SilverBlueAndGold Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 Some of you may have been following my disasterous breakup about 6 weeks ago (getting harrased and badgered by ex that finally culminated in a restraining order) and I have been poking around on POF. Had a couple of dates that were ok, nothing to scream about but not horrible either. Well last nights date was fantastic; not only did she look a LOT better in person than her pictures we had so much in common we practically finished each others sentences. Chemistry was off the charts, while we were still finishing up our drinks she made it clear she wants to see me again and the cozy hug by her car was another good sign. Well that and "Lets do this again soon". Sooooo....I just started dating again and am a little leary of getting bowled over right out of the gate, I want to meet and date a lot but she really made an impact on me. Don't want to come on too strong but don't want her to think I am not interested either....geez I suck at this Any tips on how to follow up? We talked about seeing each other again soon but have not solidified anything....that ball is in my court right now.
Andy_K Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 Just ask her out again. By phone or text or whatever means of communication you've already been using. "Hey, I'm free on x and y, if either of those are good for you, how about we go do z?" It sounds like she's pretty keen, so as long as you can ask her out without confessing your undying love, you'll do fine. Good luck!
Author SilverBlueAndGold Posted May 1, 2012 Author Posted May 1, 2012 Just ask her out again. By phone or text or whatever means of communication you've already been using. "Hey, I'm free on x and y, if either of those are good for you, how about we go do z?" It sounds like she's pretty keen, so as long as you can ask her out without confessing your undying love, you'll do fine. Good luck! Thanks, I will try not to propose to her before our third date! So far been talking about music and going really well. 1
Oxy Moronovich Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 You should also kiss her passionately on this second date.
Author SilverBlueAndGold Posted May 2, 2012 Author Posted May 2, 2012 You should also kiss her passionately on this second date. I would love too, believe me Going to play it by ear...
Ninjainpajamas Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 (edited) Imo your biggest concern should be rushing into too fast with someone not screwing it up, things will fall into place, no reason for paranoid/preemptive acts. I don't know how long this last relationship was but it seems to have been pretty intense, so your head right not is going to be off point, and your emotions...anything that you feel is spectacular that comes along you're going to want to feel head over heels for. This is usually a reaction out of depressing/draining experience, this is how you become rebound guy/girl because your better judgment is low but your emotional receptors are high. Anyway, I don't know your past but this is the vibe you're giving off to me. So just try and slow it down tiger and make sure you really like the girl or you'll just go intensely into this then start backpedaling once you realize this is for real or on other foot you'll make too much head way too fast with this girl and burn it out too fast without really knowing the person. Try to cool down, take a walk, go skinny dipping in ocean or something, let your sense relax a little bit and use your head a bit more to pace the relationship because you might want to dive right in....steady as she goes, you don't want to kill the horse pulling the carriage by overworking it too fast early on. Edited May 2, 2012 by Ninjainpajamas
Author SilverBlueAndGold Posted May 3, 2012 Author Posted May 3, 2012 Imo your biggest concern should be rushing into too fast with someone not screwing it up, things will fall into place, no reason for paranoid/preemptive acts. I don't know how long this last relationship was but it seems to have been pretty intense, so your head right not is going to be off point, and your emotions...anything that you feel is spectacular that comes along you're going to want to feel head over heels for. This is usually a reaction out of depressing/draining experience, this is how you become rebound guy/girl because your better judgment is low but your emotional receptors are high. Anyway, I don't know your past but this is the vibe you're giving off to me. So just try and slow it down tiger and make sure you really like the girl or you'll just go intensely into this then start backpedaling once you realize this is for real or on other foot you'll make too much head way too fast with this girl and burn it out too fast without really knowing the person. Try to cool down, take a walk, go skinny dipping in ocean or something, let your sense relax a little bit and use your head a bit more to pace the relationship because you might want to dive right in....steady as she goes, you don't want to kill the horse pulling the carriage by overworking it too fast early on. You are right about so many things, my previous relationship was very intense and I am probably over reacting to a lot of things. Thanks for your insight, it means a lot to me! By the way we have plans to see each other again this weekend for a daytime date
Author SilverBlueAndGold Posted May 7, 2012 Author Posted May 7, 2012 Well I didnt blow it. Had a great second date and went in for the kiss. She didn't stop me In fact she told me later she liked my boldness. Go me Seeing her again this week.
thatone Posted May 7, 2012 Posted May 7, 2012 there are very few things that can go wrong from being too bold. there is a laundry list of things that can go wrong from being too shy. why so many men fail to grasp that is beyond me but it's really that simple.
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