macardent Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 So my friends saw her at a club dancing with 5 different guys. Making out with 1 she was with him all night long. Making out and all freakking took pictures too. I was crushed when I heard it. So I called her she said I don't have time to deal with your bull **** and hungup. Said my mom is sleeping in my room I can't talk on the phone. So I texted her that I know what happened and what she did. She was all in denial about it and said I don't know what u are talking about. Making false assumptions. Well over the texts I called her a whore again and said thank you so much for leaving me. We had a long back to back insulting texts. And we just stopped at a point well she stopped replying and shut off her phone. So the next day I got it confirmed that she was indeed doing that so I tried to call her again but her phone was shut off. So I drove to her work. I went inside she was with her colleagues. And started saying like please leave I can actually call the security on you. I said respectfully can I please just talk? Whens ur break? I'll wait. She said this guys name and said can u please call the security.I lost it and said it in front of her colleagues. U danced with 4 guys and made out with one u are that much of a whore! I'll send the pictures to ur dad. She started laughing at me. And saying omg he is threatening me. And I called her later and asked if I could just talk to her for a minute. I went in and she admitted that yeah well I am single was having my time. I am single! She kept laughing at my face. I was shaking with anger. I was red! I kept saying **** back to her. She is like ohh I am hot! I am like no mam u are fat! Her managers got involved and asked me to leave I asked the manager if I could just talk to her for 2 minutes. This is the girl I once wanted to marry. She was laughing at me. I was so hurt. I almost got teary eyes. I made a fool of my self everyvody was watching and she was laughing at my face. And said that she'd call the police on me, and that she will get a restraining order or something. I do not really seek revenge but I don't know what to do about this I can't function. I just want my manhood and self respect back! And I want her to see me being happy without her, and that she not in my life was the best thing that ever happened to me. I still love this girl but part of me hates what she is doing to me.
wilsonx Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 so when are you going to go NC? How many threads do I have to point this out to you, you are only hurting yourself. While I empathized with you last thread this one... 100% your fault. Stop chasing the clown.
Author macardent Posted May 1, 2012 Author Posted May 1, 2012 so when are you going to go NC? How many threads do I have to point this out to you, you are only hurting yourself. While I empathized with you last thread this one... 100% your fault. Stop chasing the clown. I know man 100 percent my fault! I was NC until I heard the ****ing news looks like she is doing this to hurt my ego. Is there anyway to get back at her? Not now maybe 2 3 months from now?
CC12 Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 part of me hates what she is doing to me. You're doing this to yourself. I don't say this to insult you, but you've got to get a hold of yourself. Showing up to where she works, calling her names, and threatening her is beyond inappropriate. You've got to stop this before you get into legal trouble. Ask your friends to stop updating you on what she's doing. Delete her phone number, email address, and any other way you have of contacting her. Get your manhood and self respect back by cutting her out of your life and moving on. Is there anyway to get back at her? Not now maybe 2 3 months from now? No. Stop. Don't be a baby about this. 1
Author macardent Posted May 1, 2012 Author Posted May 1, 2012 You're doing this to yourself. I don't say this to insult you, but you've got to get a hold of yourself. Showing up to where she works, calling her names, and threatening her is beyond inappropriate. You've got to stop this before you get into legal trouble. Ask your friends to stop updating you on what she's doing. Delete her phone number, email address, and any other way you have of contacting her. Get your manhood and self respect back by cutting her out of your life and moving on. No. Stop. Don't be a baby about this. Oki guys thanks for the advices. She is out having fun. I go beg her and **** and give her ego boost. I am bringing this on to myself! Its all me! If I don't give a ****. And stop this nonesense I will be happier. And find myself again. She kept calling me an *******. I left her a voicemail 4 hrs ago saying thanks u broke an *******s heart! Congratulations. That's it no matter how ****ing pissed I am! I will not contact her!! I will call someone else instead... Guys any advices how to boost my self esteem up again? And how to look good in front of my friends again?
getsback Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 Ok, iv read through your posts. And this whole thing sounds so crazy I'm not sure if you are a troll or not. But I'm going to assume you are being serious and this whole thing isn't a joke. You need to grow up man. Relationships arnt about whether you are better looking then her previous guys etc. Women know when a guy is right for her or not, and you just arnt. That's life, you are going to have to deal with that and accept it. And in an adult way. Let me be clear about this. This girl isn't going to be the girl you marry. Period. Infact, this girl is never going to want to spend another minute with you again after the way you have acted. And its all your fault. You can't react in the way you have. Everyone has the right to decide who they want to spend their time with. If she dosnt want to see you, that's her choice. You can't go swearing at her or turning up at her work to say nasty things to her. Just leave the poor women alone before she calls the cops. Listen man, I know its not easy letting go of someone you love, but it happens to everyone. Even Brad Pitt has been dumped at some point! The best thing you can do, is get off this forum and go out to live your life. There is ALWAYS another women around the corner. Someone that you have a chance to have a fresh start with. Someone who you have a chance to be a better person with. Learn from the mistakes you have made this time and turn them into a positive with a new women. If you think you have bi-polar, get help man. Not from us on these boards, but professional, medical help. Because at the moment you just sound like an ass. 1
geegirl Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 Oki guys thanks for the advices. She is out having fun. I go beg her and **** and give her ego boost. I am bringing this on to myself! Its all me! If I don't give a ****. And stop this nonesense I will be happier. And find myself again. She kept calling me an *******. I left her a voicemail 4 hrs ago saying thanks u broke an *******s heart! Congratulations. That's it no matter how ****ing pissed I am! I will not contact her!! I will call someone else instead... Guys any advices how to boost my self esteem up again? And how to look good in front of my friends again? You've crossed so many lines with your behavior. In any case what's done is done. Please understand that while you are coming from a painful place, she does not care about how you feel. You keep trying to get some sort of reaction from her to soothe your pain. Some sort of validation. Some sort of acknowledgment from her that she understands and feels your pain. You're trying to draw blood from stone. She's not going to give it to you. You can call her every name you want to. You can attack her with all sorts of accusations. You can try to wring her dry so that you get some sort of consolation for what you feel. At the end of the day, you will get nothing. Nothing. What you can get, and that is if you stop this madness is to accept that it is over and that she has moved on and no amount of harrasing will change that. It's done. It's over. Time to lick your wounds and try to heal from this. I know it is painful but we've all been there before and you will get through this. But you have to be able to control your reactions and not give in to every freak out. Freaking out has not benefitted you in any way. So, try something different. Get control of yourself. Tell your friends to stop feeding you information and if they cared for you, they would be shutting their mouths. Ask them to respect your decision and that it's vital to your healing and moving on. If you want your life to change, your choices have to change. Anything other, keeps you exactly where you are. And quit with the vengeful thoughts. You are better than that.
fucpcg Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 You are asking all the wrong questions. Your ego boost, her ego boost, looking good in front of friends, and your handling of the breakup is not at all look favorably upon yourself. Even if she screwed you (not saying that she did), a good man would walk away, a man on her same level would respond as equally to her response. You need to be worried about maturing my man, not be worried about looking good in front of your friends and boosting your ego. 1
Author macardent Posted May 1, 2012 Author Posted May 1, 2012 so when are you going to go NC? How many threads do I have to point this out to you, you are only hurting yourself. While I empathized with you last thread this one... 100% your fault. Stop chasing the clown. Mannn u were freakkin right.. That guy in the club who she was making out with was her ex bf.. Not too sure though, but they describe him exactly like that.. I am totally over this girl now.. I left her a text saying that was inapropriateof me showing up at ur work like that. I feel guilty about calling u names. And i wont contact u ever again. So i can show it to the police if she seeks revenge. But thanks guys.. I really need to mature up.. And handle this thing as an adult. And when she brokeup i never called or texted her. Two days later she called and sonded so happy and told me i say **** like a girl would.. She was somewhat makng fun of me. I wouldve never contacted her. I left with respect. But i messedup in the end.. But now i know what to do with these kinda situations...
getsback Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 Sorry....did you just say you sent her ANOTHER text? Now I know this is a wind up
Author macardent Posted May 1, 2012 Author Posted May 1, 2012 Sorry....did you just say you sent her ANOTHER text? Now I know this is a wind up That was the last text. Me saying sorry and telling her I wont contact again. Just in case the police shows up at my door and press charges against me. I can show it to them and say Hey!! I apologized and said I'd stop. Since tbh, part of me feels bad about calling her names. And part of me hates her.
getsback Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 Um, yeah..... I'm pretty lost for words right now. Maybe send her another text saying you have taken on the form of a Unicorn and you want her to ride you to the moon. This whole story is beyond crazy. 1
stillafool Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 I don't know your full story with this girl but if I were her I would never, ever speak to you again. I think you can chalk this one up to a lesson. She is gone and gone forever. If you two were broken up she has every right to date, love and **** whoever she pleases.
CCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCCC Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 I agree with the posts above. Best thing you can do is tell your close friends and family not to let you know what's going on in her life or what she does. That's the first thing I texted my friends/fam after my break up. It'll help you stay NC.
Author macardent Posted May 1, 2012 Author Posted May 1, 2012 Um, yeah..... I'm pretty lost for words right now. Maybe send her another text saying you have taken on the form of a Unicorn and you want her to ride you to the moon. This whole story is beyond crazy. This is crazy ****!!! No no never. Rightt!! She doesnt give a ****! Why would i humiliate myself again?? No seriously!! I am done done done chasing the clown!
Melbufama Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 (edited) Also you probably made her out to be more then she was. Don't put all your eggs in the whore baskets thats what im saying. Edited May 2, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator civility & respect
ThatDudeXO Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 Dude leave it. It's over. Accept that and stop contacting her. You will regret acting on your anger in time. 2
sweetheart5381 Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 Dude leave it. It's over. Accept that and stop contacting her. You will regret acting on your anger in time. Yes... not worth the trouble. A former abusive ex acted very similarly, threatened myself and co-workers, etc... he eventually attempted my life in the end and I was done with him. Over it in a flash. This man just spent the last 2 months in jail cuz he did it to another woman and her mother called the police over it. He tapped her phone, stalked her, bothered her at work and broke into her house after she ended it with him... same story. Sad thing, he is my daughter's father. OP needs some help if he feels entitled to harass an ex-gf in such a way. Not worth the trouble at all.
wilsonx Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 Hes 22 years old fell in love for the first time, give him a break. I did way worse with the news I was given then he did. 1
Author macardent Posted May 2, 2012 Author Posted May 2, 2012 You see, it's this stupid ass sort of comment that makes women disrespect men completely. These 2 people are broken up and the OP is seriously harassing this woman - it's completely abusive and ridiculous. The OP needs to control his own behaviour, his ex is entitled to behave as she likes so long as she does not harass him. They are not obligated to another in any way now. She isn't harassing, he is. She is not a whore and we are not here to judge the story of a person that we have never heard from. There are 2 sides to every heartbreak. It's all about personal accountability and the OP does not seem to respect her decision to end the relationship and chooses to instigate and harrass. That's wrong, and it's not love. OP - Leave her alone, ffs - she is done and I'm sure there is a damn good reason for it too. She did the exact same thing to her first boyfriend. Dumped him out of nowhere and went clubbing, and her excuse was i am single i can do whatever the hell i want. He did far worse than just calling her a slut, he annonced to the whole world. 4 months later she ran back to him. She doesnt see her actions but get upset when people call her such names. Sure its her life she can do whatever she likes but that doesnt give her the right to drag another person's name with her. For the love of god she didnt even tell anybody we are not together. We have somewhat mutual friends. My friends telling me yo man ur girl was doing this in the club. The first time i tired to hold her hand she acted all classy and said that she is not that kinda girl. I liked that in a woman. So i fell for her. And then she is making out with strangers in a freaking club. And if she wants to be like that she should stay single and make out / **** with as many men as she wants. just dont hurt people over this. When i took her to a formal with me 8 ****ing people recognized grinding with her and talking **** about her. she expected me to stand up for her. I ****ing did! I picked a hoe before bros. and right when she leaves me she is doing the same exact thing again in front of the same people. The bros are like seriously???? I am not saying she is a bad person she is just a little ****ed. I literally asked her to find a nice guy and settle down because it hurts to see the person u love act like that.
Author macardent Posted May 2, 2012 Author Posted May 2, 2012 Ohh and btw, her reasons for breaking up was that i didnt standup for her. And that i didnt introduced her to my brother and his gf. I left her alone. I do not wana cause myself any pain.
olivec Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 So my friends saw her at a club dancing with 5 different guys. Making out with 1 she was with him all night long. Making out and all freakking took pictures too. I was crushed when I heard it. So I called her she said I don't have time to deal with your bull **** and hungup. Said my mom is sleeping in my room I can't talk on the phone. So I texted her that I know what happened and what she did. She was all in denial about it and said I don't know what u are talking about. Making false assumptions. Well over the texts I called her a whore again and said thank you so much for leaving me. We had a long back to back insulting texts. And we just stopped at a point well she stopped replying and shut off her phone. So the next day I got it confirmed that she was indeed doing that so I tried to call her again but her phone was shut off. So I drove to her work. I went inside she was with her colleagues. And started saying like please leave I can actually call the security on you. I said respectfully can I please just talk? Whens ur break? I'll wait. She said this guys name and said can u please call the security.I lost it and said it in front of her colleagues. U danced with 4 guys and made out with one u are that much of a whore! I'll send the pictures to ur dad. She started laughing at me. And saying omg he is threatening me. And I called her later and asked if I could just talk to her for a minute. I went in and she admitted that yeah well I am single was having my time. I am single! She kept laughing at my face. I was shaking with anger. I was red! I kept saying **** back to her. She is like ohh I am hot! I am like no mam u are fat! Her managers got involved and asked me to leave I asked the manager if I could just talk to her for 2 minutes. This is the girl I once wanted to marry. She was laughing at me. I was so hurt. I almost got teary eyes. I made a fool of my self everyvody was watching and she was laughing at my face. And said that she'd call the police on me, and that she will get a restraining order or something. I do not really seek revenge but I don't know what to do about this I can't function. I just want my manhood and self respect back! And I want her to see me being happy without her, and that she not in my life was the best thing that ever happened to me. I still love this girl but part of me hates what she is doing to me. Ok first of all sorry for your breakup. I can tell your very young so i'll give you a little slack because young love can be crazy and the breakup can be even crazier. However if you continue to act out of control like this you will never be able to cope with the breakup and heal. This type of behaviour and feelings will only get worse and before you know it you'll be overweight and depressed. while your ex is looking and feeling great. Do you really wanna keep feeling like this? Stop focusing on this girl here and now. Shes not meant for you. I know its hard especially when your young but you gotta let her go. It'll only get worse if you think you can get through to her.
sweetheart5381 Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 Ohh and btw, her reasons for breaking up was that i didnt standup for her. And that i didnt introduced her to my brother and his gf. I left her alone. I do not wana cause myself any pain. Then for your own sake, get the hell away from her. Your actions are out of control.. trust me, have been around plenty of folks that provoke, but you ultimately have the final say in your actions, not her. You have personal control to not let it get to you. It's your responsibility as a person to exercise this control, no one will do it for you. You could get in serious trouble for this stuff! If she is as bad as what you say, then why make a vain attempt at some sort of redemption that will never come? Sorry, it may be my age and experience speaking, but don't let this woman rule your behaviour and feelings - those are yours and yours alone. Own them, feel them.. but take control of them too. The high road is the only road. 1
sweetheart5381 Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 Hes 22 years old fell in love for the first time, give him a break. I did way worse with the news I was given then he did. I hate to argue, but because someone else did it, doesnt make it right. I can understand where the feeling and thought and drive to confront the ex comes from, but the bottom line is that it is terribly wrong to do. This woman may have been laughing on the outside, but likely very embarassed and scared on the inside with him showing up at her workplace saying such personal stuff in front of others. That's a serious personal violation. Angry or not, going to her work-place scaring and embarassing her in front of co-workers is not a form of love, it is cruel and uncalled for. Hate is useless emotion. No value in it - get rid of it. The best revenge truly is living well. **** the ex... not worth putting your personal integrity on the line for. 1
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