Datboy2 Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 Hey guys this is my first time ever writin on here do I'm just looking for some Quick advice on how to handle a situation: Me ad my girlfriend have been dating for 2 1/2 years nowand there's not too much I can complain about. We have had our problems though. She was cheated on in the past and always finds a way to make me feel uncomfortable around other girls. I put up with this because I assume it's going to get better as she trusts me more. Both of us are in college, about two hours away from each other, but both of us have cars so we see each other at least 2 weekends a month. So here's my problem: Last semsester there was a really rocky time where she would go out and black out every weekend of the month, I didn't really mind,I love to binge drink, we are both involved in Greek life so her being around other guys doesn't worry me that much anymore. At this point I had never had a problem. My girl started talking to this guy, I saw texts they didn't seem flirty from either party involved, he was just a guy in her class. One Sunday night after a weekend full of drinking for the both of us, I got a text from her saying she messed up. She blacked out and remembers hanging with this friend the whole night. She had told me before she thought he was attractive and he had apparently openly told her one night while drunk that she deserved better than me. That's where her memory goes and I get confused, she said she might have done something, but feels that if she did she would remember it. I freaked out for a day, eventually dropped it thinking since she didn't telle anything more it must not have happened. This past weekend the same kid shows up to a party that I hosted, there were a large amount of people there do I didn't really mind after parting ways from him. In my drunken state my girlfriend told me to stay away from him because she didn't want me to say or do anything stupid. Later on in the following week, she left her Facebook up on my computer (I have her pw and she has mine, her trust issue stuff). I saw her chatting to one of her friends and the text went a little like: Gf- "o and jake was there too" Friend- " ooooohhh god how'd that go" Gf- "my boyfriend was pissed because I told him I might have done something with him" Friend- "so awkward" Now I understand that looking into messages of hers is wrong, but it going to be kind of hard for me to look past this. The original event happened in January. Could the way she responded to that convo be a reason to look into that night more? Or should I just take her word that she doesn't REMEMBER anything happened? This hasn't been the only instance where something like this has happened. There were two other separate occasions (leaving me with no hard evidence she did anything also). So what should I do? Confront her? Give up the thought since it was three months ago and we are fine now, or dump her altogether. Plus, she always nags at me thinking I'm cheating on her when I go out, which is the last thing I would ever do to my girlfriend after her past, or any other girl in general. Please help me Sincerely, Lost in communication
JesseJames Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 IDK dude, she sounds manipulative. A lot of girls use "cheating gambits" and they like to take that snit right into an endgame. It really is a losing line for her and you should have thrown a flag long ago. Trust issues are for those that constantly get screwed over, so I call total bs on that.
Author Datboy2 Posted May 2, 2012 Author Posted May 2, 2012 To be completely fair and honest on her part, Her past two boyfriend were total dickheads and cheated on her on multiple occasions, that's why she is so anal. idk if that helps you assess my situation and she's always been like that since day one, very high maitinence girl. High school sweetheart ****, not too easy to drop with no evidence.
JesseJames Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 I see. I think she did do something with that dude, and I bet her girl knows just what went down. Since you are sort of on a fence anyway, I'd confront her gf first for snits and grins. You can do this considering the gf must know she has trust issues, there's the alcohol factor, and the evidence of your girl mentioning it in the first place. You were sneaky once, be sneaky further, I say anyway.
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