Meeting an alpha female (reference to dsw's thread...)

[RedRobin]

To treat a woman like some helpless thing who is supposed to sit in a corner and bat her eyelashes is also disrespectful.

 

It is one main reason why men who approach me 'strongly' get nowhere too. In the past, I've had relationships with those kind of men. They turn out to have poor character themselves. A couple of them have kept pursuing me after they 'caught' their weak wife who lets him cheat on her. So, when it happens now, I don't respond.

 

I'm not some weakling who wants or needs to be scooped up by a man. So, now I make sure I take a bigger role in who 'picks' me.

[Pierre]

 

It is one main reason why men who approach me 'strongly' get nowhere too.

 

For the same reason I am turned off by women that chase men in a very strong manner. I think it is not good form for both men and women.

 

The art of seduction is subtle and yet much more effective.

 

Being so straight forward is unromantic. I know men that hit strongly on 100 women in a row and generally one or two fall for the advances. It is very much like telemarketing! Keep doing it until one says yes.

[RedRobin]

For the same reason I am turned off by women that chase men in a very strong manner. I think it is not good form for both men and women.

 

The art of seduction is subtle and yet much more effective.

 

Being so straight forward is unromantic. I know men that hit strongly on 100 women in a row and generally one or two fall for the advances. It is very much like telemarketing! Keep doing it until one says yes.

 

I understand there is a bit of a dance.

 

TBH, I've gone after a couple of men rather 'strongly' just to get them to put up or shut up.... because their initial approaches felt more like attention whoring on their part.

 

So, when I feel my level of interest tapering off, I'll just ask them out. Usually that cuts things short. It certainly ends the attention whoring on their part. I refuse to be part of any man's 'harem' or trail of followers.

 

Problem is, the solution is somewhere in the middle... at least for me. I'm not the kind to be passive. I'll probably post a new thread to get some input. I had a very nice exchange this morning that may be closer to hitting the right balance.

 

Thanks for the input.

[Pierre]

I understand there is a bit of a dance.

 

TBH, I've gone after a couple of men rather 'strongly' just to get them to put up or shut up.... because their initial approaches felt more like attention whoring on their part.

 

So, when I feel my level of interest tapering off, I'll just ask them out. Usually that cuts things short. It certainly ends the attention whoring on their part. I refuse to be part of any man's 'harem' or trail of followers.

 

Problem is, the solution is somewhere in the middle... at least for me. I'm not the kind to be passive. I'll probably post a new thread to get some input. I had a very nice exchange this morning that may be closer to hitting the right balance.

 

Thanks for the input.

I will admit that a shy man needs a very strong signal from a woman.

 

It is also advantageous for a woman to have a LTR with a shy man because he will not become a womanizer and will be faithful.

 

Nevertheless woman have a lot of power and flirtation works quite well when done in context.

[Imajerk17]

Well, sometimes you get caught up in someone's enthusiasm and it doesn't work. At other times it does. Chemistry is a funny thing. Will you have one more date with her at least?

 

Yes I will. She is also sweet and funny. I love girls with a big heart and maybe that's her.

[Imajerk17]

Haters gon' hate.

 

Especially haters who adhere to archaic gender roles and stereotypes.

Eh sometimes theres no spark. It is what it is. Maybe give it time?

 

Im surprised you guys were already hand holding and snuggling already.

 

I tend to push the physical really fast. Maybe too fast...