Lil1 Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 OMG. This is sorta tripping me out right now!! In a couple of hours I'm going on a DATE... with a girl!! I didn't realize she liked me THAT way! It's too late to back out now. She's a friend of a friend. She went to NYC not too long ago and I connected her with some of my peeps there via FB. She wants to take me out as a thank you and to tell me all about her fun NYC trip. Our mutual friend JUST informed me that she is bi and she thinks that I'm super cute. He is good friends with her so I imagine she must of really told him this... but why would he tell ME? Unless She wanted me to know how she feels about me in a round-about way. I've hung out with this girl before and she knows I like dick very much! However I do vaguely remember saying something cheeky about liking girls a while back and she may have heard it. When I'm drunk I'm drawn to females (love how they smell and feel) but I have never taken it that far! So what do I do with this info now? Most likely ignore it right? Is this really a date?! She insists on treating me and taking me out to sushi. She's picking me up at my place too! She's a cool girl and I like her, but I KNOW i'm not into girls. Gosh, I hope I don't have to reject her tonight! Have many of you had to reject someone of your own sex before? How did you handle it?
dasein Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 I'm not someone who gets hit on by gay men lots. I'd like to think it's because I project definite "straightdar" but in actuality, it's probably that I'm not pretty enough in certain ways. In your shoes, I'd be polite, have a drink or two, then head on home. If you hang out for a long time, especially if drinking, you may find yourself having to deflect advances.
mortensorchid Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 If I were you, I would cancel on this and avoid a bad situation. You may be being friendly, but like it or not SOMEONE may get the wrong idea. Eventually you have to learn to reject same sex advances if you are not into it. 2
Author Lil1 Posted May 2, 2012 Author Posted May 2, 2012 Thanks Dasein! Luckily I've given up the booze so that will not be a problem!... We may go back to my place to smoke a doobie though! Should I nix this from tonight's plans? probably. My boyfriend in college was blatantly hit on by another man once. His face turned cherry red and it was very amusing for me! I just told him to take it as a compliment cause the guy that hit on him was super hot lol! OMG. I'm leaving now. Wish me luck!
johan Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 Just go have fun. Don't worry about it. Whatever happens happens. It won't be the end of the world. Be sure to come back and post a detailed update after the date ends. 2
Author Lil1 Posted May 2, 2012 Author Posted May 2, 2012 just saw your post morten.. it's too late to cancel and I also don't want to ASSume anything here. This may very well be a friendly thank you for hooking me up with your friends in NYC dinner. Thanks to our big mouth friend though now I have second thoughts about the nature of this dinner. Perhaps it's a combination of both? She knows I'm not into girls so I shouldn't be too worried. But she's not strictly about girls either cause she likes dudes too. Yikes! I'm overthinking this. Either way, wish me luck!
dasein Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 Vote no on the doobie unless others are around and you aren't alone with her. Imagine leaning over to get a shotgun and feeling a hand on your breast. Awkward!
Oxy Moronovich Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 (edited) Didn't I say before that 4 outta 5 women are bisexual these days? Was it dasein, jobaba, or phineas who said women use drunkeness as an excuse to get out their bisexual urges? Edited May 3, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
kaylan Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 You love dick but are attracted to females when you drink? Sounds like you are in denial about some latent homosexual feelings. I say run with it and dont deny the person you may just be.
kaylan Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 (edited) Didn't I say before that 4 outta 5 women are bisexual these days? Was it dasein, jobaba, or phineas who said women use drunkeness as an excuse to get out their bisexual urges? Thats some unproven mathematical statistics you got going on there. So this one thread proves your assertion about 80% of women correct? What about all the straight women on this site who never post about females, are you just ignoring them? Also, dudes in denial do the same things these chicks do when they say they only feel bi when drunk but "wont take it far". Dudes just keep that joint on the hush hush...aka down low...Over the years Ive heard some things about a couple of cats I used to know that made my jaw drop. The down low ish is more prevalent than people think. So id say there as many bi males as females, just we see it less. I stll wouldnt go as far to say any lgbt group outnumbers straight folks though. Any available reputable stats show this isnt the case Edited May 3, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Woggle Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 Just tell her you are straight. If she doesn't respect it then stop hanging out with her. 1
El Brujo Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 While I didn't exactly get hit on, I was in a club years ago and noticed a young good-looking guy (better looking than me, anyway) standing along one wall with his hands on his hips, looking and smiling at me in that same dreamy way a high school girl might look at her teacher if she has the hots for him. After a couple of minutes, I walked past him on my way to the men's room and whispered to him "pssst! Buddy! Tune your set" in reference to gaydar. For whatever reason, my friends found this hilarious afterward.
Feelsgoodman Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 (edited) Didn't I say before that 4 outta 5 women are bisexual these days? Was it dasein, jobaba, or phineas who said women use drunkeness as an excuse to get out their bisexual urges? LOL...I was thinking the same thing. How can she be drawn to the way females "smell and feel" not be gay/bisexual? When I get drunk certainly don't start thinking along the lines of "wow, that guy smells nice and I bet his dick feels pretty nice too" Edited May 3, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Feelsgoodman Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 Dudes just keep that joint on the hush hush...aka down low...Over the years Ive heard some things about a couple of cats I used to know that made my jaw drop. The down low ish is more prevalent than people think. So id say there as many bi males as females, just we see it less. I stll wouldnt go as far to say any lgbt group outnumbers straight folks though. Any available reputable stats show this isnt the case You are talking about African American gays specifically, right?
Author Lil1 Posted May 2, 2012 Author Posted May 2, 2012 (edited) Hey guys! I'm back from my 'date', which turned out to be perfectly innocuous:) Sushi was delicious! Dasein, we smoked a bowl instead;) She's a down to earth kindred and there are no sexual feelings / undertones. It's funny, it actually turns out that my friend the loudmouth has a thing for me! She asked me if I had seen our mutual friend lately, I replied that I haven't, and then she said "we should all hang out I know he misses you!". I was gonna let it go but my curiosity got the best of me so I asked her what she meant by that. She then proceeded to tell me that he was asking another friend about me and that he thinks I'm a really cool chick. Aaahhh. I just don't get it. So I'm not even gonna sweat it! Anyway, El Brujo, thanks so much for sharing your story! Lmao at "tune your set"! Johan, it was indeed a good time! Moronovich. You sound Moronovich. I have told you this before. Anyone else debating my sexuality, go f*ck yourselves. OK just kidding. That was a bit harsh. But I am sure of my sexuality and that is what really matters:p Gonna go enjoy a fattie w some friends now. thanks for ALL of your input everyone, really & truly! Edited May 2, 2012 by Lil1 2
Mrlonelyone Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 Could it be that they just think your a nice person to hang out with in general and not gay for you at all? This is where if you were male it would be standard to suggest that you are in fact secretly gay. Thus explaining the mildly homophobic way you have reacted to this possibility. Answer to the title question.. Just politely say you are not interested. Since most people are not gay, gay people are used to that.
Radu Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 OMG. This is sorta tripping me out right now!! In a couple of hours I'm going on a DATE... with a girl!! I didn't realize she liked me THAT way! It's too late to back out now. She's a friend of a friend. She went to NYC not too long ago and I connected her with some of my peeps there via FB. She wants to take me out as a thank you and to tell me all about her fun NYC trip. Our mutual friend JUST informed me that she is bi and she thinks that I'm super cute. He is good friends with her so I imagine she must of really told him this... but why would he tell ME? Unless She wanted me to know how she feels about me in a round-about way. I've hung out with this girl before and she knows I like dick very much! However I do vaguely remember saying something cheeky about liking girls a while back and she may have heard it. When I'm drunk I'm drawn to females (love how they smell and feel) but I have never taken it that far! So what do I do with this info now? Most likely ignore it right? Is this really a date?! She insists on treating me and taking me out to sushi. She's picking me up at my place too! She's a cool girl and I like her, but I KNOW i'm not into girls. Gosh, I hope I don't have to reject her tonight! Have many of you had to reject someone of your own sex before? How did you handle it? First of all, alcohol is a truth serum so she may be thinking that you becoming that 'friendly' with girls shows some latent gay desire you might have. Second, you could actually do the mature thing and actually tell her up front that you suspect this is a date and have decide if she wants to proceed with this or not (after you inform her you are not interested). Why the need for drama ?
quankanne Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 glad to hear the get-together was enjoyable. Better yet, it sounds like you've made a good friend, and that's never a bad thing
january2011 Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 I was honest with her. Gender doesn't come into it.
Author Lil1 Posted May 2, 2012 Author Posted May 2, 2012 Dasein, she gave my ass a good long squeeze when she said good night to me. To which I replied by gently circling my fingers around her soft supple breasts as I coyly looked into her eyes. She then drew me in towards her soft delicious lips, her hands still firmly gripping my ass. Her hot breath on my neck made my knees weak and the feel of her tongue made me quiver...:bunny: Hope that got your juices going! Radu I admit there was an element of drama in my post, but that's due to the fact that our mutual friend had placed a very big clowd of doubt regarding the nature of our meeting by implying that she was interested in me romantically. This was exacerbated by the fact that I was going out with her in a very short time and had no clue what to expect! Mr.lonelyone people DID question my sexuality. I apologize that I came off as homophobic. I assure you I'm not, but concede that it may have been an impulse reaction. Thank you for pointing this out, it's given me food for thought. I want to change this behavior in me. Our dinner was fun and I do think I've gained a friend quankanne! She's def. a cool chick and good female friends are rare gems to me! 1
quankanne Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 YEA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (did I reach my 10-character minimum? LOL)
Feelin Frisky Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 This is a real test of who you really are. If you are not bi or gay, you should either decline or call and be honest about the conversation with the intermediary and that you don't play like that. It's not right to lead someone on and then skip and/or get loaded on their dime, do something that you regret and have this person thinking things about you they shouldn't. Or, of course you could tempt fate and throw yourself all the way into it. Maybe you'll be OK with it, maybe not. I myself could not even consider it for a nanosecond. eww.
Andy_K Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 Most girls are at least a little bit bi, but prefer to ignore it for fear of being labelled.
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