delong Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 Background: GF and I met about 3 years ago, began seriously talking 2 years ago. About a year ago we started the FWB thing. Months after made it an exclusive relationship. Things were 110% perfect. She moved away for college for a few months and then wanted to come back. I flew out, drove her back, and things were good. We weren't living together yet she would always cook, invite me to dinner and do things I wish any woman did. In exchange I was always keeping things exciting by going out, traveling etc. There was not one moment she was unhappy or so she says. Fast forward to about a month after she moved back, she began to say she was sick. Health problems, Diabetes, etc. Supposedly she says she wanted to deal with this on her own and we broke up. Right around the holidays. Towards new year she txts me asking to spend new years together that she missed me blahblahblah. My dumb *** does it we spend new years together and in exchange while we were having a few drinks with my family, I find out she's txting her Ex about hooking up. I decided to leave the next day, on new years day and she begged for a chance and that she was just testing me to see if I would read what she was typing on her phone since she was obviously next to me. So again my dumb *** tries again. My birthday passed, she forgot about it. Her birthday was a spoiled one and she got everything. So for Valentines day I get this letter about how she wants to make it work. Two days later, she gets caught with her Ex down the street some my house, yes he lives near. It was his Bday also. So when I saw her car there, then we talked, she gave me this sob story about how he was going through bad times etc. Anyways. again I let her in again. Everything had been weird since very distant, short and disrespectful. I told my self several times do I really want this? Because I love her, I stuck it through. now I got stabbed in the back. She lies and lies but upon dropping off her stuff at her house, I found out she no longer lives there, she moved. I asked her about it and of course she lied by saying she didnt move and was staying at her dads. I went NC on the 26th of this month and violated it today because I needed to make sure she got the stuff I dropped off. She hasnt answered. I need to stick it up and move on. Its just hard and wonder if this feeling down is going to last forever. She wasn't my dream woman in the end. I want to chase that dream but for some reason I'm stuck.....thinking about her and all her lies
Philosoraptor Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 It will get better when you stop worrying about her and put that focus back on yourself. Things do get easier and it does seem like you can see that your ex was no good for you. Where do you go from here? You stop making contact as it extends your own pain. You figure out what you want out of life and where you want to go next... and you go for it. Live for you and you'll find happiness in life.
Author delong Posted May 2, 2012 Author Posted May 2, 2012 Yes I don't like liars and I don't like how she acted. I just don't know why it's so hard for me to leave all this behind. I need guidance on how to forget her. I need to move on and find someone who truly appreciates love and Everything else that comes w it. I am starting nc again today. I just don't know what to do to speed up the process of feeling down. She moved out she's hiding she wants to party and do her thing. So I need to be able to worry about my future and not hers. When she needs something I hear the sob stories to try to get help. Like today was health problems again and how she can't afford to get car fixed. I work on cars myself which is why she's telling me this but not Going to offer help. I just want to get over this because I want to pursue maybe a new relationship without being on a rebound.
Philosoraptor Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 To help yourself heal you must foster your own growth. Start working on making your own dreams come true. Find a new hobby, learn a new craft, and just spend time doing things you enjoy. The more focus you put on yourself the easier it will be to move on.
Chi townD Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 Really dude? Would she be soooo understanding if she caught you alone at one of your Ex's houses? I seriously doubt it. Okay, so you asked if she received all of her things but she never responded....OH WELL!!! You'll have to assume that she did. NC from this point out dude!
geegirl Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 She treated you like crap and you wanted to make sure she got her stuff? You wanted to "make sure" not because of stuff but because you wanted to reach out. NC. Please. Even if she replies that she received it, ignore and move on. It's hopeless with these types. Nothing will change.
Author delong Posted May 4, 2012 Author Posted May 4, 2012 Yah the stuff I dropped off, i was being held accountable for. Expensive items Such as a purse she paid for that was being shipped to my house and other things. Anyway I have gone nc since 3 days ago and feel better. She did however 3days ago tried to ask if I dropped off the stuff and once I said yes on xxx date she said 3 different stories about how someone was seen taking the box and it was my fault for leaving it there haha she in a way was trying to see if I would pay her I guess for lost items. I told her too bad. Since she's a liar I'm going to think she's lying about this too. Anyways I'm much better after I realize shes not worth a dime. I would have been in a worse spot staying with her in the future. Am I healed ? Maybe not but I feel better. Been keeping busy spending time w my son and working out as much as I can. It helps relieve the thinking about her and makes me feel better. Let's just say I didn't think I was gonna feel this much better so soon. Haha thank you all. Reading this forum has definitely helped tons !!!! I'll keep you posted as stuff goes on. I do think about her here and there but when I think of all the bs it offsets it right away !!!! Thank u thank u
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