Nanika Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 I've got a new best friend (yeah, pretty recent upgrade to best friend), who kinda gives me a lot of trouble. It's just that sometimes when we've planned something, even with other people, she starts saying she won't come - pretty last minute usually, and sometimes I'm like, NO, you have to come, but there are also moments that I just say 'okay, that's fine', because I know that for those times she doesn't really look forward to the entire thing (or because its not with close friends and stuff), and I understand that she might prefer to do something else. What happens next is that she seems to expect me to ask her to go anyway, saying that I should tell her what I want. And then she wishes me fun, rubbing in that whatever I'm gonna do won't be as fun as what she's gonna do. I don't even know if this makes sense, and its something small but it happens pretty often. Why does she keep expecting me to ask her to go somewhere when she appears to be giving signs that she doesn't want to go? Any ideas or tips on what I should do about this?
threebyfate Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 So...why is she your best friend? She doesn't appear to be even close friend material, more casual acquaintance. 1
Author Nanika Posted May 4, 2012 Author Posted May 4, 2012 Well, there is a LOT more between us than that. Also, this never happens when we're doing something just the two of us. It happens mostly with events that we go to. And for her, the reason why she does it seems to be because she wants to provoke me to say what I want, but I'm a very 'nice' person, I never want to seem forceful or selfish. So basically, she wants me to be selfish, but I wonder if it's only when I'm gonna spend time with her... Yet, she apologized for being like that yesterday... a friend of hers seems to have told her that she was just looking for confirmation from me. Why are people so complex?
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