Author dsw31 Posted May 1, 2012 Author Posted May 1, 2012 Gibson is right again-you don't have to try, you just are. Maybe a good reference point to ask yourself Pierre... Can you grab a girl by the hair,choke her, & f*ck her? If you don't have it in you, you're probably not Alpha. (Just self talking here..Gibson,Wilson? Is that relevant?) But the truth is, you wouldn't have to ask yourself that question if you really are Alpha.
wilsonx Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 I said earlier, we say do whats on our minds not whats on the womens minds or what we think they want us to say or do
veggirl Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 I thought I was being subtle! I wanted to tell him that all I could think about was boneing him! Hey...I already know dating him would not work because he seems very religous.I am not religious at all. Your texts were far from subtle. I think it's cool that you put yourself out there but yeah lol it was a bit over the top with the handsome x100 stuff. Cute though. Just...bold! Anyway, if he is religious do you think he is okay with NSA sex? Might not be. And since you aren't shy and that's what you want, why haven't you just asked?
Author dsw31 Posted May 1, 2012 Author Posted May 1, 2012 Your texts were far from subtle. I think it's cool that you put yourself out there but yeah lol it was a bit over the top with the handsome x100 stuff. Cute though. Just...bold! Anyway, if he is religious do you think he is okay with NSA sex? Might not be. And since you aren't shy and that's what you want, why haven't you just asked? I guess you guys took this the wrong way...I'm not looking for NSA sex either.I was thinking more of a short term bf until Wilson gets over his ex for sure.
Imajerk17 Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 (edited) I guess you guys took this the wrong way...I'm not looking for NSA sex either.I was thinking more of a short term bf until Wilson gets over his ex for sure. You're seeming all over the map here. --At the start of this thread you were into this shy guy. --Then in the middle (page 3 or so) you admitted that you were still severely hurting over your ex. --Now on page 5 and 6 you're hooking up with someone from this forum who asked for your pictures and told you, on here, to shave. (I don't know how Shy Guy would like being a temporary thing until "wilson" comes around) Now, I try not to judge. But at the same time, are you sure you are well? Your boundaries seem kind of shot. Edited May 1, 2012 by Imajerk17
ScreamingTrees Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 He just seems shy around people if they don't say hello back to him, when he waves at them. He has told me how his boss mistreated him but, instead of standing up for himself(which he has every right to do in his circumstance)he will be looking for a whole new job. His body language is just not "alpha" I know that doesn't give you much but, I KNOW he's not alpha. Since when does silence = weakness?
Author dsw31 Posted May 1, 2012 Author Posted May 1, 2012 You kind of seem all over the map here. --At the start of this thread you were into this shy guy. --Then in the middle you admitted that you were still severely hurting over your ex. --Now you're hooking up with someone from this forum who asked for your pictures and told you to shave. (I don't know how shy guy would like being a temporary thing until "wilson" comes around) Now, I try not to judge. But at the same time, are you sure you are well? I am hurt about my ex. Who wouldn't be? I lost someone that I loved but I have come to terms with the fact that it's over. I have no more hope for reconcilliation. I do still like this guy I've been wanting wilson since the first post he made, in one of my threads.
Imajerk17 Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 (edited) I am hurt about my ex. Who wouldn't be? I lost someone that I loved but I have come to terms with the fact that it's over. I have no more hope for reconcilliation. I do still like this guy I've been wanting wilson since the first post he made, in one of my threads. That's quite understandable but meanwhile, do think about how your actions would be affecting others. You can't be Shy Guy's girlfriend if you are planning on getting with another man. Edited May 1, 2012 by Imajerk17
gibson Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 Just let her have her fun. No kidding... People take themselves and dating way to seriously! Based on what I read in this forum, you would think getting a root canal is a more pleasurable experience than dating. Relax, be yourself and have fun with it. 1
Imajerk17 Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 Here's what I suggest then: ask him out. Send him a text saying something like "so when are you going to get the hint and ask me out? :)" (your smiley not mine). It will put a stop to all of your wondering. 1
M2155 Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 Here's what I suggest then: ask him out. Send him a text saying something like "so when are you going to get the hint and ask me out? :)" (your smiley not mine). It will put a stop to all of your wondering. Not bad. I might use that one day. I still am inclined to think the dude's got something going on... It's great to be excited about someone new but the wondering will drive you nuts until till you know!
Author dsw31 Posted May 2, 2012 Author Posted May 2, 2012 Not bad. I might use that one day. I still am inclined to think the dude's got something going on... It's great to be excited about someone new but the wondering will drive you nuts until till you know! Please don't take Imajerk's advice M2155! Trust me...we've both put ourselves out there enough.Now it's time for you to NOT drive yourself nuts wondering! Let it go... If he is interested, he will let you know. P.S. I'majerk- Don't go out with Alpha girl afterall.She will chew you up & spit you out.
Imajerk17 Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 Well sorry if what I wrote offended you but I feel my points were legit.
Author dsw31 Posted May 2, 2012 Author Posted May 2, 2012 Well sorry if what I wrote offended you but I feel my points were legit. I know man, I'm not offended.I'm just saying that you are way too easy to persuade.That's too easy for an alpha girl. If you do go out with her, don't let her hurt you.(just trying to look out for you)
Imajerk17 Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 Well there was nothing to persuade me of. I gave you my read on the situation. You said you still liked this guy. I actually think this guy could be good for you. So I gave you a suggestion that would either get the two of you together or would let you have your answer and move on.
RedRobin Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 Some alpha girl you are! Just ask him out. If you are bold enough to flirt like that, then be bold enough to ask him out and see where it stands. If he accepts, then he's interested. If he doesn't, then he's not. Easy sneezy. 1
wilsonx Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 Shes not attracted to him at all, shes just looking for someone to help with the loneliness. An alpha girl wants someone that will put her in her place when she misbehaves, that has a wildside of his own, that wont let her cross his boundaries, anything less is a recipe for disaster for the guy. 1
Yare Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 K...This is my chance to flirt with you...you ready? It's a good thing you're so damn attractive,when (dog's name) jumped on my car today,I didn't even notice, or care! All I kept thinking was"Wow!This guy is so attractive!"I'm not kidding you(his name) That's all I was thinking!Lol!Anyway-there was no scratch so don't even think twice & also wanted to let you know how handsome you are.Hope I'm not making you uncomfortable. This sounds sooooooooooo desperate!! 1
Michael Johnson Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 Shes not attracted to him at all, shes just looking for someone to help with the loneliness. An alpha girl wants someone that will put her in her place when she misbehaves, that has a wildside of his own, that wont let her cross his boundaries, anything less is a recipe for disaster for the guy. A real "alpha woman" is someone who knows what she wants, and doesn't use mind games to "test" the man she's with. She doesn't use other guys while pining for her "lost love."
Author dsw31 Posted May 2, 2012 Author Posted May 2, 2012 (edited) A real "alpha woman" is someone who knows what she wants, and doesn't use mind games to "test" the man she's with. She doesn't use other guys while pining for her "lost love." No...Wilson is right An Alpha woman gets what she wants but only submits to her man (as long as submitting to him still suits her) Edited May 2, 2012 by dsw31
RedRobin Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 (edited) Shes not attracted to him at all, shes just looking for someone to help with the loneliness. An alpha girl wants someone that will put her in her place when she misbehaves, that has a wildside of his own, that wont let her cross his boundaries, anything less is a recipe for disaster for the guy. or... maybe she is a bully, and trying some lame maneuvers to 'charm' her way into his life. Maybe he is wise to avoid her. He might not be so 'beta' after all, if that is the case. And regarding the last paragraph. I dunno if that is 'alpha' or not. That's more S&M. Most of the real 'alpha's' I know are not disrespectful and don't tolerate disrespect. They have a healthy sense of boundaries and are very pleasant people. None of this peacocking and showboating around. Balanced, is the word I'd use to describe a real alpha. Anyway, I don't like the term 'alpha' or 'beta'. It is way overrused... There are some that are more or less socially skilled. That is for sure. Edited May 2, 2012 by RedRobin
kaylan Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 (edited) He is single, from what he has told me. I have wondered if he might be gay (not that there's anything wrong with that) because he's just too damn cute & tidy! Lol! I freaking hate this...maybe hes just not into you in that way? Why do women always emasculate an attractive guy by calling him gay if he doesnt show obvious interest in her when she likes him? Ask yourself this question- if you have options would you be overthinking like this over one guy? Culture andethnic backgrounds aside. I don't believe a guy is ever too shy to ask out a girl. If that was the case you must be really intimidating an then that would truly make him a beta male. What? Your belief is far off the mark. Even the most confident guys can lose their tongue around a particular woman. Some people are shy, even when they really like someone, be they male or female. That doesnt make someone beta though. People need to stop with these stupid animal kingdom labels. HUMANS ARE COMPLEX, EVERYONE. Alpha, beta, omega, etc doesnt really apply to us well. Personally I wouldnt bother with a woman whod dare call me "beta" just because I didnt ask her out exactly when she wanted me to. If anything Id also find her unattractive for not being assertive enough to take what she wants. Its not always up to the man to get things going folks. Relationships are about TWO people. The things that you are doing wrong- you're giving him way too much attention than he deserves. Even your texts are ridiculous. Njever ever write so much in my text it makes you come off like you're trying hard to impress him. A guyh does notneed to be mpressed. They need a reason for why they should step up amd impress a girl. You're giving him a bone for doing nothing like rewarding a dog that has nothing except sit quietly in front of you.A guy does not need to be impressed? Get the heck out of here with this mess please. Wow some women really think that low of men huh? We arent prizes to be won too? Thank god the women I date do try to impress us guys. Men and women should seek to impress each other. The entitled attitude that guys dont need to be impressed is why many women fail at dating. You fail to impress the guys who would be good for you, and when they dont come a knockin', the guys who are trying to talk to you are the dudes who are no good for you. You are left with the guys who want to use you for a good time, or the guys who put you on a back burner.XpaperXcutsX, All very true!- Very good analogy with the dog getting praised for nothing.Impressive! But, why are you assuming I have so many options? I mean,,,I have a lot of sh*tty options! I am suuuper picky & this guy fits the bill.The fact that he's playing hard to get probably helps alot.I know I should be playing hard to get but, I guess I'm used to getting what I want. Crappy analogy. Men arent dogs and humans arent lower animals. If you like him, just casually say "hey maybe we should get a drink sometimes". Its not super forward and its to the point. Youll know exactly where you stand after that. Edited May 2, 2012 by kaylan
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