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starla33 Established Member

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So thought you guys might like to know that he has apologized profusely and genuinely. Which is all fine and dandy, but he said he can't sleep in bed with someone. So another deal breaker to add to my list. Never knew there were people like this out there that wanted to sleep in separate beds.

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So when is the next date?

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So when is the next date?

 

Never talked it out for a while and that is not something I'm willing to deal with.

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So thought you guys might like to know that he has apologized profusely and genuinely. Which is all fine and dandy, but he said he can't sleep in bed with someone. So another deal breaker to add to my list. Never knew there were people like this out there that wanted to sleep in separate beds.

So you're gonna sleep with him again... Some people never learn.

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Well starla, I salute you for hearing him out. That does sound like a legit deal-breaker.

 

I used to not be physically comfortable sleeping with someone. I've gotten much better at it, but my back has to be towards the other person for most of the night. I really like a cool pillow....

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Never talked it out for a while and that is not something I'm willing to deal with.

No clue what that means.

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So you're gonna sleep with him again... Some people never learn.

 

Where did I say I would ever see him again? I won't. But I don't think it makes him a bad person. He's just not the person for me.

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Where did I say I would ever see him again? I won't. But I don't think it makes him a bad person. He's just not the person for me.

Good. Hold that thought.

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Well starla, I salute you for hearing him out. That does sound like a legit deal-breaker.

 

I used to not be physically comfortable sleeping with someone. I've gotten much better at it, but my back has to be towards the other person for most of the night. I really like a cool pillow....

 

To me it just seems selfish for some reason. Of course you have a hard time falling asleep with someone at first, but you do get used to it. People that completely write it off weird me out. How other women are okl with this is beyond me.

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Where did I say I would ever see him again? I won't. But I don't think it makes him a bad person. He's just not the person for me.

 

The rationalization has started.:sick:

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To me it just seems selfish for some reason. Of course you have a hard time falling asleep with someone at first, but you do get used to it. People that completely write it off weird me out. How other women are okl with this is beyond me.

Honestly, if I was in that situation and I couldn't fall asleep with a girl in my bed, I'd just grab a blanket and go sleep on the couch.

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I have a hard time sleeping alone. I rather have a warm body next to me all night, particularly on a cold winter night.

 

We take turns at spooning left and right all night long. Nothing like a soft leg over your chest when it is a bit cold.

 

And do not forget the spontaneous moments that can lead to more sex.

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I can't sleep in the ssame bed with a stranger I just had sex with, even the last guy I dated I had a hard time sleeping with.but he has never kicked me out of his bed either....:confused:

anyway you put it the vuy was a douche and doesn't deserve any excuses.

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I can't sleep in the ssame bed with a stranger I just had sex with, even the last guy I dated I had a hard time sleeping with.but he has never kicked me out of his bed either....:confused:

anyway you put it the vuy was a douche and doesn't deserve any excuses.

 

yeah but in this case its EVER. not even in a relationship lol.

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I have a hard time sleeping alone. I rather have a warm body next to me all night, particularly on a cold winter night.

 

We take turns at spooning left and right all night long. Nothing like a soft leg over your chest when it is a bit cold.

 

And do not forget the spontaneous moments that can lead to more sex.

 

Yes exactly this. For once I agree with you on something.

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Starla, you know it doesn't matter one bit that he apologized. It only matters that he did what he did. Game over. He was rude beyond belief.

 

I don't blame you one bit for being stunned at his behavior. He wasn't a gentleman, plain and simple. He is a tool!

 

I have run into this a few times myself. It's hurtful, and in every case the guy was a loser.

 

Sorry, I understand the whole "I can't sleep well with someone in the bed." In fact, I am one of those people, but I would never hurt anyone's feelings. I would simply stay over, or have them stay over, especially the FIRST time!

 

He showed you who he was: a guy interested only in sex, no real intimacy.

 

Any guy who wants to have sex with me, will stay the night. It benefits both of us, and creates the emotional intimacy that needs to go along with sex.

 

I've learned the hard way, but now I simply tell guys who tell me upfront that they can't spend the night, "That's ok. Another night, then." And I don't have sex with them. No. Matter. What. ...(of course, I understand if it is a kid situation, etc. that precludes an overnight.)

 

It's AMAZING how they want to spend the night the next time.

 

I had a male friend who told me that if a guy really likes a girl, he will spend the night with her, and that we women shouldn't put up with the bang and run behavior. "Pay a prostitute", is how he put it.

 

True!

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Yes exactly this. For once I agree with you on something.

I was married for years and got used to the warm body next to me.

 

It helps when your partner does not snore or farts.:laugh:

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Never knew there were people like this out there that wanted to sleep in separate beds.

 

Lucy and Ricky always slept in separate beds.

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It helps when your partner does not snore

 

I will not sleep with someone who snores. I need my sleep and I am a bad sleeper even on my own. One of these days I may go to a sleep clinic.

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starla33 Established Member

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This guy will be getting as much sex as he wants from her. HE WILL BE THE DUMPER. GUARANTEED.

 

Lol i'm sorry but what part of I told him it will not work and we have moved on did you not get?

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I have a hard time sleeping alone. I rather have a warm body next to me all night, particularly on a cold winter night.

 

We take turns at spooning left and right all night long. Nothing like a soft leg over your chest when it is a bit cold.

 

And do not forget the spontaneous moments that can lead to more sex.

 

I am not sure what kind of sleeping you are doing(lol) however I agree it isn't nothing greater than sharing a bed with a warm body.

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So when is the next date?

 

Never talked it out for a while and that is not something I'm willing to deal with.

 

No clue what that means.

 

I think a little more punctuation will help:

 

Never. [We] talked it out for a while and that is not something I'm willing to deal with.

 

In other words, she will never date him again.

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To me it just seems selfish for some reason. Of course you have a hard time falling asleep with someone at first, but you do get used to it. People that completely write it off weird me out. How other women are okl with this is beyond me.

 

If he would have asked you to sleep on the couch would that have been cool?

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starla33 Established Member

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If he would have asked you to sleep on the couch would that have been cool?

 

No still a deal breaker for me

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No still a deal breaker for me

 

So in the future, will you sleep with someone before you have this knowledge?

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