahRose Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 if i recall correctly you are in counseling. what does your counseling say to to? do they give you exercises to do to try to meet people? as for working on a farm, you have no idea if you would like it or not. the whole point is finding something social to do to get off the computer and get outside and meet people so you can have a life. the net is great in some ways but in others it totally ruins people's lives there is a site called meetup. why don't you pick an activity on it and go? just to get out and meet people. you could also join toastmasters. call a volunteer center and volunteer to help the elderly or something. posting here on a forum and then doing nothing is not going to change your life. finding something outside to do will.
Stellar Wench Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 She's more of a man hater though. I don't think most alpha females are man haters are they?No. And they wouldn't waste their time. Aren't you able to find a girl with less self esteem than yourself? There are plenty of girls with poor self esteem.
Author Ross MwcFan Posted May 5, 2012 Author Posted May 5, 2012 No. And they wouldn't waste their time. Aren't you able to find a girl with less self esteem than yourself? There are plenty of girls with poor self esteem. I don't even think those would be interested.
Author Ross MwcFan Posted May 5, 2012 Author Posted May 5, 2012 if i recall correctly you are in counseling. what does your counseling say to to? do they give you exercises to do to try to meet people? as for working on a farm, you have no idea if you would like it or not. the whole point is finding something social to do to get off the computer and get outside and meet people so you can have a life. the net is great in some ways but in others it totally ruins people's lives there is a site called meetup. why don't you pick an activity on it and go? just to get out and meet people. you could also join toastmasters. call a volunteer center and volunteer to help the elderly or something. posting here on a forum and then doing nothing is not going to change your life. finding something outside to do will. Yes, he wants me to start doing some kind of activity which will put me around people, or to just go for a walk somewhere, like a park or the countryside. You're right the net is great, and that it does sometimes ruins people's lives. It's never ruined mine though, and has actually really enhanced it. Before I had the net I felt a lot more miserable, bored, and I actually went out a less than I did now. I had got the impression that you ment some kind of soul destorying grueling farm work. To be honest I just don't really like the idea of working on a farm, period. Maybe I'll check out that meetup thing. We'll see.
dsw31 Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 Ok Ross... Today is the day! The beginning a new Ross! I won't even ask you to say hi to anyone yet. I just want you to go for a walk (to the store, the park, or anywhere you'll see people) Just walk past someone (ANYONE) make quick eye contact & then smile. That's it!! Just a smile today. I promise you nothing bad will happen. Now go do it! ... before I have to teach you a lesson... You don't wanna be bad.... Do you?
wwwjd Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 Ross, in one of my writing classes the suggestion is: for a day become somebody else. Dress different, go to a different place to eat, watch a different set of people. This is supposed to spark creativity about how we envision the world around us, as well as how people perceive and respond to us. Plus, it is really fun. In your case, it would be cool if you: - put on your best suit, tie and shoes (Shine those shoes!) - get some cool sunglasses ($40 and up, not the $9 kind) - an important looking briefcase or folder with some paperwork along with a magazine of your favorite hobby: Small Arms Weaponry? Then find some outdoor cafe go get coffee or food and POSE there for a while. - keep your back strait, shoulders back, chin up, chest puffed out, suck gut in - walk in with a quick, determined, aggressive "man in charge" pace going - the sunglasses let you look at others while they can't tell you are looking at them You are now Mr. Bond! Waiting for your next secret contact. Hang out and observe people, look for the alpha females reaction to you. Most of all have some fun with it. Never know what can happen.
Author Ross MwcFan Posted May 5, 2012 Author Posted May 5, 2012 Ok Ross... Today is the day! The beginning a new Ross! I won't even ask you to say hi to anyone yet. I just want you to go for a walk (to the store, the park, or anywhere you'll see people) Just walk past someone (ANYONE) make quick eye contact & then smile. That's it!! Just a smile today. I promise you nothing bad will happen. Now go do it! ... before I have to teach you a lesson... You don't wanna be bad.... Do you? LOL! I couldn't smile at strangers when I walk past them. Even making eye contact is kinda hard, but I do do it sometimes. If I catch a girl who seems to be checking me out, then maybe I could smile then. I have been thinking about going for a walk in the park or the countryside this week, as long as it's a nice day. I'm considering doing voluntary work at the animal sanctury again. We'll see what happens.
dsw31 Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 Do it today!!! That's an order!!! wwwjd had a great idea too.If you feel adventurous one day. But the sunglasses thing....that's golden! Put on your shades & go!
wwwjd Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 Do it today!!! But the sunglasses thing....that's golden! Learned that motorcycling: helmet + shades = check out the gals staring you down without turning your head. And girls DIG bikes!
wwwjd Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 I'm considering doing voluntary work at the animal sanctury again. We'll see what happens. CONSIDERING?? Dude.... sensative gals, puppies... how can you go wrong?? 1. it's gets YOU doing something good in the world that makes you feel better 2. you are around people 3. often times WOMEN work their because they are push overs for animals 4. there could always be coffee breaks or afterwork meet ups..... [nudge nudge wink wink say no more] GO SIGN UP FOR THIS! DO IT! DO IT NOW, MR. BOND! 1
wwwjd Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 anyway, to the threads point.... to find the elusive ALPHA FEMALE... you gotta go where they hang out.... that snooty martini bar in downtown you never go because only the rich blokes go there in their mercedes and bmws. But Mr. Bond would go there and look at the high power chicks HE draws in! hahahaha
LuckyLady13 Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 Ross, your original question was where to meet alpha females and I don't know how much this helps but a while back I was hanging out with one of my best friends and saw this guy across a busy street that made my jaw drop. Other women might not have been so into him. He was just my type. I yelled across the street over all the traffic noise "HEY!!" and he looked over at me. I yelled "come here" and waved him toward me. He actually stopped dead in his tracks and did what I told him to. We dated for a few months after that but it turned out he was just too...pretty boy for me in the end. Was more concerned about his hair being perfect than I was. I got turned off and bored. My point is alpha females can seriously pop up anywhere. Okay, almost anywhere. They're not going to be popping up in your living room. You have to get out a lot to be found by one.
Oxy Moronovich Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 anyway, to the threads point.... to find the elusive ALPHA FEMALE... you gotta go where they hang out.... that snooty martini bar in downtown you never go because only the rich blokes go there in their mercedes and bmws. But Mr. Bond would go there and look at the high power chicks HE draws in! hahahaha A few things you need to realize: --did you realize he's in England? England is cloudy/overcast throughout most of the year, that includes during the summertime. He would look like a moron walking around with sunglasses. Bad suggestion. --the reason why he doesn't go to snooty bars is because he cannot afford them. He shouldn't go after a chick with expensive taste. --Few people in the UK speak like Mr. Bond. The majority speak closer to Gordon Ramsey. --in the UK, people don't go around smiling at strangers. It's considered creepy. --oh yeah, the alpha female doesn't exist. He'd be better off looking for leprechauns.
Mme. Chaucer Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 --oh yeah, the alpha female doesn't exist. He'd be better off looking for leprechauns. Whence have you gleaned this ridiculous notion? Either people can't be "alpha" and we'll leave it to pack animals like dogs and wolves, or else there can be "alpha" members of a social group of any gender. Check it out online. If your only source of "facts" is PUA literature, I'm really sorry for you because you must be going through your life looking absolutely foolish. And wearing a Cat in the Hat chapeau, probably. Wise up!
wwwjd Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 --the reason why he doesn't go to snooty bars is because he cannot afford them. He shouldn't go after a chick with expensive taste. That is the whole point, for Ross especially.... breaking out of the normal locations ON PURPOSE, to get used to it. Even maybe to see the elusive "Alpha Gal" in her primative territory. My recommendation was ONLY a brief exercise, not a life style change. One was to learn to swim in shallow water is to just jump into the deep end where you have no option but to succeed.
Pierre Posted May 5, 2012 Posted May 5, 2012 Ross: Where you live there are thousands of women that long to find a man, have sex, and have a relationship. It seems you don't know they are there in front of you. You are over thinking this way too much. The situation is rather simple. There are a ton of women that dream about having a relationship and they are available to you. Go shopping and you will see dozens of women walking past you that would gladly have sex with you. Why not? You are a nice looking young man of Northern European extraction and I assume you have no speech impediments and have reasonable intelligence and personality. With those attributes you can get a woman yesterday. Are you very short? I still don't see why you have such a hard time. Men like you usually have a lot of women to choose from. This is not rocket science: You want a woman and these women want a man. So what is the problem?
Author Ross MwcFan Posted May 5, 2012 Author Posted May 5, 2012 Ross, your original question was where to meet alpha females and I don't know how much this helps but a while back I was hanging out with one of my best friends and saw this guy across a busy street that made my jaw drop. Other women might not have been so into him. He was just my type. I yelled across the street over all the traffic noise "HEY!!" and he looked over at me. I yelled "come here" and waved him toward me. He actually stopped dead in his tracks and did what I told him to. We dated for a few months after that but it turned out he was just too...pretty boy for me in the end. Was more concerned about his hair being perfect than I was. I got turned off and bored. My point is alpha females can seriously pop up anywhere. Okay, almost anywhere. They're not going to be popping up in your living room. You have to get out a lot to be found by one. I used to go out a lot but nothing like that ever happened to me. So, I gues even if I did go somewhere where there is a lot of alpha females I probably wouldn't have any luck.
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