Mindfr3ak Posted May 4, 2012 Posted May 4, 2012 I just think it's funny that everyone is taking this dude seriously. I'm pretty sure his next log is going to read "You just got Punk'd!" Well either he's going to do that,or he has some really,and i mean really serious issues!
Author usabreakup Posted May 4, 2012 Author Posted May 4, 2012 Hi guys, Thanks for the posts. Wow, everyone really does think I'm nuts! And it turns out, so does she. I replied to her text last night saying "Iv been going to that Pizza place for years!" She replied "Look, I want to make this clear. Your a really great guy but I don't want to have contact with you anymore. You are starting to scare me. I don't mean to sound nasty, but I feel being completely honest with you is the best thing to do in this situation. Take care of yourself" So that's it, its over. I realise now I went way way over the top. And your all right, I need to learn from my mistakes.
Philosoraptor Posted May 4, 2012 Posted May 4, 2012 It sounds like you jump in quickly based on your history. Engaged after 2 months? I'm sure you felt that one was different as well. You also seem to chase those who obviously have no interest in you. I'm with geegirl on this one, you continue to make the same mistakes instead of changing your pattern. The only constant here is you and the result seems to be the same. You really seem needy and that will push people away. I feel like your self confidence needs a bit of work as well. I'd say to take some time and polish yourself and find that happiness in being alone. Once you are confident and happy enough having no partner you will be able to radiate that confidence and find someone without scaring them away. I do commend her on the way she handled it. Instead of ripping you a new one she tried to be as respectful as she could.
flitzanu Posted May 7, 2012 Posted May 7, 2012 Thanks for the replies. I text her saying "hey, I'm having lunch at your pizza place across the street tomorrow. If I see you there don't worry, I won't try to talk to you :)" She replied "Why would you travel 10 miles just to get some pizza?" I havnt replied yet. What should I say? This is the first time iv had any proper conversation with her since we split. I want to keep it light hearted! that's not proper conversation, that's fear.
gearsofwar Posted May 7, 2012 Posted May 7, 2012 (edited) Firstly I'd say I'd be careful about the turning up at work thing, although your intentions are honourable, it probably comes across as too needy, creepy or in a more serious light could be grounds for harassment. In my honest opinion I'd focus on yourself and let things cool off a little by initiating no contact (unless she contacts you first in a positive manner). Only if that happens then proceed down the route of pretending your old friends but do not bring the breakup - you will never be able to force a reconciliation, so just present yourself as a smartly dressed, happy, smiley person and show your happy with your life cool with the breakup. Edited May 7, 2012 by gearsofwar
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