Bantong Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 Guys my name bantong and here is my story , i ve been with this gurl for almost 1 year and i love her so so so much , first of all she is beautiful n gorgeous . She hasn't got much friend as far as i know , Before i move to LA i ve been going out with her together for almost 7 month and before i start dating with her , she was with 1 guy and already with him 4 years , she is my high school girlfriend , that i used date her for 4 months and i dumped her because i want to focus with my study. And then this time i met her again and this she already with this guy for 4 years . I thought she has a wonderful life with this guy but when i said hi to her through facebook everything is changed she thing that her old memoriable love is come back when i said hi to her in her facebook and she felt really2 hpy with me and she dumped this guy because she felt she has no future with this guys the one that she already been into with till 4 years . And i told her if she really want to start this with me please settle this with that guy with understandness and i know i sound already became like a 3rd person in this situation , Then month after that she told me that she already broke up with that guy . But i felt i'm not ready to having a status : " in a relationship " with her because i felt why she's so easy broke him up after what she has been through for 4 years with this guy ? But day after day after i went togehter with her , finally the question of :" what is our status now " and i said not friend n not yet a boyfriend and she started cried and but honestly the way we treat each other already like a lover but i don't think status is really matter , but after i think again ok then i give it try to her and told her : do u wanna be my gurl ? And before we going to start our official relation , i ask can u be comitted in this relationship and please be open to me in bad time or in good time ? Please don't let myself to find find out or to caught up that you played behind my back without notice or letting me know , And u know what a month after that i got this bad feeling my little heart is not feeling safe or insecure so i decide to stop by n play in her house n i asked her phone to hand it over to me i just want to check it , her messenger were clean no weird thing , but a few second before i hand it over to her , there is 1 new msg in her phone , it said like this :" why u erased my contact in your messenger " , i was shock and this is the 1st time i caught on her that she lied to me thT she still contact with her x , she said that was her kindergarten friend , yeah rite ............. Like i believe that and i asked again who's this then she said its her x , i broke her that time , She cried like a river , n ask forgiveness she didn't want me to leave her then i forgive her and then we going out again , n this time its getting deep , my family know her family and both of them act really nice and already act like a hpy family , dinner together . N one day i got this green card and i have to move to LA n since i love her so much n i trust her with my heart , i almost propose her before i move to la , and one of my elder family told me this : don't do it , give both of u time to think clearly of this like 1 year from now both of u will be separate n this the time where both of ur loyalty will be test , and when he told me that it was a good thing for me , cause in LA my only purpose n vision is to get wealthy in finance and i will back to my origin country where i' M going to propose her but u know what 2 months when i just arrive in LA she already cheated on me with her client which she's working a personal banker , and i have to know this when i went back to jkt for 2 weeks just to spend my time with her. I found her photo with another guy and then she took a dinner at the first of our valentines day , and she went out with this guy i don't know for how long , but it really hurt so bad knowing this , n i still try to build up my self n think positive that she is doing this maybe because i was bad to her but i never cheated on her because i knew her family n they already accept me like their son n i really respect them n love them just like my dad n my own mom . N this the 2nd where she lied to me again n i have to caught her by myself again , n then u know what , she blame it on me because i was bad to her , wth ? N she told me don't expect too much from me from this relationship , n she said she cannot became my girlfriend anymore , so after i think clearly its over between me n her i went back again to LA and she ask me : u already in LA ? I said , yes why ? She told ; why u didn't told me , wth with that attitude she already treat me bad like that n she asking me that like she didnt do anything bad to me , but still i answer to her nicely But i decide it block her email , facebook everything about her i close down all of it ,but the funny thing she still want me to become her friend and i was wtf , i ask to her in my heart ; do u want to kill me softly ? If i friend with her n while i'm still in pain so much n knowing that i'm still love her so much n have to see her photo she with her that new guy , how can i handle that ? She still pissed at me because i delete her contact , i blocked her facebook and she still angry about that , Guys this is really complicated for me but honestly i feel that i'm stupid till this time i still have this thought i want to fight for her again ,or try to contact with her n even i know she didn't even said sorry to me about all the things that she has been treat to me and it turn she blame everything on me ? Please guys i'm begging for helpness and advise from u , here in LA i don't have anyone i don't have any friend or gorgeous girl that i can spend time together .
pettie Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 From what I understood, she has cheated on you already, just after 2 months since you left?? and you have to be LD for a whole year? Be honest with yourself. Do you really think you can make it? once the trust is gone, everything else is shaken. Especially in a LDR - trust is the foundation of it. I'd say you better take the opportunity of being in a new city and block her out of your life, start something new, enjoy your new job and get to meet girls there. I think she is not worth your time, but then, only you can decide.
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