AwptiK Posted May 3, 2012 Posted May 3, 2012 In reference to the title, I used to post on here a lot. Things ended with this girl and all hope seemed nonexistant, so I stopped posting. Until yesterday... I am 20, the ex is 22. Since age plays into a lot of responses To summarize my past, I dated a coworker from August through the end of December. While things ended and just after, I made some bad calls that I can simply say were out of fear of losing her. So I pushed her away a bit.. In February she left for a different store in the same chain. This is the last time I heard from her directly. We were on good terms when she left though. She was very good friends with two other girls that I work with and through one of them, I still had to be reminded of her on a regular basis. I never asked about her or mentioned her, but I still got, "So Kristin....." Through the one girl who enjoyed reminding me of the ex, I learned that she got back together with a prior-ex. As far as time goes, this is in early March. The ex is the guy she dated before me, she was living with him again and the whole 9 yards. From what I know about him and their past, it was rough. I assumed she was likely seeking comfort and i've always agreed with the idea that getting back together with an ex is one of the easiest paths one can take. (Though moving on is usually the best). I didn't dwell on her new life much, and continued moving on. ----- Then yesterday happened. I don't believe in fate or anything like that, but i'm going to tell this like it happened. I don't know why it happened this way, I woke up yesterday and thought about her a lot. After thoughts of her dwindled down after 4 months and I continued moving on, it was weird to be that caught up in thinking about her. I really wanted to text her, but I wasn't going to spoil my progress, nor was I going to disrupt her life out of respect for her. It was nearly time for work and I began to text my friend and say, "Tell me it's a stupid idea to text Kristin." But before I finished typing, she texted me. I was really shocked because of how the day was going already. Her text said, "I ended up back at mom's this weekend :/" I didn't answer. Half an hour later, she resent her text. It's kind of her way of strongly asking for a reply, a bit of an insecure thing. I waited until I had the right mindset, and I texted her back to ask if she was okay. She responded, "Ehhhhh....I guess I am." I didn't respond to that either, but she sent another text geared more towards general conversation. I texted her throughout the workday, until we both got off work at 10. She asked me to call her. I hesitated, but I did. We talked from 10-3am. It all consisted of general topics, catching up, and the like. She started to talk about whatever happened this past weekend, but I turned the topic. I kinda started into things regarding our breakup, but I ended up addressing both topics by saying that I think there will be a time and a place to talk about that kind of stuff and I don't think tonight was that time. We're probably having lunch Friday, which is her idea. That was a really nice thing to discuss, because towards the end of things with her, seeing each other at work was an excuse to not spend time together outside of work as much. I'm not going to double my post-length by spilling my thoughts out on this topic, but i'll simply ask what your thoughts are as third party readers. I will say that I have been very cautious and reserved, especially about my feelings. I don't quite know what I want, but I wouldn't be honest if I said that I wasn't hoping to try again. Although, there's a lot to be discussed before that can happen. I know that I could easily be a rebound to her rebound, which absolutely will not happen if I sense her coming to me out of being lonely or anything like that. I figure that since she hit me up first, it's her choice if/when she wants to talk about some of this stuff. It's also going to be her choice whether or not we talk for the next few days. Thanks for the thoughts, in advance.
Philosoraptor Posted May 3, 2012 Posted May 3, 2012 I would be very cautious as it sounds like she is going through a hard time right now and needs to find someplace safe. If anything does come of this I wouldn't be surprised if she bolted once her need for feeling safe is gone.
Author AwptiK Posted May 3, 2012 Author Posted May 3, 2012 I would be very cautious as it sounds like she is going through a hard time right now and needs to find someplace safe. If anything does come of this I wouldn't be surprised if she bolted once her need for feeling safe is gone. Understandable, and that's how i'm going to approach anything with her. I guess i'm doing this the right way so far. Thanks
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