Sing Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 How is it that the dumper moves on and is happy while the dumpee sits around crying over them. Worst part is that it only happened yesterday and already he's moving on to someone he met at the club two days ago. I will admit my part in the break up, we were arguing all the time, but that was because he wouldn't talk to me about the problem so it never went away. He neglected our relationship and made no time for me, broke so many promises. In the beginning it was good because I let him do what ever he wanted, then I started speaking up, I'm in the relationship so I should have my say too, he didn't like that, he wouldn't compromise for anything, the last two weeks all we did was argue, I thought he loved me enough to wanna work it out with me but he didn't even wanna talk. He broke up with me over text, 8 months together and I get this text.. 'I don't wanna feel like this anymore but I still want you in my life and hope we can be friends. I still have feelings they just arnt as strong anymore'. I said no to friendship.. Why would I want that? It's all or nothing in my opinion. 8 month may not be long but even two days ago he had told me he wanted to work this out he misses how good we used to be, someone else comes along and I'm gone, he doesn't want me anymore. At first I got mad at him, who does that? Leads someone on then drops them. Then I decided I'll apologise at least I can say I left it on a good note. He tried to tell me I felt the same, I didn't love him.. More like he said that to feel less guilty. Told him I respect his choice and I love him, never contacted him again. I didn't sleep last night, I feel lonely, depressed and I'm still sitting in bed, he's out there happy with this new girl. How do they move on so easily? Not even a day..
flitzanu Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 dumpers don't need to "move on". they already did a long time ago when they decided the relationship was over. they've just been waiting to tell you.
Mr Scorpio Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 dumpers don't need to "move on". they already did a long time ago when they decided the relationship was over. they've just been waiting to tell you. Unfortunately this pretty much sums it up. Maybe when the dumper themselves waits a few weeks/months before starting up another relationship, they need time to recover. But in situations where they already have another person lined up? They have already mentally and emotionally checked out on you. So sorry for your loss.
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