Woggle Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 For the most part they genuinely appreciate a gentlemen and a man who goes out of his way to treat them well. I don't know whether it is because they have outgrown the need for drama or grew up in a time when there was actually a male role model in the home but they respond very well to a man who treats them the way they say a man should treat a woman. They are great for a low drama kind of relationship. With all these posts from guys trashing mature let's talk about some positive attributes. 3
persevere Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 Positive attributes? I've found, over time, women in their mid 30's and up are usually in the "green zone". They will call you back. They will answer the phone. They are not as prone to games. They are mature enough to know that upon initial contact, they like you or not. They know what they want and they will tell you what you stuf insteads of the horrific guessing "games". They are fairly settled in their careers and have their lives in order. They stick to a plan. They help the man out and are an attribute to his life. 30-35? Yellow Zone. Transition period. Tired of games, but somehow still play them. Not much, but enough to drive you bats at times. They are getting there. Friends are mostly married. They are tired of being a bridesmaid, never a bride. OR, they are recently divorced, or well on their way. They got hitched in the "red zone", which is .... 18-30. Red Zone. Danger!! Still out clubbing, a bit less as they pass over 25 or so. However, several happy hours a week. Many dates. They cherish the bad boys. Kindness is trumped by looks. Their friends are mostly single. They go out in packs. Total loose cannons, some of them. They're on the move. They still have their looks. They still think the grass is always greener. They are immature and unsettled. Mine fields. Of course, these are generalities....But I think the norm outweighs the exceptions. 3
USMCHokie Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 Don't forget about the sexual prime! Good god, yes....:love: I would take 40+ any day... 2
persevere Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 Good god, yes....:love: I would take 40+ any day... I've been dating a few 40 somethings lately. It gives one confidence. What? ... you answered the phone.. And, you actually said YES to my date attempt. You are actually here... on time. You WANT, no INSIST on helping pay the tab and you are interested...*gulp* want me to come over for dinner next week? Contrast that with 20-30's. Wrong phone numbers. Reschedule. Make ME think all the time. Poor communication. Should I have kissed her on the first date?...Or the third? Flowers? What to do. Where to go. What do her friends think??? This sux... Thank goodness I am old enough yet still got it going on...I am definitely centering my efforts in the "green zone" late 30s and up. 1
Bob_Funk Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 I will say this. A 35 year old with a tight resistance trained body will have more pull over me than a chubby 20 year old. Unfortunately, I can't comment on what it's like to date women over 30. Haven't had any luck with them. It seems most prefer men their own age, and cougars are just as picky as young girls.
g450 Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 At the risk of being too graphic, women my age tend to be over their menstrual stage. And I dont have to worry about pregnancy for the most part. Women my age also tend to be more creative with sex. 1
quankanne Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 g450, I think it's because we've hit a point where we actually accept ourselves, flaws and all, and don't really give a shxt about all those things that once consumed us. And yeah, the sex is much better at this age because we're not having to impress anyone, just enjoy it to the hilt. That said, I'm still a bit paranoid about getting knocked up at this age, when I've never been pregnant before :p:p 40-something and LOVING it! 1
jobaba Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 There's tons of women in their 30s who still crave the bad boys and jackasses and hot guys. Hell, there's women in their 50s on LS that by their posts you couldn't tell if they were 53 or 22 years old. I do think people get more mature but at the core I think you stay the same. Meaning I think there are several non-shallow women in their 20s (though I couldn't find many during my 20s).
persevere Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 hate to burst your bubble boys, but a woman's sexual prime isn't in her teens or early 20s, it's in her 40s ... simply because she's not worried about pregnancy, she's got control of her life and has financial stability. And she's got a true, frank appreciation for sex in and of itself ... Most importantly she knows who she is. She's not overly concerned about what her friends think. She's been humbled by life. She's not as interested in proving anything to men and the power struggle has waned. She realizes that you gotta pay to play, ie. I gotta cool it a bit and don't have time for bee ess. I really am NOT "all that", but I am confident. She knows she can't have a shield and a sword up against men when they approach her. She knows, or should know, how to recognize a good man...and what to do when one comes along. 1
Author Woggle Posted May 2, 2012 Author Posted May 2, 2012 I also think it is a different mentality. My wife looks at some of the stuff young women do and the drama they get themselves into and just says WTF. She truly does not get it. 2
Star Gazer Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 Woggle: In starting this thread, what age range did you have in mind when referring to "older women"?
Author Woggle Posted May 2, 2012 Author Posted May 2, 2012 Woggle: In starting this thread, what age range did you have in mind when referring to "older women"? 30s and 40s. Sometimes they even mature in their late 20s. 1
Emilia Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 She knows she can't have a shield and a sword up against men when they approach her. She knows, or should know, how to recognize a good man...and what to do when one comes along. This. Having the confidence in yourself and knowing that you can deal with anything that life throws at you. I do wish I could stop ageing but I don't wish my 20s and early 30s back. Being 39 forever would work 2
Radu Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 This. Having the confidence in yourself and knowing that you can deal with anything that life throws at you. I do wish I could stop ageing but I don't wish my 20s and early 30s back. Being 39 forever would work How about having your present knowledge but the skin/body of a 30yr old ?
Radu Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 We have a saying here : Gaina batrana face supa buna ! Roughly translates as 'the old hen makes for a good soup'. 1
Lostinlife4now Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 For the most part they genuinely appreciate a gentlemen and a man who goes out of his way to treat them well. I don't know whether it is because they have outgrown the need for drama or grew up in a time when there was actually a male role model in the home but they respond very well to a man who treats them the way they say a man should treat a woman. They are great for a low drama kind of relationship. With all these posts from guys trashing mature let's talk about some positive attributes. THANK YOU WOGGLE!!!!! I am a woman over 40, and I must say NOW I have my shyte together! Would love to date a man who appreciates me for my age, experience, and oh yes...sexual prime!!!! I am never late to a date, always pick up the phone if a man calls, would love to make him dinner, and I don't mind splitting the check...hell, everybody has money problems these days....and oh yes...I can Swallow too! What more can a man ask for? How about my number? 1
RedRobin Posted May 3, 2012 Posted May 3, 2012 (edited) I really have no desire to go back to being a 20-something. All that angst and insecurity... stuck in a body that some might think looks good. But if you don't know what to do with it, what's the point. This is the same reason that 20 something men have very little appeal to me. Really. They would be like a dildo with energizer batteries and not much else to recommend them. I'm not saying this to be rude or mean. I'm saying that alot of men in their 20's don't know shyte from shinola how to please a woman. And frankly... I'm not into training. I have to believe the same is true for women. Nice wrapping but not all that together on the insides. I'm all for people learning together. Taking the walk of life together. That is how it should be. I also understand there are some men who really don't give a cr*p about what is in a woman's 'insides', or her life experiences, or anything else. They gravitate to much younger women because they (more or less) can treat them like a blow up doll. I don't understand it. Seems boring to me. But oh well. To each his/her own. Edited May 3, 2012 by RedRobin
xxoo Posted May 3, 2012 Posted May 3, 2012 I loved sex in my 20s. I just enjoy it more now. Most women do get more out of sex in their 30s/40s than 20s, no matter how great it was in their 20s. Our bodies are wonderfully complex, and it takes a while to discover all our tricks 1
Feelsgoodman Posted May 3, 2012 Posted May 3, 2012 That's not how I know Anyway, this thread is about GOOD things about older women. Do you have anything on topic to offer? As a matter of fact I do. Older women who did not spend their youth chasing bad boys, getting wasted, clubbing and collecting STDs...and who instead chose to form life-long, committed relationships from a young age are usually great people. They tend to be positive, kind and upbeat and devote their time to worthy causes such as raising children and grandchildren. Quite the contrast to the divorcee cougar types.
xxoo Posted May 3, 2012 Posted May 3, 2012 As a matter of fact I do. Older women who did not spend their youth chasing bad boys, getting wasted, clubbing and collecting STDs...and who instead chose to form life-long, committed relationships from a young age are usually great people. They tend to be positive, kind and upbeat and devote their time to worthy causes such as raising children and grandchildren. Quite the contrast to the divorcee cougar types. Well, that describes me. And, at the same time, I'm in my sexual prime! :bunny: 3
Stephanie Posted May 3, 2012 Posted May 3, 2012 Hey Folks! I just deleted 54 posts from this thread. All of those posts deviated from the intent of this thread and debated women's sexual prime, biology, rotten apples, members sex lives, etc. This is a good example of why, when someone takes a thread off topic, it is better to report that post than it is to respond. 54 off topic posts, all debating against one poster's opinion. I just so happened to have enough time to edit this thread tonight instead of shutting it down. That's not always going to happen. Please stay on topic and report posts that go awry. Thanks 2
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