Author ThaWholigan Posted May 2, 2012 Author Posted May 2, 2012 Do you think that there could be a possibility your location affects your dating life? If you can change that it would be great, move to a larger city or something and get a job there. London's as large as it gets, although I'm thinking of relocating from out of where I am. I live with mum at the moment and as much as I love her, it's not the most ideal place for me as a 23 year old, regardless of how the economy looks . That's the crux of my issue. Besides, I'm starting a business now rather than looking for work.
sweetjasmine Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 Even then, I sometimes continue to have sympathy and help, but my desire to really empathize begins to fade. I really do feel bad for people sometimes, but most of the continually knocked-down people don't seem to want to help themselves. Same, though when it gets to the point where I don't want to empathize anymore, I take it as a clear sign that whatever it is I've been writing/saying is not helping in any way. Then I try to just stop because continuing the conversation only gives people more opportunities to prove to themselves why they can't do a single thing to change their situation. The end result is they're still stuck and probably pissed off at me, and I'm pissed off at them. A waste for all involved, IMO.
somedude81 Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 The others are an enigma. They just can't flirt right, can't kiss right, misread situations, just can't get the ladies. It's depressing and comical at once. They could take every bit of advice on every forum put in the effort and they will find a way to botch it up. Are you eStalking me?
johan Posted May 3, 2012 Posted May 3, 2012 My empathy varies. I expect a lot out of men and don't respect whining. I'll feel empathy for any guy who comes on here to complain about his extended drought, but to also understand that it's his problem to solve. That's the situation we are all in at one time or another. It's not the world's fault. 2
Eddie Edirol Posted May 3, 2012 Posted May 3, 2012 Ive written countless posts of advise to dateless wonders. Not just "have confidence and the world will come to you". I mean delving into what they have done, or why they didnt do certain things, getting details into their situation and tailoring advise to that. 95% of them either ignored the advise for flame posts, or didnt want to try for risk of rejection, because they couldnt picture it working. And I told them EXACTLY what to do, they didnt even have to guess. They wouldnt do it. So I got tired of bringing the horse to water and then having them kick me for it. My empathy for dateless wonders is gone, and I have gone back to the rest of the population, and said that if they want to help themselves, they will find the way. 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted May 3, 2012 Posted May 3, 2012 I do feel for some of these guys. Some of their frustration is out of genuine anger and pain is understandable. It's when they start to act out in malicious ways, to direct their anger at the world (and mostly women); that's when I feel like my empathy runs dry. There are some less malicious ones (like somedude and ross out of better known posters) that I would like to help. If I lived closer to them, I would definitely meet up with them and take them out to see where they are going wrong. It's really hard to detect nuances of someone's behavior over the net. I think few just need a lucky break and they will come right. Most are sadly beyond help. 1
Ross MwcFan Posted May 3, 2012 Posted May 3, 2012 I do feel for some of these guys. Some of their frustration is out of genuine anger and pain is understandable. It's when they start to act out in malicious ways, to direct their anger at the world (and mostly women); that's when I feel like my empathy runs dry. There are some less malicious ones (like somedude and ross out of better known posters) that I would like to help. If I lived closer to them, I would definitely meet up with them and take them out to see where they are going wrong. It's really hard to detect nuances of someone's behavior over the net. I think few just need a lucky break and they will come right. Most are sadly beyond help. I'm not just less malicious. I'm not malicious at all.
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