NeverDated Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 I guess I don't understand what you guys mean by "I'm too out there" or "way too much" I just complimented the guy on his looks.I thought anyone could appreciate a heartfelt compliment? Heartfelt compliment would be stating that he's handsome/attractive/hot. What you said K...This is my chance to flirt with you...you ready? It's a good thing you're so damn attractive,when (dog's name) jumped on my car today,I didn't even notice, or care! All I kept thinking was"Wow!This guy is so attractive!"I'm not kidding you(his name) That's all I was thinking!Lol!Anyway-there was no scratch so don't even think twice & also wanted to let you know how handsome you are.Hope I'm not making you uncomfortable. IMO, the next logical step is "can I unzip your fly with my teeth?". You didn't compliment him, you gushed all over him. You seem either incredibly aggressive or sadly desperate. Like others, I'm questioning the inclusion of "non-alpha" in your title. "Alpha" males can be shy and reserved, or at the very least come off that way. It seems that by pigeon-holing him as a "beta", you're setting up a pretty bad dynamic from the get go. You're being over-the-top while he sits back and follows your lead. You're prejudging him to be a total pansy who needs to be handheld through the flirting process.
Feelsgoodman Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 BTW-Pierre-I see you started a post about women asking guys out & you obviously have a problem with it,that's fine,you're entitled to your opinion. Just to let you know-just because I am a sexual person doesn't mean I do it with anything that moves.I seriously would only entertain the thought of sex with 1 guy out of a million. Pierre stated his opinion on this matter a number of times. He's the kind of guy who feels that his masculinity would be shattered if a woman asked him out. It's a peculiar view, in my opinion, so take it with a grain of salt. Most men would not feel threatened or offended by a woman asking them out.
Author dsw31 Posted May 1, 2012 Author Posted May 1, 2012 Alright UtahNiceGuy, I don't think those posts were the best advice either. The suspense is killing me... What do you say? (Since you're a nice guy)
Imajerk17 Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 Alright UtahNiceGuy, I don't think those posts were the best advice either. The suspense is killing me... What do you say? (Since you're a nice guy) Wait are you really over your breakup yet?
Pierre Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 awful advice Double awful advice with nothing to say.:laugh:
Author dsw31 Posted May 1, 2012 Author Posted May 1, 2012 Wait are you really over your breakup yet? Lol! Keeping up ay? I'm not completely over it but, I'm doing better.I don't have hope that he'll come back anymore. I don't want him back either. (I guess it's a good thing this new guy moves slow, huh?)
Imajerk17 Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 Lol! Keeping up ay? I'm not completely over it but, I'm doing better.I don't have hope that he'll come back anymore. I don't want him back either. (I guess it's a good thing this new guy moves slow, huh?) Well you know that rushing into something else too soon isn't good for anyone... 1
Author dsw31 Posted May 1, 2012 Author Posted May 1, 2012 Ok...I won't lie.... I'm not over my ex at all! Just looking for a high quality rebound.Sorry guys! These damn roller coaster of emotions again!
gibson Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 So a lot of the men on here b1tch about how a women should flirt, come on and even ask a man out... dsw31 does it, she gets attacked. Men on here also complain about women who do not offer free sex and the night of his life with no strings attached.... dsw31 does it, she gets attacked. Women here in the dating forum, can't win for losing. Fellows, your mothers didn't give you enough lap time or something. You see, I am blaming all your issues and hatred of women... on a women. Do I get a membership now? Are their meetings? I hate meetings... <shakes head> If you can't beat them, join them.... 1
wilsonx Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 listen idiot, stop playing with those losers, fly to VA and date me until i can stand your narcissistic face and slap you back to whatever state you came from oh yea pm me a pic 2
wilsonx Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 Wheres my pic its been 10+ mins, I thought you were a real woman! 1
Ross MwcFan Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 C'mon now, you're about to get a one way ticket to the seldomly heard of man friend zone. Hold SOMETHING back. At least let the guy wonder some things about you. Most people are not attracted to someone they know they have in the bag. Make it a challenge. At least this way you can see what he thinks about you. Think about if a guy was calling you sooo attractive all of the time. Will your interest level be at its highest? Think about it. In other words confuse the hell out of him and make him seriously doubt you're interested. That's probably the best way to completely turn a nice guy off and make him think that he has no chance.
Ross MwcFan Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 Ok so there's this guy I've been crushing on for a while now.I flirted with him in the past.I texted him one day "Just had to tell you that you looked so handsome today.Wait a minute...everyday!" His response was thank you! That is the sweetest thing anyone has ever said to me" Ok so I kind of took that as a rejection & wanted to leave it at that. Next day I bump into him in person & he mentions the text & again says how sweet it was. Since then,he makes a concious effort to always say hi & pulls his car over to have small talk.I really think he likes me but, I'm not 100% sure. So last week, he's walking his dog & I'm in my car. His dog wanted to jump on my car door so, I joked with him that my old car got all scratched up from some dingbat letting her dogs scratch it.I said I wanted to ring her neck.I said no one better do it to my brand new car.We laughed etc.etc.. Today... I'm in my car again & his dog actually did jump on my car! The very thing we were joking about last week. I couldn't help it! I texted him after that happened This is what I sent ... K...This is my chance to flirt with you...you ready? It's a good thing you're so damn attractive,when (dog's name) jumped on my car today,I didn't even notice, or care! All I kept thinking was"Wow!This guy is so attractive!"I'm not kidding you(his name) That's all I was thinking!Lol!Anyway-there was no scratch so don't even think twice & also wanted to let you know how handsome you are.Hope I'm not making you uncomfortable. His response... You are my sunshine on a cloudy day & today was just one of them.Thank you sweetheart! Now keep in mind,(if this makes any difference) I'm American & he just came from Russia a few years ago.He is a super nice & shy guy (not what I'm used to) I just wanted to hear other people's opinion on his response. Is he just being nice? Taking it slow? Not interested? Is that a flirt back? I don't know what to make of a guy who is not an Alpha male. What makes you so sure it was a rejection? Was it because he didn't say 'Hey I think you're hot' instead?
Ross MwcFan Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 Hey M2155, Yes-that's me! I remember your story too- so sorry that didn't work out for you!! You made me laugh out loud though, when you said you thought your guy was gay too! You are right-though I will leave it alone for a while.My darn texting fingers! They get the best of me sometimes!Too easy to spill your guys in a minute with the push of a button! I was just curious to see if you guys thought the whole "sunshine on my cloudy days" thing was a good sign? I guess I should stop being so aggressive if I'm looking for a nice guy to be my next bf? It's definatley a good sign as in it does sound like he's interested. But, it does make him sound like a total nice guy. So are non alpha males your preference? What is it that you like about them?
Ross MwcFan Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 I think it's so refreshing that dsw31 is so forward. I think it's great. Most women would dangle the carrot and play all those games. That's the normal mode of operation. Hence I find this very refreshing. The dude is not interested. Sorry. But if you have the confidence to keep up the no-game game, then by all means, please do. I'm impressed. It totally sounds like he's interested to me, but just shy.
Ross MwcFan Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 If I were a man reading this, my mental pattern would be along the lines of: K...This is my chance to flirt with you...you ready? Don't say it. Just do it. It's a good thing you're so damn attractive,when (dog's name) jumped on my car today,I didn't even notice, or care! All I kept thinking was"Wow!This guy is so attractive!" How many times are you going to tell me I'm attractive? You're making this way too easy. No one values anything easily given. I'm not kidding you(his name) That's all I was thinking!Lol!Anyway-there was no scratch so don't even think twice & also wanted to let you know how handsome you are.Hope I'm not making you uncomfortable. Still telling me how handsome I am for the 100th time? And you are not exactly making me uncomfortable, but turning me off because you're not giving me a chance to grow on you. Sounds like she'd be better off without you.
Emilia Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 Now my question is?? How do I be more subtle when flirting with a guy?I am naturally very outspoken & horny! Lol! By showing interest in him, initiating conversations without hitting on him hard and trying to learn what he is about. He isn't just a penis with a man attached to it, he is a human being. You will do yourself a favour long term as well if you treat your object of desire as a person as opposed to some robot who is supposed to jump into bed with you just because you expressed your desire. 1
Ross MwcFan Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 By showing interest in him, initiating conversations without hitting on him hard and trying to learn what he is about. He isn't just a penis with a man attached to it, he is a human being. You will do yourself a favour long term as well if you treat your object of desire as a person as opposed to some robot who is supposed to jump into bed with you just because you expressed your desire. I don't really think most guys care about that. That's more like how a woman thinks.
Emilia Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 I don't really think most guys care about that. That's more like how a woman thinks. and you know this how exactly - no disrespect
Ross MwcFan Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 and you know this how exactly - no disrespect Because I always hear women talking like that, but never men, and it just doesn't strike me of how a man would think anyway, and it's not how I think.
Emilia Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 Because I always hear women talking like that, but never men, and it just doesn't strike me of how a man would think anyway, and it's not how I think. I have dated men since I was about 17, today I'm 39. I can tell you that there are as many types of men out there as women. You must see that from the posts on this board alone. Pierre and carhill are very different from feelsgoodman, etc.
Ross MwcFan Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 I have dated men since I was about 17, today I'm 39. I can tell you that there are as many types of men out there as women. You must see that from the posts on this board alone. Pierre and carhill are very different from feelsgoodman, etc. I know there are different types of men, and not all will think in that way, but I'm pretty sure most do.
Andy_K Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 K...This is my chance to flirt with you...you ready? It's a good thing you're so damn attractive,when (dog's name) jumped on my car today,I didn't even notice, or care! All I kept thinking was"Wow!This guy is so attractive!"I'm not kidding you(his name) That's all I was thinking!Lol!Anyway-there was no scratch so don't even think twice & also wanted to let you know how handsome you are.Hope I'm not making you uncomfortable. If I got a message like that from someone I was interested in, my response would be something like "Hey, thanks. How about you come over to my place for drinks on saturday? Bring your toothbrush ;)" His response... You are my sunshine on a cloudy day & today was just one of them.Thank you sweetheart! I just wanted to hear other people's opinion on his response. Is he just being nice? Taking it slow? Not interested? Is that a flirt back? I don't know what to make of a guy who is not an Alpha male. I think his response is vomit-inducingly nice! He's either not interested and giving a 'thanks' reply, or he's very much the 'nice guy' type and doesn't really know how to respond to a woman coming on strong. In that respect, Pierre may have a point when he says you may be better off being more subtle. 1
Author dsw31 Posted May 1, 2012 Author Posted May 1, 2012 What makes you so sure it was a rejection? Was it because he didn't say 'Hey I think you're hot' instead? Pretty much, I was expecting some type of reciprocation
DarkPrince Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 I only read the 1st page of this thread, but as a russian guy I can say thats his way of flirting back, so yes he is interested in you.
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