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How to deal with a guy who asks you out on a date, but then plays hard to get?

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I met a guy I really liked a while ago, and when we first met I really liked him, and he really liked me. He asked for my phone number, and then a day later asked me out on a date. Once I said yes, he took an entire day to ask if wed worked. when i told him no he took hours to ask if friday worked at 7. When i said yes, he asked me how my day was, and then when I respond he didn't respond to me for three days. I wasn't sure if this meant the plans were off because he never chose a place to go or asked where he could pick me up, and I wanted to make plans with my friends if he didn't work out. I got really annoyed by this so I texted him on the third day and asked if we were still going out. He said yes and I told him he never picked a place. He then picked a place, and still didn't tell me whether we are meeting there or whether he will come get me (we are on a college campus so he would just have to walk over to my dorm) which also frustrated me because I need to arrange transportation. I waited until the day of until 6:00pm, and then i finally asked how we were getting there.

 

So guys, was I over planning and being impatient, or is it wrong for a guy to drag plans out for an entire week before i know exactly what is going on? Because depending on your answer I either looked annoying or really annoyed.

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Did you go on the date?

Was he awkward at all?

 

He's playing the aloof game but he's doing it wrong.

 

If he asks you again & you want to see him again just chill & assume you have a date but make alternate plans if he doesn't pick a time or place right away.

 

Don't contact him at all. for the rest of the week. If you don't hear from him by noon of the date day, make solid plans with your friends & follow through with them even if he calls.

 

Tell him you didn't hear from him all week & you didn't know the time or place so you made other plans & maybe next week.

 

you have to train people how to treat you. This is how I train women who play the take a while to get back to him game.

 

They either get pissed over how I dared to make other plans & I never hear from them again or they stop that crap immediately & get back to me in a timely manner when I call to set up a date.

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Sounds like he doesn't know what he is doing. Why don't you help him out?

For the text part, I rarely text someone more than twice. If i dont get a response i give up.

Emilia Established Member

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Guys pull this c**p on me sometimes and have to say it's the fastest way for me to lose interest. There is someone right now who is giving date-arranging a second go (and failing again) because I made plans when he didn't bother confirming it in time first time around.

 

If I don't get a response from him by a certain time today, he will be on a permanent ignore list. It's how it is.

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phineas Established Member

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Guys pull this c**p on me sometimes and have to say it's the fastest way for me to lose interest. There is someone right now who is giving date-arranging a second go (and failing again) because I made plans when he didn't bother confirming it in time first time around.

 

If I don't get a response from him by a certain time today, he will be on a permanent ignore list. It's how it is.

 

The sad thing is, there are a lot of women who respond positively to this kind of thing & that is why men do it.

 

Did you contact him to initiate the 2nd go around or did he initiate it with you?

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If he acted totally nice on a date, I wouldn't give it to him. (you know what I mean)

 

when a woman act like this before or after 1st date, I change all my intention from getting to know her to cumming on her face and don't txt her first few days.

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Whether he's playing a game or is normally this inept, don't date this guy. He's giving off low interest signs so don't play.

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It sounds as if he could have something else going on, possibly a girlfriend, that he has to check with to see when he can get some free time. I'm sure he's attracted to you, but he could already be in a relationship.

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How to deal with a guy who asks you out on a date, but then plays hard to get?

You don't...

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then a day later asked me out on a date. Once I said yes, he took an entire day to ask if wed worked. when i told him no he took hours to ask if friday worked at 7.

 

If Wednesday didn't work for you why didn't you respond with what would work? "I'm busy Wednesday, but Friday or Saturday would be fine..." Or were you playing "hard to get"?

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How to deal with a guy who asks you out on a date, but then plays hard to get?

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THISSS.

 

ugh, I've had guys pull that on me too. I might forgive them once but that's about it. I stopped talking to quite a few guys because they thought it was ok to make plans and then disappear, or respond to texts/calls days later. Sorry, I'm not going to play their stupid game and I value myself way more than that.

 

Don't date this guy. This type of behavior is not ok.

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I agree with others. Don't date him.

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I met a guy I really liked a while ago, and when we first met I really liked him, and he really liked me. He asked for my phone number, and then a day later asked me out on a date. Once I said yes, he took an entire day to ask if wed worked. when i told him no he took hours to ask if friday worked at 7. When i said yes, he asked me how my day was, and then when I respond he didn't respond to me for three days. I wasn't sure if this meant the plans were off because he never chose a place to go or asked where he could pick me up, and I wanted to make plans with my friends if he didn't work out. I got really annoyed by this so I texted him on the third day and asked if we were still going out. He said yes and I told him he never picked a place. He then picked a place, and still didn't tell me whether we are meeting there or whether he will come get me (we are on a college campus so he would just have to walk over to my dorm) which also frustrated me because I need to arrange transportation. I waited until the day of until 6:00pm, and then i finally asked how we were getting there.

 

So guys, was I over planning and being impatient, or is it wrong for a guy to drag plans out for an entire week before i know exactly what is going on? Because depending on your answer I either looked annoying or really annoyed.

 

To add to Ninja...

 

If he plans a first date via text you're dealing with a BOY not a MAN.

 

Also, you're seeing the kid's best behavior up front. This is the best he has to offer. Do you like it? If not, just imagine once he gets comfortable!:lmao:

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The sad thing is, there are a lot of women who respond positively to this kind of thing & that is why men do it.

 

Did you contact him to initiate the 2nd go around or did he initiate it with you?

 

No I wasn't going to contact him, he got in touch. He contacted me on the morning of our supposed date and I told him it was too late so he suggested another day. He sent me two emails on the day we were supposed to go out but I now have him on 'ignore'.

 

I know the reason why men do this and it bores me. I'm not even angry or offended I just find men who resort to this boring.

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I know the reason why men do this and it bores me. I'm not even angry or offended I just find men who resort to this boring.

 

Me too. The word 'boring' describes it exactly.

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