Joexfm Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 I started seeing this girl who ive been friends and have always had some kind of feelings for. We hit it off immediately but she has been frequenting trips back and forth from college so I would only go a few weeks without seeing her. Things have been going well but all of a sudden, I started feeling emotionally numb. Im guessing it's been because of the distance. I also noticed that she has been becoming a bit distant too. Ive been missing her to the point where i just feel upset when we talk and our conversations are now to a minimum, which doesnt make anything better. Im seeing her this weekend after about a month of not seeing her. How should I bring this up to her without ruining anything?
ladyabstrused Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 I just joined this forum today, so I'm sorry I couldn't say anything to contribute to your post. But did you meet her and talk to her about all those things? How did it go?
Author Joexfm Posted May 7, 2012 Author Posted May 7, 2012 Actually yes I did meet with her yesterday and things went really well. It almost felt like 1 month didn't pass and we hit things off again. I had a really good time being with her, to the point where everything I had planned to say was just forgotten. I kind of feel like just taking my time and not worrying about anything too much since things are going well. but thanks for asking and replying
ladyabstrused Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 I'm glad things went well for you Joexfm. All the best to you.
Author Joexfm Posted May 8, 2012 Author Posted May 8, 2012 Thank you very much. The only thing that worries me is how my feelings fluctuate because she is not around. There are some days where I will think about her all the time and miss her and other days where I dont really have that whole excitement thing and it worries me because I do want to see where this goes. I feel like the only time I am happy is when I am with her in person. How can I deal with these mixed feelings. They bug me so much that I just numb myself entirely.
fallenenvy Posted May 9, 2012 Posted May 9, 2012 unfortunately it seems to happen in a LDR.. or at least it did to me... i also found my bf and i fought frequently when we went extended amounts of time not seeing each other. He lived 1800 miles away and we only saw each other ever couple months... But then when we got together in person.. wow.. everything was perfect again. Why is it like this? Not sure...probably a mix of a lot of reasons.... as for how to deal with it.. well.. best you can do is try to hold onto how much you care for her and what it will be like when you see each other again.. I never did really get over it... we ended up moving together.. but heck that was a whole another set of adjustments lol Good luck to you.
ladyabstrused Posted May 9, 2012 Posted May 9, 2012 Thank you very much. The only thing that worries me is how my feelings fluctuate because she is not around. There are some days where I will think about her all the time and miss her and other days where I dont really have that whole excitement thing and it worries me because I do want to see where this goes. I feel like the only time I am happy is when I am with her in person. How can I deal with these mixed feelings. They bug me so much that I just numb myself entirely. Well Joexfm, I think there are people out there who go through the same thing you do. Even I do too. I think there are those of us who do not devote every waking minute wanting to be with our SO. I don't think everyone loves the same way. But I know there are some who would disagree with my point here.
Author Joexfm Posted May 13, 2012 Author Posted May 13, 2012 Now there is a bit of another problem. After our date over that weekend, she had become a little distant and our conversations are either at a minimum or not happening at all. I attribute it to her finals and graduation activities but I almost feel forgotten when she doesn't talk to me at all. Should I just give her the benefit of the doubt and just go along with it until she's completely done with school or bring it up?
ladyabstrused Posted May 15, 2012 Posted May 15, 2012 She's having her finals now? Why don't you have a talk with her and bring it up after she's done with her finals?
Author Joexfm Posted May 15, 2012 Author Posted May 15, 2012 Finals and now graduation activities so communication is very rare
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