counterman Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 So usually when I see a girl I find really attractive, this instant feeling of lust hits me inside and I instantly think of sex. The thing is, I'm still a virgin. When I was dating my one and only girlfriend a few years back, there were rare (very rare) moments where she was really passionate to get physical. So I don't really know if she really responded to me in the way I responded to her in that regard. Her natural scent always drove me wild... and it was almost unbearable at times. Her voice as well. There's some girls I meet where a smile would just do it for me or her laugh. Most of the time though it's her appearance. If she is brunette, slim, with pale skin and blue eyes, like Alison Brie, she would have me in a heartbeat without even trying... I don't know how it is for girls, whether it's the same or different, but girls, when you feel that feeling of I-want-to-have-sex-with-him, what is it that does it for you? My current situation is that I've been bogged down by my studies and work... and haven't been approaching any girls but everyday I see attractive girls sitting around. I think it's about time I started again. But instead of being a 'nice' guy, I think I'm going to be more daring and forward.
Radu Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 My first thought when i see someone like that picture of Alison Brie is 'what a deliciously dirty mind you must have'.
somedude81 Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 From what I've read, girls don't get horny until they get some booze.
newmoon Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 for me, when not in a relationship, it's pretty simple - it's his body and a smile. if a man has what i consider to be an attractive body type and is smiling at me too - it gets me all warm an happy and excited. with a bf, which i currently have, the passion is brought on by more than just the body - it's the physical reactions, but it can often be just the way he said something, something he did for me that was extremely loving/caring, the way he looked at me, simpler things that can get you turned on. not to say your prior gf wasn't into you, but it's very easy for a woman to be passionate about a man she finds seriously attractive. and yes, a little alcohol goes a long way ...
Mme. Chaucer Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 From what I've read, girls don't get horny until they get some booze. You're joking, right? Because I am pretty sure you've read thousands of posts right here on LoveShack written by women who feel sexy and who haven't had any booze. OP - You might be jumping ahead a little bit if you are thinking about getting girls sexually excited before you've even established contact with any. First things first. See if you feel a "spark" or a "connection" with a girl you meet (yes, go ahead and be more forward). If that's in place, and things start to move in the right direction, I'm sure we can help you with advice on how to get her sexually excited.
somedude81 Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 You're joking, right? Because I am pretty sure you've read thousands of posts right here on LoveShack written by women who feel sexy and who haven't had any booze. Nope. Just about every single first sex story starts with, "we got drunk and made out." 1
Lil1 Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 I don't know how it is for girls, whether it's the same or different, but girls, when you feel that feeling of I-want-to-have-sex-with-him, what is it that does it for you? It's mostly chemistry, pheromones. People can't always help who they are attracted to. If I'm sexually attracted towards a man I hardly know then this is most likely due to pheromones and physical appearance. If I feel a sexual attraction for someone I already know then his character and personality will be bigger driving factors and the level of attraction I feel for them will usually be stronger.
Mme. Chaucer Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 Nope. Just about every single first sex story starts with, "we got drunk and made out." That's because the alcohol lowers inhibitions (and often impairs judgement, too). I would strongly advise against expecting to get girls drunk in order to have them "sexually excited" by you. It's sleazy.
RedRobin Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 Intelligence, respect, honesty... takes care of themselves and others in their care (children, pets, community, etc). Yep, that gets me 'hot'....
somedude81 Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 That's because the alcohol lowers inhibitions (and often impairs judgement, too). I would strongly advise against expecting to get girls drunk in order to have them "sexually excited" by you. It's sleazy. Sleazy or not, it seems like the norm for modern dating. 1
CarrieT Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 Sleazy or not, it seems like the norm for modern dating. It may SEEM that way to you but it it is not and you are being polarized in your viewpoint. 1
Els Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 Nope. Just about every single first sex story starts with, "we got drunk and made out." The hell? The only time this applies is probably teenagers who were likely not legal and too afraid to try until they got their hands on some (also illegal booze). I do not know anyone whose first time with each guy perpetually involved booze. Are you living in forum-storyland again? 1
Els Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 My answer likely doesn't help you, OP, but I have very specific fetishes and kinks that, when catered to, work as easily as the snap of a finger.
Mme. Chaucer Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 Sleazy or not, it seems like the norm for modern dating. Now would be an appropriate time to listen to others who have experience to share. You are way too old for "drunken hookups" to be your norm.
somedude81 Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 It may SEEM that way to you but it it is not and you are being polarized in your viewpoint. One thing I want to point out is that both you and Mme. Chaucer are in a different generation than the people I'm talking about. What do you mean I am being 'polarized?' I'd also like to point out, that "getting drunk and making out" is one of the few things I actually haven't tried yet.
somedude81 Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 The hell? The only time this applies is probably teenagers who were likely not legal and too afraid to try until they got their hands on some (also illegal booze). I do not know anyone whose first time with each guy perpetually involved booze. Are you living in forum-storyland again? It's a frequent story I keep hearing on this forum. And I don't think many or any of them still in High School. I've also had a few people at my school tell me the same thing. Again, not High School.
CarrieT Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 One thing I want to point out is that both you and Mme. Chaucer are in a different generation than the people I'm talking about. If that is the case, than you should qualify your statements to clarify your arguments. Mme. Chaucer and I aren't the only 40-somethings who read this board. What do you mean I am being 'polarized?' Attitude polarization, also known as belief polarization, is a phenomenon in which a disagreement becomes more extreme as the different parties consider evidence on the issue. It is one of the effects of confirmation bias: the tendency of people to search for and interpret evidence selectively, to reinforce their current beliefs or attitudes.
RedRobin Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 Sleazy or not, it seems like the norm for modern dating. Surprisingly, I agree with you. Most people are hooking up with total strangers. Getting carried away with hormones and using alcohol to rationalize their poor decisions. That's probably why alot of guys want to go for 'drinks' on the first date and subsequent ones. As you get older, you get wise to this... as a guy, you also realize that hookups have their own consequences. Although, right now it might seem appealing to you. 2
somedude81 Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 If that is the case, than you should qualify your statements to clarify your arguments. Mme. Chaucer and I aren't the only 40-somethings who read this board. Would you say you are young enough to be considered "girls?" It is generally accepted that the majority of posters on this section are under 35. Attitude polarization, also known as belief polarization, is a phenomenon in which a disagreement becomes more extreme as the different parties consider evidence on the issue. It is one of the effects of confirmation bias: the tendency of people to search for and interpret evidence selectively, to reinforce their current beliefs or attitudes. I'm not sure how you can relate to what I've been doing. Surprisingly, I agree with you. Most people are hooking up with total strangers. Getting carried away with hormones and using alcohol to rationalize their poor decisions. That's probably why alot of guys want to go for 'drinks' on the first date and subsequent ones. As you get older, you get wise to this... as a guy, you also realize that hookups have their own consequences. Although, right now it might seem appealing to you. Thank you. And even if sex doesn't happen on that night, it seems that a good make-out is enough to get a girl excited about a guy. To me it looks like this, a girl is more likely to have sex with a guy after a drunken make-out than not having kissed him at all.
somedude81 Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 Frankly, I'd rather have my first time and kiss with a girl be without any alcohol at all. But I've had no luck with that so far, and the only thing I actually haven't tried yet, was having drinks with a girl to get us loosened up.
CarrieT Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 Would you say you are young enough to be considered "girls?" Why not? It is generally accepted that the majority of posters on this section are under 35. Do you site demographics to prove this? I'm not sure how you can relate to what I've been doing. Easy - take the statement you wrote above, "it is generally accepted..." You are making assumptions and trying to qualify them with rhetoric.
Els Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 It's a frequent story I keep hearing on this forum. And I don't think many or any of them still in High School. This forum IS forum-storyland, for the most part... I've also had a few people at my school tell me the same thing. Again, not High School. Right, I admit that I've forgotten about the section of the population who act and think like they're 16 but biologically aren't. Do you think they're a good example to follow? Also, I'm from a younger generation than you, and I maintain that not everyone acts like that. Why not? Do you site demographics to prove this? Easy - take the statement you wrote above, "it is generally accepted..." You are making assumptions and trying to qualify them with rhetoric. IME, the OP's reality revolves around non-overweight people of that age group - I don't think he gives much thought to anyone outside that. When he says anything, to save myself the hassle I now prepend it with that.
somedude81 Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 This forum IS forum-storyland, for the most part... But it is the window I look through the most often. Right, I admit that I've forgotten about the section of the population who act and think like they're 16 but biologically aren't. Do you think they're a good example to follow? Also, I'm from a younger generation than you, and I maintain that not everyone acts like that. You also live in a completely different culture.
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