Bob_Funk Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 I was on a date recently with a really homely girl (no jaw, long overprojected midface, negative canthal tilt). Here's the thing: I would've killed to be with her in any context! That's right. As long as a girl's under 30 and has a healthy bmi, I'm all hers. Being ripped and decent looking myself, I think those are pretty reasonable standards. Anyway, we seemed to really hit it off and even agreed to go see a movie next time. But when I texted her after the date, the only response I got was, "Sorry, this isn't going to work." I can't say I was surprised. I've been going hard at this for about six or seven years, and not counting the fatties, I've only had sex twice. Are slender girls unattainable for all but the very best looking and most popular guys?
irin Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 maybe she sensed how shallow you are. im thin and i wouldnt go out with a guy that thinks like this "(no jaw, long overprojected midface, negative canthal tilt)" 7
phineas Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 maybe she sensed how shallow you are. im thin and i wouldnt go out with a guy that thinks like this "(no jaw, long overprojected midface, negative canthal tilt)" I don't even know what that means. 2
FitChick Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 "(no jaw, long overprojected midface, negative canthal tilt)" Who would look like that? Carol Burnett? I'm not sure what kind of face you are describing.
DuchessKaye Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 a really homely girl (no jaw, long overprojected midface, negative canthal tilt) I don't even know what that means. Mee too, damnnnnnnnn...
Anela Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 I don't even know what that means. Neither do I I'm assuming it's safe to google, so off I go...
Author Bob_Funk Posted May 2, 2012 Author Posted May 2, 2012 maybe she sensed how shallow you are. im thin and i wouldnt go out with a guy that thinks like this "(no jaw, long overprojected midface, negative canthal tilt)" Nope. You're picturing me sitting there, slump shouldered and arms crossed, looking around at all the hotter girls. Quite the opposite. I was very engaged. And without having to force it, since I genuinely found her attractive.
Author Bob_Funk Posted May 2, 2012 Author Posted May 2, 2012 (edited) Who would look like that? Carol Burnett? I'm not sure what kind of face you are describing. Something like that, if Carol Burnett had no lower jaw to speak of. Anyway, you guys are totally missing the point. Edited May 2, 2012 by Bob_Funk
ascendotum Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 Sarah Jessica Parker? Are you describing a horseface? I'm thinking along those realms. Lots of guys I know say SJP is ugly, and sometimes I thought she is not at all pretty, but other times I do. The reality is though, she's might not be beautiful, but she's feminine and slender and a single women like that who's in her 30s in the overweight west, would have heaps of guys expressing interest, because they want a slender build woman. As much as another poster described the OP as shallow for wanting a particular slender build woman despite her looks, so many of the slender/petite women I know late 20s up are going for height, muscles, money. They think they're a catch (even if they are very ordinary in all other aspects), and well if you have lots of interest from the opposite sex, then you kind of are by that definition, a catch. 1
SmileFace Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 Negative canthal tilt The medial canthus is the inner corner of the eye, formed by the junction of the upper and lower eyelids. A negative tilt is usually the opposite where your eyes droop/sag at the outer corners instead of the inner. Which I know guys and girls in where this has look very attractive. Think puppy dog eyes.
Feelsgoodman Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 I don't even know what that means. I believe he is talking about something that is known colloquially as a 'rat face'.
mostlyclueless Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 "not counting the fatties"? Gee, I wonder why women aren't interested in you. It's such a mystery! 6
Feelin Frisky Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 ... Anyway, you guys are totally missing the point. No, Irin made the point and we're being nice not repeating it. 2
FitChick Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 Negative canthal tilt The medial canthus is the inner corner of the eye, formed by the junction of the upper and lower eyelids. A negative tilt is usually the opposite where your eyes droop/sag at the outer corners instead of the inner. Which I know guys and girls in where this has look very attractive. Think puppy dog eyes. Paul McCartney has eyes like that.
jobaba Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 I was on a date recently with a really homely girl (no jaw, long overprojected midface, negative canthal tilt). Here's the thing: I would've killed to be with her in any context! That's right. As long as a girl's under 30 and has a healthy bmi, I'm all hers. Being ripped and decent looking myself, I think those are pretty reasonable standards. Anyway, we seemed to really hit it off and even agreed to go see a movie next time. But when I texted her after the date, the only response I got was, "Sorry, this isn't going to work." I can't say I was surprised. I've been going hard at this for about six or seven years, and not counting the fatties, I've only had sex twice. Are slender girls unattainable for all but the very best looking and most popular guys? This is SO ironic to me. I'm probably the ONE guy on LS who would date an overweight woman and be perfectly happy with her yet all my GFs have been average build or slender.
JesseJames Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 First of all, let's take a look at you. I wanna see a pic. Secondly, try foreign lands that do not have a major obesity Crisis. It's beyond silly to say a person is shallow... they want a certain look--it's the heart of sexual selection. These people that say "shallow" are actually the shallow ones... basically they create some abstract concept like this to simplify matters for themselves and attempt to influence others in a non-specific and negative way. It's about as ridiculous as saying nice, or good, or some other crazy duality. Ignore. Obesity is often a lifestyle, and this lifestyle to many numerous men is far from attractive. Thirdly, make sure one has swagger and is confident in that Women's perceptions are perceiving one as one that fits well with a thin girl. I'm 6'0 and I've never weighed more than 135 lbs. I'm in the worst place in the world to meet normal, thin girls here in WI. I'm a little bit of a freak-in-the-face, but I'm still GL. I find that only the thin, GL ones will ever take any notice of me and the ones that have weight on them will be sure to not be on the same side of the place as me. The general consensus is that I don't belong with a thick girl... their perceptions. Have a mindset of changing everything about you that might speak "I'm supposed to be with a thick/ugly chick" and you should be able to do better. 2
JesseJames Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 I use it for good luck or good-looking. And I am, because grandmother and my 11 friend said so.
dasein Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 OP have you tried going to eating disorder support groups? 1
dasein Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 Wanted to clarify that the above post was not serious, IMO it's not a good idea to meet at support groups or date women with active disorders, especially bulimia.
zengirl Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 maybe she sensed how shallow you are. im thin and i wouldnt go out with a guy that thinks like this "(no jaw, long overprojected midface, negative canthal tilt)" This. It's not even just shallow -- it's nitpicky and downright mean way to think. If you would describe the woman as homely, why would she feel any connection to you? The fixation on the physical to this degree is going to lead to a lack of connection. Learning how to connect to women is probably what you're lacking; if you can get them on the date, it's not just that they don't find you attractive in any context. . . it's that you DO something unattractive on the date, probably. And that doesn't have to be something ridiculously obvious like looking around at hotter girls --- it can simply be creating the wrong vibe with negative thoughts like this. 2
xxoo Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 (no jaw, long overprojected midface, negative canthal tilt). Unless you are a cosmetic surgeon, why do you know these terms? Are you obsessed with cosmetic surgery or something?
RiverRunning Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 This is SO ironic to me. I'm probably the ONE guy on LS who would date an overweight woman and be perfectly happy with her yet all my GFs have been average build or slender. CALL ME? I have to say, it was an eye opener when I first put up my dating profile. I hadn't even uploaded a picture when a guy started messaging me. He was -thin.- I've grown so accustomed to "fat women = die" that I was instantly reluctant to put up a picture. I probably would have straight away if he had been heavier, just because I find at least heavier folks tend to understand the whole situation. To my surprise, Mr. Thin has dated overweight girls in the past and had no issue with it. Sometimes people surprise you. I'm just as guilty of anyone else as looking at a guy and assuming his preferences. Generally, I assume most or all guys prefer thin women (and by 'prefer' thin women, I do mean they hate fat ones to boot), especially so if they're thin. That said, with my height and my build, I'm probably never going to weigh less than 150 pounds. I can't believe there are guys who call that 'fat.'
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