DAYANDNIGHT Posted June 22, 2004 Posted June 22, 2004 when my husband told me that he cheated on me he said that he told that other woman that he was single and that he had no kids and she said the same thing but but she didnt have any kids, so he said that he grew to love her and that they well both loved eachother and they spent a lot of time together, so what about that i mean they "loved " eachother and when they both found out the truth it was too late cus they already loved eachother so should i hate her less cus she didnt know or should i hate her the same cus she ruined my family ...see im confused cus either way she was the other woman so help me out with that one if u can......
Good2Go Posted June 22, 2004 Posted June 22, 2004 You loved a cheater who left you for another cheater. You are the lucky one. Let them go rot in hell while you find yourself a real man.
Same Situation Posted June 22, 2004 Posted June 22, 2004 Don't waste energy and effort hating her for it. She didn't put a gun to his head and make him undo his pants. Obviously he was more than eager to do it. Put your energy into getting over him because he's the one that hurt you, and because you can't afford to expend energy doing anything else right now, less you cause yourself a nervous breakdown. It sucks you had to go through this, but try to use it as a launching point to ensure you have a better life than he could have possibly given you.
Author DAYANDNIGHT Posted June 22, 2004 Author Posted June 22, 2004 i did let him go but i can say that **** messed me up, im still hurting from the betrayal but i got to make things work from what i have left...
Good2Go Posted June 22, 2004 Posted June 22, 2004 Ofcourse it does and it will for a long time. All you can do is pull yourself up and move along. Give yourself time to come to grips with it and then find someone else who won't treat you like sh*t.
sportsloving Posted June 22, 2004 Posted June 22, 2004 Don't you also have a post saying that you are still having an affair with a married man and also have a child with this other guy and that is why you left your husband? Perhaps I misunderstand the situation ... but how can you possibly be upset with your husband doing the exact same thing that you have done to him? She didn't ruin your family, it took several extra characters to do that little job.
Debster Posted June 22, 2004 Posted June 22, 2004 Sportsloving, I remember reading that post too. DAYANDNIGHT - what's up with the conflicting posts?
HokeyReligions Posted June 22, 2004 Posted June 22, 2004 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?postid=246071#post246071 Here is a link to that other post. I'm confused. DAYANDNIGHT, you had an affair and had the OM's baby and now you are laying responsibility for your broken marriage on another woman? You said in your other post that you wanted your husband to find love somewhere because you couldn't give it to him. What's the gag?
swtbonita Posted June 22, 2004 Posted June 22, 2004 You don't have to hate the other women.. you have to hate the person that you are married to.. the person that lied and the person that had the affair knowing what they were getting into.. Oh and if you hate your husband and the OW for doing that.. You must then realize how people feel about you.. Funny how people seem to do things that they hate most...
mrs.sarah Posted June 22, 2004 Posted June 22, 2004 I read that other post as well. funny. What goes around comes aroud.
sara1974 Posted June 22, 2004 Posted June 22, 2004 Isn't this the same person that was just bragging in a previous thread about how happy you were to be the other women? hummm why the sadness now? karma coming back to you???
Author DAYANDNIGHT Posted June 29, 2004 Author Posted June 29, 2004 yes i did say that but my husband did cheat on me long before i did that , he hurt me soo badly that i didnt think i could lift my head up but i did, i tried to make it work with him , i tried to look pass what he did to me , during that time i started the new job and ended up seeing someone else, i guess what goes around does come around cus i f him like he did me but i left him , because i was not only cheated on him but i had a baby with this mm and i still was in love with him, so i guess when i sit here and think of it i dont give a f about what my husband did cus he actually some what like opend the door for me and now im w this other guy happy as hell ............. thats funny....... im glad he cheated on me......cus hes the one hurting now.........
sportsloving Posted June 29, 2004 Posted June 29, 2004 Do you honestly consider yourself to be happy with the situation your life is in?
Author DAYANDNIGHT Posted June 29, 2004 Author Posted June 29, 2004 why does that seem to bother ppl? is it like if evil won over the good or something....the other woman is just happy..... thats all...... i am happy and i cant help the way im feeling ...... when i was younger i just wanted to b happy and i am so thats all i need.... i wont let anything get down from my cloud....lol... sorry i made bad choices and like u all say enjoy it now cus it will have its end well thats what im doing and when the time comes "if" it comes then ill worry about it then......peace
sportsloving Posted June 29, 2004 Posted June 29, 2004 is it like if evil won over the good or something....the other woman is just happy..... thats all...... i am happy and i cant help the way im feeling ...... I don't consider it being evil vs good or anything of the kind. I was asking if you were really happy for a couple of reasons. 1. You have a guy whom you are in love with, that is still with his wife. So no matter how much you love and adore him, he still goes home to someone else and shares the majority of his life with someone besides you. 2. You have a child with the guy, but you are the one raising him/her, alone. You aren't a part of his family, I doubt your child gets the presents, love, and support from his side of the family so you are pretty much being the single parent. Will you tell your child that he/she was a product of an affair? How do you explain why their other parent might be there one day but not the next? Just curious. 3. You posted about how you were hurt that your husband (ex now is it?) cheated on you, how badly it affected you, and now you are doing the same to another woman. Whether or not she knows about you, you know the pain she is going through (or will when she finds out). I wasn't being cruel, judgemental, or mean. I was just asking if you really sat down and asked yourself ... "am I really happy"? If you are, more power to you and may you always be happy. I would happen to think it could be a very lonely existence for you. Good luck to you
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