brokendreamz Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 How old were you when you married your first partner? Are you still with them?? If so, how long have you been together??? 1
CarrieT Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 How old were you when you married your first partner? Married at 20. Are you still with them?? Nope, divorced at 25. Three subsequent long-term relationships however - but I was so burned by my marriage that I didn't want to enter into another marriage until I KNEW it really would last forever: Relationship from age 26 to 29 Relationship from age 29 to 41 Relationship from age 41 to 44 Single from age 44 to 47 Back in a relationship now that I firmly believe will lead to marriage and be my final relationship (never felt that way about the previous three) 1
jphcbpa Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 carrie, if you dont mind me asking, what is different in this one compared to the other 3 that make you know this could be the one?
Bellechica Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 Met him at 23, married him at 26.....approaching 17th anniversary.
Ninja'sHusband Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 I was 22, she was 23. We've been married 14 years. I'm 36, she's 37. We are separating...or divorcing...just beginning the process. Still technically married and living together.
What_Am_I_Doing Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 Married at 22, she was 20. We are still together and 'rediscovering' each other in wonderful ways after almost 20 years!!
findingnemo Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 Married at 32, separated at 35. Divorce? Definately this year. Was my first boyfriend, first love, first everything else. Were together 5 years, then a 10 year break. Dated for 1 year, engaged 1 year and M for 3 (or 6 if you add the 3 years of separation).
CarrieT Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 carrie, if you dont mind me asking, what is different in this one compared to the other 3 that make you know this could be the one? The first one was a cross-dresser who - after almost three years together - never could say the "L" word... The second one hid the fact that he was functionally illiterate. When we started dating in my late 20s, it wasn't a big deal that he only wore jeans and a t-shirt, had long hair, and didn't have a driver's license. As I approached my 40th year, he was only capable of getting a job as a night stock-clerk at Target, still couldn't drive, didn't have a GED, and had done nothing to improve himself whatsoever. I was the breadwinner (working three jobs) to keep us afloat. The third one is what brought me to LS; although well-educated and intelligent, he is/was a narcissistic alcoholic who kept prostitutes on the side and preferred the bottle to a stable relationship. We traveled the world together and now he lives on skid row. THIS one is essentially Prince Charming to me: Ivy League-educated, speaks nine languages, a well-regarded surgeon, sings in several choirs, has a pilot's license, loves to travel, loves classical music and opera. And is kinky like me.... 4
Radu Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 The first one was a cross-dresser who - after almost three years together - never could say the "L" word... The second one hid the fact that he was functionally illiterate. When we started dating in my late 20s, it wasn't a big deal that he only wore jeans and a t-shirt, had long hair, and didn't have a driver's license. As I approached my 40th year, he was only capable of getting a job as a night stock-clerk at Target, still couldn't drive, didn't have a GED, and had done nothing to improve himself whatsoever. I was the breadwinner (working three jobs) to keep us afloat. The third one is what brought me to LS; although well-educated and intelligent, he is/was a narcissistic alcoholic who kept prostitutes on the side and preferred the bottle to a stable relationship. We traveled the world together and now he lives on skid row. THIS one is essentially Prince Charming to me: Ivy League-educated, speaks nine languages, a well-regarded surgeon, sings in several choirs, has a pilot's license, loves to travel, loves classical music and opera. And is kinky like me.... Holy crap ... talk about extremes. o.0 PS: How old is your present ?
Ursa Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 I was 34 when we married, he was 39. First marriage for both of us, although we had both lived with serious relationships before--he had a child with one prior girlfriend and I was also engaged once in my mid-20s. Yes, we are still married, and happily. We've been together for 7 years (I'm 37).
pink_sugar Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 I was almost 19. Been together 6 years, married for 4. Still together!
CarrieT Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 Holy crap ... talk about extremes. o.0 PS: How old is your present ? He is 51 and I am 48. I am confident we will be married - we are just taking it very slowly which is fine. We both have had extensive therapy about "issues" and can talk openly and frankly about every subject. He knows about my extensive, jaded past and has no jealousy issues about my experiences. 2
jphcbpa Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 He is 51 and I am 48. I am confident we will be married - we are just taking it very slowly which is fine. We both have had extensive therapy about "issues" and can talk openly and frankly about every subject. He knows about my extensive, jaded past and has no jealousy issues about my experiences. good for you for the work you have done. it is paying off.
Forever Learning Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 (edited) Lost my virginity at 15. I was ready at that time. It was the right time for me. Had a boatload of boyfriends in high school and college. Had a blast! No regrets. My best friend in college ran off with a rock star. I was so jealous. She lived at his mansion for quite some time. She eventually left him. But, I dated a few musicians as well. They were usually only semi-famous at a local level, although one boyfriend did tour in a major rock band. Good times. Lots of fun! So, then I was in a 7 year relationship from age 20 - 26. He was roughly the same age. We were engaged, never married (well, Common Law married, according to Texas law). We would get a little bored, break up and would date other people, then get back together. We both had a blast living that way, both together and apart. We were best friends and lovers, and just enjoyed life together. We are still great friends today, but have no plans of being together again. ************************************* Then at age 27 decided it was time to settle down (with a new guy, he was roughly my age). Spent 16 years with him - turns out he is a Narcissistic Psychopath, alcoholic, and drug addict. Didn't know and couldn't understand at the time what I was dealing with a Cluster B Personality Disordered Person. Went through alot of hell with him. ALOT OF HELL. Married him at year 8 of the 16 years (that would put me at age 34 when I got officially married - was considered 'Common Law Married' here in Texas up to that point, before we actually had a marriage ceremony). Had kids with him. Bad idea having kids with a mentally ill alcoholic drug addict. Love the kids, best thing that ever happened to me, are my kids. Just picked the wrong man to have kids with though. I had kids at age 34 and 38. I am 42 now. Still paying for that one long term, in raising kids joint custody with him. Divorced last year ( I was aged 41). He's got a new girlfriend now and I am so thankful because it helps keep him semi-stable mentally and gets his focus off me. I do feel sorry for her though, she has no idea what she has gotten into with him. But, he is a first rate charmer, and she just wouldn't believe me, even if I told her. Sadly, she will have to discover who he is, on her own. But believe it or not, so far, so good, having joint custody with him. Fingers crossed. I tread lightly at all times with this Narcissist Psychopath, and I choose my battles very wisely with him. Life is A MILLION TIMES BETTER now that he has moved out, we are divorced, and I am FREE OF HIM. Ah well, live and learn. And I have learned alot! But, I have a long way to go as well. Having a BLAST living single, and have NO PLANS to get married ANYTIME soon! Want to be sure, I have myself well figured out, before I embark on a path of marriage or even a long term relationship again. But I am growing and evolving every day, and life is very, very good. Cheers! Edited May 2, 2012 by Forever Learning 1
Eve Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 Married at 27 and it is coming up to being 13 years of marriage, 14 years together. Don't count the other relationships at all.. Take care, Eve x
quankanne Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 met him when I was 22, married him when I was 26 still with him, will be celebrating our 20th wedding anniversary next month! :love:
Danie Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 Met him when I was 21, married him when I was 31, going on nearly 20 yrs. He is my only long term relationship. 1
quankanne Posted May 3, 2012 Posted May 3, 2012 holy cow ... hadn't realized it, but DH is the only guy I've seen/been with for more than a year, average relationship lasted about 4-6 months! I guess that in itself says something about him being a keeper
Orianne Posted May 3, 2012 Posted May 3, 2012 Got married at 24. Started dating in summer 2009--we were best friends for almost a year before then. Been married just over a year.
giotto Posted May 3, 2012 Posted May 3, 2012 met at 22 (both of us), married at 27 and still together (just about... ) after 26 years (overall)... you do the math to work out how old we are...
Damia Posted May 3, 2012 Posted May 3, 2012 Met at 16 (him 21) Married at 24 (him 26) separated at 42 ( him 47) his affair partner 29
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