RedRobin Posted May 3, 2012 Posted May 3, 2012 I agree with you but isn't this the same way women act when men are treated in ways that women normally are. How is this any different to how some women react when they hear about a man who has been cheated on by a woman? I don't see too much empathy in many cases like that. Empathy starts with you Woggle.
joystickd Posted May 3, 2012 Posted May 3, 2012 This thread has been very enlightening... but not for the reasons the OP intended. I used to think it was only fair for women to try to approach men. I used to think that most fair-minded people (especially the guys) would cut the woman a little slack for doing it a bit awkwardly. What I see now is that you guys that complain about women not approaching is mostly BS. What you want is a woman who will be a punching bag for all of the women who rejected you in the past. If a woman approaches you, then she is fair game to take it on the chin for every woman who might not have treated you so nicely. I can take this two ways: a) stop approaching men, for fear of getting treated like you've been treated. b) step up my approaching men. It is a great test of your character to see how you respond. There are some in both genders that treat the opposite sex like a punching bag. I look at this thread and there it too much read into it. I simple she really liked the guy and failed to catch the red flags that he wasn't interested. It happens to both genders but don't use it as an excuse to say "oh I won't do this because this will happen". 1
bac Posted May 3, 2012 Posted May 3, 2012 I have a male collegue who is sort of a "playa". He brags that he has slept with 300 women. He is obsessed with his looks and really arrogant. To his credit, he is honest that he is after sex and if you are not dating him, he is a fairly decent guy. He sometiemes shows me message exhanges between him and girls that try to hit on him... (yes, girls hit on him everywhere and all the time, I witness it daily). I don't object to this because I learn a lot on how NOT to act. This went down over FB; (he and girl met in a foregein language class and they never dated or hang out): ---------------------- Girl: Hey, I happen to have two tickets to a ...... show this Saturday, would you like to join me? Him (2 days later): Sorry, I already made plans. Girl: Are you sure? Let me know ifr you change your mind Him: OK, will do! Girl (2 days later): Have you changed your mind? (he doesn't reply).... Girl (a week later): Hey! I am a bit of a music nut and I have two tickets for next Sat, want to join? Oh I have the funniest story...(she goes on to write an essay about how she hit her head).. finishes with this: I would really like to see you xxxx (he doesn't reply)... Girl (few days later): Hey again, I am sorry if my messages were inappropriate. I don't like you like that and I was just trying to be friendly. I hope I didn't creep you out. If you want to hang out sometimes let me know xxxx :sick: I kind of cringed for her. IMO She is supercool. She behaves as a man who is a player and she is fine with rejection. Finally, she will find a great guy. But, the girls who are waitng for men to contact them have no choice except the loosers who contact them.
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